Is my FWB wanting more than sex?

[Anonymous]

I have a guy friend who is my FWB (friend with benefit). My question is Does FWB always text or communicate to each other? like tell stuff what you're going to do like act like you care? And does he really needs to hug me kiss me cuddle me when we are together? Does you act like lovers when you go out? And I don't get him cause one time when I told him that someone is asking me out he seems to act like he's jealous and says "OK go ahead go out with him.. you might have fun with the guy" I didn't like it. We go out and eat together like what usually couples do.. Do you think there might me something more than being each others FWB?

[ilovelegs]

I'd say to remember that the first word in FWB is "Friend". So if you're friends then sure you'll text each other from time to time and care about the other one. If you like the "WB" part more with him, maybe he likes the "F" part more. So then be careful of how much kissing and cuddling you allow him to do before you lead him on. It's normal and natural for a guy to wanna feel like he's the most important guy to you in a FWB arrangement so it'd be quite normal for him to feel somewhat jealous when you tell him stuff about going out with other guys. You can do things like couples do... and like great friends do and that can include eating out. If you have no interest in becoming more than a FWB with him, then I suggest you start laying out some hints so that when you do meet a guy you like more that doesn't want you in a FWB with another guy, it won't be so hard for you two to break it off, at least for the time being. In your case, yesss there could be more than a FWB brewing in his mind because it does sound like he's jealous, but a little jealously is good so don't worry about it unless you feel it's excessive. If you're glad then keep it up like you've been. If not, then slow it down by not being so available and talk more about going out with other guys once in awhile. He actually doesn't have that many "rights" with you. Also, you might ask him why he's so concerned that another guy asked you out when you have every right to go out with him whenever you feel like it. His answer might tell you what you've been wanting to know. Good luck! .

[ArizonaRX]

Yet another example proving most people can't handle (FWB).

Here's what a FWB is supposed to be.

It's 10pm on some random night. Nothing to do, bored out of your mind. Feeling kinda horny. Hmmm, masturbate or call "brandi" for a little F-fest? Ring Ring... Hey what's up girl? Oh you are bored to? Well I got a bottle of Kettle One vodka, cranberry and pineapple juice here. Interested in coming over and having a few cocktails? HELL YEA! I'll be right over.

Brandi walks in the door, hand her a cocktail, let her finish at least one. Then attack her and have sex for a few hours. Ok, brandi, I've gotta walk up in a few hours, need to get some sleep. Yea, me too... Alright, kiss good night. That was sooo good. I agree. I'll see you again? Absolutely!

Close door get some sleep.

That's an FWB. You like them just enough to have sex with them, but not enough to hang out very long or spend too much time with them. It's all about sex. No movies, No dinner, No mall... Just sex. Fast or Slow.. But just sex. Not many can handle that type of relationship.

[esmaygd01]

Hahaha...i love this answer....because I am in a "FWB" relationship and it is the exact opposite of this...becuase of the guy. He is the one who wants to be FWB but then he is asking me to go for lunch and I sleep over like 2-3 nights a week and the other night I had cramps and he went to the store and bought me midol....i don't understand....i would prefer it was as you described so that I wasn't being lead on....

[ArizonaRX]

Esmaygd01, because one of the parties always gets more attached than the other. It never fails.

[kapoww]

Some guys are just more intimate in general, so I've found you can't really use that to see if they want more. I've had a good amount of FWB relationships, and in the majority of them, we really were FRIENDS with benefits. We would hang out like friends do, slightly more intimate, and then the sex was a little added bonus. I think the term FWB gets thrown around a lot, but to me it really is just a friend that you have sex with, so it's not like you have to just f*** & go. FWBs can sometimes be a relationship without the titles, and that's why most people can't handle them, because you have to be okay with the fact that you could just get thrown to the side when a new girl comes along. A booty call is more like someone you barely know that you just call up when you're horny to do that and nothing else, so that's why I don't think it's that weird that your FWB acts that way.

Anywayy, you said that he got somewhat jealous when you mentioned going out with that other guy. If he was interested in being more than a FWB, wouldn't he have stopped you, because he wanted you to only be with him? I'm just saying what I think based on my experiences, but you never know. I would ask him about it, but if you still want to be FWB with him, make sure you're not giving him an ultimatum, but also let him know that it's not fair for him to act "boyfriend-y" with you, since you guys are just friends with benefits.

[LuvnAMarine_09]

Babe.. that guy does not jus want to be ur friend.. its obvious from his reaction to someone else possibly being your man that he wants you for himself.. you should flat out ask him what he wants from you.. I mean many relationships these days start out the way that ya'lls is goin.. and if you don't plan on being with him or don't want to be with him in the future.. make that clear now.. bcuz guys are also startin to get psycho over girls and they flip out when they can't have what they want anymore.

But just make sure that if it is what you want that YOU REALLY WANT IT.. don't lead him on..

and if he doesn't want to be with u.. don't take it offensively.. bcuz after all.. you were jus f*** buddies.

[toulouse]

Is my FWB wanting more than sex? '

It is a pontles question ,because it is a FWB.

If you want more than ask or tell him that. but do not say does my FWB want more cause that is not what an FWBis for.

This makes it makes a & a lie.

Lots of people go into their really trying to get something else.

Cal a spade a spade &ask him how he feels about you or continue as is.

Guys & girls can act romantic & jealous around sex, the nature of any intense human experience, it does not mean w e want a relationship & it does not mean we do not.

He is still alive - no?

Go ASK HIM^

:-)

[ava1982]

I'm in a similar situation like yours. I say just go with the flow. Allow yourself to get to know him more and if you like him and feel as tho he likes you also, just go with the flow. Good luck :-)

[Anonymous]

It is possible to develop emotional attraction even if you don't want to. Funny how many people say its FWB but behave like they are a couple or as if they are in a relationship. Bit like me saying I'm not writing an answer to your question when in fact I am...bit silly huh.. some people can't form emotional bonds...