Is black really beautiful?

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Hi I am kind of new to g@g and I wanted to know what you think about this 😊

So i was sitting in class behind two boys, one was black and one was white when I overhear them talking about girls. They were laughing and listing what they find beautiful in girls. Then, the black guy pipes up and says, "Dark skinned girls are ugly". 

That really got my hopes down and made me feel really bad about myself. I see in the media and other places and they always list dark skinned black girls as the least valued in terms of attractiveness. That really hurts due to the fact that I have dark skin and kinky curly hair naturally. Is this true that men don't find us desirable? I've seen beautiful dark skinned ladies around where I live and this just hurts to know that even members of our own race thinks this way about us. 

And please do not leave racist comments. If you do I will report.

hellionthesage · Accepted Answer

No that's a personal opinion, personally I like curly hair and have no preference for dark or light skinned (though I do find a black girl with darker skin more attractive then a black girl with lighter skin (all else being the same)). I think it has to do with association as well. For instance my friend is dating a black woman, he at no point was interested in black women until he started talking to her and then dating her now he finds them attractive. So I think part of it is that positive association and with whites being the majority, at least in the US (being 63% of the population as opposed to 12% black) and Europe that means more chances for positive correlation while that also works against blacks meaning that if they have negative correlation then their are fewer chances for that negative correlation to be cancelled out by positive ones. Then on top of that you have social pressure from others who may have had that negative correlation thus causing people to not act on their own desires while parroting what they think others want (in fact I think this is quite common, if you look for instance Mary shelly wrote Frankenstein but when they published it the publishers insisted they do it under her husbands name because they where convinced no one would buy a book written by a woman, well a few years later they credited it to her and low and behold no one really cared. So I think this might also factor in people doing what they think others want even though most are on the same page about being at the very least indifferent). I would also state that other factors could be poverty, being poor means poor medical and poor quality food which leads to greater levels of obesity and dental etc etc. and since part of beauty is health that could also cause negative correlation (obesity is common in the black community (as it is in all poor communities its just that whites again being the majority also have a larger percentage of people in rich and middle class then the smaller groups just based upon probability). I would also say that when black women (or any group really) try to look white that also makes them unattractive because its says to the world they don't find themselves attractive so the assumption is they must not be (hence confidence being attractive the person automaticly responds to it assuming their is a reason for your confidence and thus tend to give you the benefit of the doubt (if that makes sense)).

BlueCoyote · Accepted Answer

Of course it's a matter of personal taste but as a general rule, humans tend to be sexually attracted to other humans who are as physically different from them as possible. There's a reason for this. It has to do with evolutionary biology. The human body naturally tries to seek the most amount of diversity for its offspring. If the offspring has two parents who are physically very different from one another, chances are higher that the two immune systems a child inherits through the parents' DNA complement each other, rather than being identical copies of each other. In other words: children from physically diverse parents tend to be healthier than children from physically very similar parents. It's the same reason why we usually don't want to make babies with our sister or brother. If we did that, the DNA would be almost the same and that could lead to problems for the child.

Personally, I am the best living proof that this concept is true. I am very attracted to girls who are racially very different from myself. My absolute favorites are east Asian girls. However, I also like black girls a lot (especially the really, really black ones :-)). White girls and Latinas on the other hand don't turn me on very much. Especially white girls seem very boring to me physically, because I am white myself. They don't have anything that I wouldn't have myself, if you know what I mean. I love exotic girls and the more exotic they look, the hotter.

Plus, I come from a country where black girls are still very, very rare. I see a black girl maybe once a month or even less. This of course naturally increases my curiosity and my desire for them (the same goes for Asian girls in my country).

btbc92 · Accepted Answer

Nope. Not true for all men. These people are ignorant and indoctrinated with that lie that so-called 'white' skin is desirable and acceptable. In Japan fair skin is consider beautiful and pure while tan or dark skin is considered the opposite. Sadly this is how the world, secular and westernized think for most men and some women too. Preference is one thing, but to classify as every person of a particular color is wrong. I can understand when its regarding most 'black' women's attitudes, especially in the ghetto's or their just flat out ignorant, but to say every person is because of color is just ignorance. They don't know what their missing out. If a woman can love you, let her love you regardless to what she looks like. The funny part is I've always attracted Caucasian, Asian, mixed- ethic men. And extremely rarely anybody who's considered 'black'. I've been born with a lighter tone tan, but it changed a bit as I got older due to health, lack of oxygen, not enough vitamin C, and no sun screen for nearly all my life.

I believe its more so of mentality than just skin color. I don't act nor behave like other women do. So besides that and mixed heritage heavily play a role. Youthfulness is always a benefactor, and genetics as well. Not everybody is attracted to the same thing. I believe that when these people change their diet, get more healthy, and produce more healthier offspring the results may change a bit. Since a lot of diseases and deformities [in my opinion] run in most people of African American descent. Besides eating very unhealthy for most of them.

cinderelli · Accepted Answer

when it comes to beauty and general attractiveness skin color doesn't matter at all.. the things that do matter about are that is it's clear.. glowing and if the skin tone is same throughout the body.. it's all about features.. just keep in mind that some people do have preferences and it's their life.. you can't change their mind and don't think about them.. for many guys it's just a fetish..
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no one can say these women aren't stunning..

Jxpxtxr · Accepted Answer

Honestly, I feel like the most racist people in regard to their own race is black people.. I've literally never heard an other white person say anything racist about black people but I've witnessed black people make racist remarks (about pretty much all races but particularly their own) fairly often now. Maybe I noticed it more because it's so hypocritical coming from the same racial group, maybe it's because they actually do it more. But if the latter is the case though it just makes me wonder why do y'all hate yourselves so much?

reixun · Accepted Answer

Just because other people don't find you attractive doesn't mean you aren't beautiful. I hear guys say that too but I'm unbothered. I don't care if they don't like me, half these guys don't even like themselves 😂

tinyclit · Answer

People can be ugly, cute or beautiful in any skin color.

aWes0MeNeSs · Answer

Yes, it is beautiful, and there is something for everyone. Some people prefer them, just as some prefer lighter skinned ones. Kinky, curly hair is also beautiful and there are people who like it too. The world is comprised of many unique people with many different tastes.

Imcmullan · Answer

Ughhh.
... as an AFRO-LATINA I hate this. I have dealt with plenty of racism... not Latina enough bc I'm dark... not black enough bc I'm not born in America... have am accent and English is my second language... listen, us dark skinned women are just as beautiful... smart and successful as any other race or skin tone. The heart is what makes us beautiful... physical means NOTHING. DON'T BUY INTO WHAT THAT GUY SAID... love yourself first and all else will follow...

Afro-dite9 · Answer

I love being black... why.. if I was any other race of woman. .. I'd be jealous*flip's hair* misery enjoys company that's why people try to make you feel that way. I'm unbothered. You have learn to love yourself that's all that matters. I kiss my reflection everyday I look in the mirror. God is a designer baby, he doesn't make mistakes!

Hidden_P · Answer

All races have the potential to be beautiful. Skin colour is nothing to do with it, it's features and attitude.

Goldie757 · Answer

Sorry but ignore the guy he is a moron, skin colour does not make someone unattractive.  by the way it's always the white guys who compliment my kinky curly hair 😉.

Berethor · Answer

It's ironic how black men are the ones who say the most shit about women from their race.

NJ_Casanova · Answer

I have a few black girls that I find Gorgeous, the darkest was darker than Tika Sumpter. I think the "Extremely Dark" has a narrower group of guys that love it, just like I think there is a Narrow group of guys that like Albino's. I think like everything the majority like the Middle (size, color, height, weight, etc).

karahiri · Answer

just yesterday, i was in a little hipstery coffee shop. they sold hibiscus donuts. NUFF SAID. the woman behind the counter was dark-skinned and breathtakingly beautiful. i could spend hours just looking at her gorgeous face.

AleDeEurope · Answer

Depends more on the facial features than the color of the skin.

DodgersGM · Answer

Those boys were just being silly and stupid. Black women can be every bit as beautiful as any other race of women.

TripleAce · Answer

Yea a lot seem to share his views

Dargil · Answer

Of course black women can be as beautiful as any other people-group. And im not talking about chocolate drops like Halle Berry or Paula Patton. I mean predominantly African extraction girls like this one.
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I would be down with (and on) her in a heartbeat. Why should dark skin be a liability? I think it looks warm and inviting. Yes, you have hair challenges but there are numerous unstraightened styles from Afros to braids, rows and dreds. Love yourself. You are beautiful.

pervertedjester · Answer

Black Women Are Super Stunning And Super Smart! Stephen Lynch summed it up in song wonderfully

archiz · Answer

Dude is retarded Rich black skin can be beautiful It all depends on the overall package

rgb008 · Answer

Beauty is subjective. There are ugly and beautiful people in all skin colors. You won't be attractive to everyone, but that's shouldn't bother you.

FakeName123 · Answer

Statistically black girls are the least attractive overall. I think it has various reasons:

Physical reasons:

- All women of all ethnicities are lighter skinned than their male counter-parts on average. This is generally seen as an attraction factor of men - aka men biologically find lighter skin attractive. So when you live in a country thats mainly white you can 1+1 yourself.
- Black women seem to be too much making them sometimes seem disproportional. While most men really dig hourglasses, there definitely is a too much. Like too big a butt, etc.
- Black women look too masculine. Femininity is attractive to most men, black women are the least feminine looking by nature (having a butt and boobs isn't all there is to femininity).

Socially/Psychologically:

- Black women suffer from certain toxic elements among the black communities that creates a negative stereotype about them
- There are several of obnoxious black women giving the decent ones a bad reputation.
- Anything relating to ghetto is a turn-off.

Now what you make out of that is up to you. It is just me explaining why that is without any personal judgement involved aka the reasons I listed don't have to align with my views.

Since you are young though I am only explaining you why black girls are generally seen as the least attractive. That does not mean you are unattractive or will end up solo or anything. I just want to explain you where it comes from so you can understand why. That shouldn't crush your self-esteem nor should it tell you that you will be forever alone. It's just a bit more of an uphill battle for you than it might be for others.

But think about it this way: While dating around might be easier for other ethnicities - finding the right life-long partner is equally difficult for everyone, because being such a good match in personality is difficult to find and completely indepentent of your skin-colour.

feminismisnarcissism · Answer

don't take something some moron said to heart. next time call him an "uncle tom" or an "oreo" for buying into white cultural lies. seriously, what an asshole-it says nothing about you OR black skinned girls, it only says he's kowtowing to "whitey" (as muhammad ali might say).

what matters most is that YOU think you're beautiful-then all men will find you attractive. likewise if you listen to morons like those boys and BELIEVE you are ugly... you WILL be.

Hollywood-Glam · Answer

All races can be beautiful. Nobody should make the generalization of a certain entire race is ugly.

Princeofanons · Answer

I give you one example: Jessica Lucas One of many I could list that are beautiful. Every person regardless of their colour is beautiful in their own way.

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