Am I weird for hating sex?

I'm 22 years old and I've had sex with 3 different guys my whole life, I only lost my virginity last year. The first time i had sex i was too drunk and i only remember feeling the pain, i dont remember anything else. I waited a while before I had sex again because I hated the guy who took my virginity. A year later I had sex with another guy but I was drunk again so I really didn't remember anything. The third time I had sex I was sober and I hated it, I hate the guy, hate the sex and everytime I think about him or about having sex again I get sick. I like the idea of sex but I hate the idea of me having sex with any guy. Does that make me weird?
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  • Twice drunk and had sex - Don't remember anything but you haven't said you hated it.
    Last time you were sober - You hated the sex and you hated the guy.

    Drunk sex with a stranger is never a good thing because anything could happen and you wouldn't remember it. Random sober sex with anyone is also not ideal.

    Reset your 'sex' mind. Spend time with yourself and find out what you want. Do you want sex with a guy or maybe even a girl? Find out what works for you. You don't need to have sex to have a great time with someone.
    Find someone you can relate to. Take your time. It's not a race! When you'll with someone take your time and go at a comfortable pace. Sex is about sharing our body with someone. Once you find the right person for you then the sex should be good. Good luck x

  • You may be an alcoholic. You have made some horrible decisions while drunk and have proven to be an unstable drunk. That's the most important thing you should take out of this. I don't know regarding your dislike of sex, maybe you dislike the people you have been with so much that it's making the sex so bad. Women tend to see sex quite differently than men, if you are not happy who you are with, you usually won't be happy with the sex. What about your sexuality, are you even sure that you're straight?

    • I like your answer maam.

  • You're not the only one, dear. It could be the post trauma during your first time, whereby you did it in a non/subconscious mind. Don't ponder too much on it, and make sure to stay sober in order to make the right decisions as well as to better protect yourself. For the third guy, it could be that there wasn't chemistry between the both of you, so he can fall short beneath your expectations.
    Give yourself some time to let go of the psychological trauma before giving sex a go again. Take care :)

  • Not weird, but you should probably stop having drunk sex with people you hate. You've only had negative experiences so it's not unusual to associate the act with negative feelings. I'm similar in that I feel like sex is overrated because all of my experiences have been less than exciting. I think you just need to refrain from sexual activity until you actually meet someone you like.

  • I think it says you are choosing the wrong guys to have sex with. Try getting to know, like and trust a guy enough (while sober) to experience what good sex can be.

Most Helpful Guys

  • Maybe you just have bad experiences. I used to think I must hate sex too because I've never had a good sexual experience. It's mostly because the only sex I've had was in a controlling relationship that I felt trapped in. I've realized that I'll probably like sex if there was a healthy dynamic instead of the jacked up dynamic that I had. Maybe you just need to take a break and take time to figure yourself out. I haven't had sex in like 6 years since the shit relationship. It would take someone that I really trust to be that vulnerable with again. Perhaps it will be similar for you.

  • What if you stopped having sex with guys you hate? Instead, you could try to get to know a guy first. Then, if you liked him, perhaps, in time, you could develop a relationship. If you both like and respect one another maybe you could make slow progress to the bedroom while maintaining open communication about how you both feel.

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  • You're a mess. Get some therapy. Being black out drunk in a bad sign.

  • Well your problem is very obvious. It's not the sex that is your problem or that you're hating. It's the guys you're having sex with. Or maybe, you hate having sex with guys. Maybe you might prefer sex with women instead. If not, try having sex with a different type of guy. Someone who wants to please you and listens to what you like during sex instead of selfish assholes or guys that don't care what you like. Or have sex with someone you actually like. What a novel idea hey?

  • you dont need to like sex at all. You had some bad experiances, maybe you like sex more with the right guy. But maybe you won't even like sex with a good guy, too. There is so much more you can do then having sex ;)

  • just bad experiences
    bad choices

  • Being too drunk and have sex with some random guy. I can see a pattern there...

  • No, you might be asexual and you associate with the wrong guys in the wrong places at the wrong times.

  • Oh yea! You're outta this world. I mean, sex is everything to us and I'm not sure how you're living life? right? wow!

  • This is a perfect example why you should have a connection with the people you have sex with
    And not have drunk hook ups

    I think you need to find a special connection and have sex with a man you trust and want to please

  • maybe your a asexual

  • maybe those guys were not as experienced as you might have expected.

  • It is possible that because you hate the guys it leading you to hate sex. When you have sex with someone you like or love I am sure you will like it more. And having sex after drinking a lot can cloud your mind and judgments

  • Well aren't you just a whore

  • May be you're Lesbian

  • Maybe you should try having sex with a guy you care about.

  • maybe you're actually gay

  • I'll have sex with you right now ;) ;) ;) ;) ;)

  • You just hate the guys

  • Wow, you're really bad at this. That's all I can think.

  • I would not say you're weird. I do think at this point you're associating sex with bad feelings/memories. I think you should find a guy you're really attracted to who will take his time with you. A lot of guys push and pressure girls into having sex right away and are mostly interested in getting themselves off. Finding a guy who puts your pleasure first will help make a difference