Why do I only attract fuckboys?

[Anonymous]

So I'm a 16 year old girl and I'm a senior in high school. For some reason the only guys that talk to me are the fuckboys, especially the fuckboys disguised as genuine nice guys. This happened to me repeatedly in the last two years since I transferred to a co-ed school. I get it, teenaged boys are horny, but I also thought they were people with feelings and cared about other people's feelings. This just happens repeatedly. I'm not even searching for a guy to be in a relationship with. I am happily single. Guys approach me, pretend to be my friend for a little bit, and then when they want to fuck and I reject them they suddenly start talking bad about me, avoid me entirely, or just constantly mention/ask for sex. I'm really sick of the bs. It's not even like I intentionally try to draw in these types of guys. I literally go to school everyday in fucking sweaters and sweatshirts, I sit in the back of the class with my small group of friends, I do my work, and I try my hardest to go unnoticed. Yesterday I met this guy in second period. I knew him vaguely from the previous year cause he hung out with one of my friends. This year we had a class together but we sat on opposite sodes of the room. He repeatedly asked me to sit next to him until I finally did. He added himself on my snapchat and then he sat next to me in every other class we had and lunch, and then texted me on snapchat like 2 hours after school. 5 minutes into the convo and he's asking about my virginity, and when I'm gonna be ready to give it up. When I called him out he gives me this bullshit line like "I don't just wanna fuck you, I like you as a person. I'll admit I did wanna fuck at first, but then I got to know you and you're cool." This type of stuff happens to me all the time for no damn reason!

[Berethor]

I am not sure if only fuckboys can be attracted to you, but it's more likely that good and usually more shy and less rude guys are simply have harder time to approach you, while fuckboys are approaching almost any girl, so it's not even that they are really that attracted to you.

[Anonymous]

"I don't just wanna fuck you, I like you as a person. I'll admit I did wanna fuck at first, but then I got to know you and you're cool."
Why is that so objectionable?

Ever consider that perhaps sexual intimacy is actually part of an emotional bonding process for males?

[Asker]

Ok first off, that's only a slice of the bullshit paragraph he sent me. I didn't feel like typing the rest from the screenshots. There's more, and it gets worse, I just didn't feel like typing it. Second off, if you actually wanna get to know someone then sex and sexual things should not be the topic of the conversation after knowing the person for one day. The boy asked more questions about my virginity than anything else. He doesn't even know simple stuff like my favorite color.

[Opinion Owner]

Perhaps he's what you say he is, but being indelicate doesn't make him straight up gross. Favorite colour seems way down on the list of important things. I don't care about favorite colours and I don't think you find favorite colours that important either, you're interested in the pretense of him being interested in you without sex being a factor. But if he's interested in sex as a bonding experience then it sounds like he's just speaking his mind and he's incredibly crass. He cares about you, not your favorite colour and it comes out completely unfiltered because he has learned to cater to women's pretense. So if being crass defines a fuckboy then I guess he is. Maybe all the rest of what he said would convince me he's an ass, I'm just offering alternative ideas, but whatever. In answer to your title question: You don't, but the only guys that approach are bold, shameless and crass, because those are the kinds of traits that facilitate approaching.

[Opinion Owner]

Have you tried talking to a guy you like?

[MariaG24]

I assume you are attractive. I've had the same problems all my life and you just need to deal with it. Boys are horny. And that is a good thing when you connect mentally with one. You just need to learn how to politely dismiss them when they come on too strong.

[Asker]

Preach!👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[MariaG24]

Sorry. Maybe so

[AleDeEurope]

They're used to so many girls give it so easily that they assume you'll be the same.

[James0]

Not all guys are like that ;-; but in high school the hormones run high ;-; one day you will find a guy who want to be your BFF

Or they just adopt you (-^-^-)/ I do that

[Mesonfielde]

Because you are 16

[CisScum]

Highschool sucks dick that's why, full of immature kids. Honestly once you get to university it's much better. You just gotta endure it til then. Just stick to hanging out with women LOL.

[Asker]

I just have to survive one more year with only 5 friends.

[CisScum]

Eh I survived with 5 close friends LOL. Good luck though, it's pretty cruel out there in the halls.

[MikeInHawaii]

They’re taking the shotgun approach. If there’s a 0.1% chance a girl will say “yes” to a guy who propositions her 30 seconds into the conversation, if he propositions a thousand girls, he gets laid. He doesn’t care that he annoyed 999 girls in the process.

Just hang on to your virginity. Hundreds of guys will think you’re worth a dinner, a six pack of beer or a line of cocaine. Someone out there thinks you’re worth a diamond ring and a lifetime commitment. Don’t debase yourself by saying “yes” to the others.

[Anonymous]

love comes to you when you least expect it, that's all i know. take it or leave it