For you personally, which is worse: sexual infidelity or emotional infidelity?

[MissDyno]

If you had to choose one, which one would you say is the worst?

[Anonymous]

This is really tough to decide because both, in my mind, are extremely bad. I would probably have to go with sexual if I have to choose one or the other because emotional cheating can mean a lot of different things. I do think it's possibly to love two people at the same time... and one can be cheating emotionally but still love their partner enough not to actually do anything with the other person that they are involved with. You can't control whether you have feelings for someone, but you can control you acting upon those feelings. To me, having strong feelings for someone else, even if that someone else doesn't even know, is a form of emotional cheating, because in their mind (where emotions comes from) they are with the other person. Even if they are still with me emotionally they are also with the other person. However, sexual infidelity is physically cheating on their partner. Something that can be helped.. Something that they choose to do.

Ranking the two I would have to go with:
3. Emotional cheating
2. Sexual cheating
1. Sexually cheating with someone that they are already cheating on you with emotionally.

[johnmsk]

very truly said. Agree with you completely.

[Ripper_E]

Emotional infedility.

Cheating, while wrong for whatever the reason is behind it, does not mean you don't love your partner. Now I don't know if I'd be able to forgive a girl if she cheats on me in a strictly physical way, but if it was just physical, I feel it's possible to come back from that

If it's emotional and she actually has feelings for the guy, that would be harder. They can cheat on you emotionally and still have sex with the other person. It's just that when it's emotional infidelity, it's no longer about the physical relationship. It's more than that. It's a connection. There are feelings involved.

[alice55]

No hesitation for me : emotional infidelity cause you can't do anything about it. I can forget if he sleep with some random girl but seing the person you love the most loving another women is just the hurtful things in earth for me. I would feel useless and worthless. Like I don't deserve any love and I can't even keep a man to care and love me.

You built a relationship with emotion, feelings not about sex.

[Sabretooth]

emotional doesn't always means love-it can simply mean you just wanna have sex with her. the word ''emotional can cover a large range of things.

[alice55]

@Sabretooth Wanna have sex is not emotional its a sexual infidelity for me. Emotional for me is when he stop thinking of me and think of the other girls all day, want to be with her, etc... This is emotional means he doesn't love me anymore and prefer the other girls over me. Sexual can be just an attraction based on physic while emotional is more about personality. Sexual infidelity : Being attracted to another girls body. Emotional infidelity : Being attracted to another girls personality, means I'm not good enough and that I don't care of him well, that I'm not enough. It's like I defined it.

[Sabretooth]

i define a sexual infidelity as actually having sex with another person.

[alice55]

@Sabretooth But don't you have to be attracted by the other person body? Which will lead to an emotional and sexual infidelity. Your definition doesn't really make a sense.

[Sabretooth]

it could lead to a desire. which can lead lead to an emotional and sexual infidelity-but it can be corrected before going that far.

[alice55]

@Sabretooth you confuse me. You have emotional infidelity or emotional/sexual infidelity if I follow your explain. Then you can't choose between the two option if you think sleeping with someone else is worst.

[Sabretooth]

what i'm trying to see is that you can adjust your way of thing... having a sexual infidelity can't be corrected... it's a terminate stain

[Sabretooth]

say.

[Sabretooth]

i'm not saying emotional is much better-i'm simply saying it can be stopped before crossing over to a sexual infidelity.

[alice55]

@Sabretooth Sexual infidelity can be corrected if none feelings are inloved in and only physical attraction. You can pardon one time but having feelings for someone else can't be corrected. Your partner just don't love you anymore but in sexual infidelity he can still love you but just had been attracted by another body at this time.

[Sabretooth]

do you have any idea how many girls have been screwed by that way of thinking? how many girls have keep on forgiving , and forgiving, and forgiving there partner's cheating? the fact that you cheated on your partner shows how little you valued them.

[alice55]

@Sabretooth And being in love with someone else is better? You forget and pardon one time not two. Everyone deserve a second chance. Some will cheat again some not. It really depend on the person.

[Sabretooth]

i already answered your first question. love is not the same as passion. and how many ''' one time's'' will there be? why forgive someone who' s shown to have little to no value for you?

[alice55]

@Sabretooth This is only about sex and look... Which is not the more important. For me love and passion are the same things.

[Sabretooth]

I don't think you fully grasp the concept of cheating

[alice55]

@Sabretooth Cheating is not considered the same in all the country. In my country sexual infidelity can be considered like an experience or a fault while an emotionnal fidelity (care / loving another girl than your gf) can't be fixed.

[Sabretooth]

And there are where the laws of men fail

[Sabretooth]

"A falt"...

[Sabretooth]

It's a choice!

[alice55]

@Sabretooth One time is a fault Second time is a choice

[alice55]

@Sabretooth Also I didn't understand your sentence "And there are where the laws of men fail"

[Sabretooth]

Cheating is still cheating no matter where you are. How the hell can you say a guy putting his dick in another girl is merely an accident?

[alice55]

@Sabretooth I don't tell it's an accident but a fault. I mean you can be drunk, getting horny then fuck a girl, etc... One time is ok, everyone should be given a second chance. It's just sex. For me they're things a lot more important than sex. And that's not true in Thailand this is different. I saw a video talking about cheating, etc... And they talked about that.

[Sabretooth]

Then be prepared to be cheated on quite a bit. It's almost like your defending cheaters. Being drunk is also a choice.

[alice55]

@Sabretooth Do you really think i would tell my boyfriend that?

[Sabretooth]

He he cheated on you, yes... or at least a woman would, anyway

[Sabretooth]

If he

[alice55]

@Sabretooth If he cheat on me he would have to beg, cry, etc... For me take him back. A man who doesn't do that isn't honest about the relationship and would cheat again. If he do that he show he choose me over his proud

[Sabretooth]

If you loved your partner, you wouldn't have cheated

[cpzpbx3]

Most men could sleep with someone outside their marriage and still love their spouse--they fuck people they don't really like all the time (women do, too). But when your spouse finds another person more interesting than you, or likes talking to them more than they like talking to you, it is far more hurtful.

[jerrysboy]

Right on the button...

[Victoriann]

Both are painful but i would say sexual , because he could put me at risk of catching an STD. That is totally unforgivable

Both are a betrayal of trust. I am a very forgiving person , and i forgive most things , but i would never forgive any kind of betrayal .

[BlueCoyote]

Emotional infidelity is a thousand times more worse. Sex is meaningless. It's just sticking a piece of meat into another piece of meat. What good is a sexually loyal partner if he/she isn't there for you when you really need him/her? You might as well be single then.

My girlfriend has given me so much emotionally, I can't even put it into words. She's always been there for me, supported me, motivated me... even in the toughest situations. We have gone through crazy times together and that creates a bond that can't just be broken anymore. She's not just a girlfriend but also my very best friend. Because of this, I could easily forgive her some sexual infidelity.

[martyfellow]

Emotional infidelity is like torture, it goes on every second, and the pain gets worse.

Sexual infidelity is something you usually get over before long, if the relationship is important to you

[RJGraveyTrain]

For me, emotional. At least physical is just superficial, emotional is much deeper.

[Sinister]

Fucking both! I sure as hell don't share my personal thoughts/opinions/ideals/beliefs and whatever else with anyone and I definitely don't fucking around with hoes/ratchets/side bitches or whoever else. I keep my shit straight and I only want the lady who is going to bring her best, 200% all the time because that's what I am doing. I got noooo time dealing with bullshit.

[Vesuvius87]

Sexual infidelity because that can get me an STD. I'd rather deal with the stress of a failed relationship (emotional cheating) than with someone that directly and deliberately put my health at risk.

[AriadneSky]

not mutually exclusive.

[Elarra]

Emotional only because it's harder to find concrete evidence that it's happening and you're partner will claim you're crazy. Sex either happened or it didn't and makes it easier to leave.

[Sami365]

Emotional. If my boyfriend had sex with another person behind my back, I'd be hurt, but if he fell in love with someone else, I would be devastated.

[ObscuredBeyond]

That feeling that you're being strung along is horrible. It doesn't matter what the excuse, or how she shows it.

[deusexmachinaa]

Definitely emotional, sex even though is still cheating, being romantic with someone else is serious. Emotional cheating means you've already checked out of your other relationship, and means you're no longer in love with the other person.

[TheOneI]

Emotional infidelity for sure

[SheriD]

Absolutely! 100%

[RachelBrigs]

I think if someone's having a sexual affair it is emotional infidelity as well.

[somebodysaycheese]

Sexual is a conscious choice. Emotional sometimes just happens out of nowhere.
Lol @ the polls.
a lot of people cheat sexually or think about it lol

[Berethor]

Sexual infidelity, after all I am a mas, and don't care much about how my woman feel about other men, I care mainly about if other men are had their dick on my woman.

[NJ_Casanova]

Sexual, because most people have friends of the opposite sex that they confide in emotionally.

[ElissaDido]

Emotional infidelity.

[DodgersGM]

It's an impossible question for me to answer, as the two are inextricably linked for me.

[ShortCircuit]

I'd like to start by saying I would dump her sorry ass if she did either of the above. I must say that, for me, sexual infidelity would actually hurt more than emotional infidelity.

Why? Well I'm fairly confident with my personality and my sense of love and romance. So if she cheated on me emotionally, it'd be easier for me to see it as "She is just a bitch, it had nothing to do with you".
However, I am not ved

[ShortCircuit]

(Cut off) However, I am not very confident about my appearance, so if I was cheated on sexually, it'd only make me feel inadequate.

[MusicLover8098]

Emotional would be the worst for me. It would completely crush me

[RedHood7]

Emotional infidelity means the love faded away and your SO started to fall for someone else.
Sexual infidelity means your SO straight up chose to betray you and probably came up with reasons to justify it all. Also, if you break up, the cheater will be with the other guy/girl without a second thought.
Im pretty sure sexual infidelity is worse. We dont really choose who we love.