Why won't my boyfriend let me give him a blowjob?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend won't let me do oral on him. I have asked him if I'm that bad at it and he said "no you are really good at it but I rather prefer to pleasure you".

He's very giving and always makes me orgasm at least 3 times before sex (oral, fingering etc). He lets me give him a handjob and everything else but he doesn't want me giving him a blowjob...

I actually enjoy giving him oral and everytime I try he stops me and tries to distract me with something else.

[tinyclit]

After you've swallowed his cum and then vigorously sucked and licked his cock squeaky clean, no doubt from his point of view it's over. From his point of view there's probably not much point in continuing. It's not like he's going to immediately cum for you again a second time. You may be able to orgasm over and over again, but I seriously doubt he can. (With my husband, I have to wait until the next morning before he cums again.)

[XRabbitHeartX]

My boyfriend is the same. He just prefers sex over oral sex and it has nothing to do with me or my abilities. It's just not a huge turn on for him just like receiving oral isn't a big turn on for me either. If you really do enjoy giving it and want to, just talk to him about it again and see if you can't compromise on it.

[MariaG24]

I would find a new boyfriend if this happened to me to be honest. A big part of my sexuality comes from sucking off a man, having him cum in my mouth and then swallowing his semen. I don't think I'd want a relationship with anyone who wouldn't allow me to do that at least 5 times a week.

[Anonymous]

May be he is shy or has low self esteem and believe he is not worthy of being pleasured on a sub concious level. Or he is too used to his own hands and might not cum from oral sex and feels bad to have you working on him until your jaw is sore.

[desidoll]

It seems like you need to figure out by your own, since he doesn't really wanna talk about it. In my opinion, I think he feels the act itself is degrading to you, or you might do it wrongly that it doesn't feel good to him. Guys wouldn't tell.

[BigBallerSodaPop]

Desi, Can you follow me? I want to tell you how beautiful you are, but I have to do it in private.

[Asker]

Oh wow that guy is creepy xD

[BigBallerSodaPop]

Other people haven't thought so. I didn't ask for nudes.

[GingerGuy]

Maybe they aren't his thing? Doesn't really do anything for him but he doesn't want you to take it personally by saying that. And if that's true, don't take it personally. Honestly, I'd never refuse a blowjob but saying that, I've never really got much from one, I'd rather have sex or a handjob. He might also just care more about your pleasure than his own. Some guys are very much like that.

[GingerGuy]

If it's something you really enjoy, talk to him about it. Say "I really enjoy giving you blowjobs but you don't let me, why" If he knows it's something you really enjoy and WANT to do, for your pleasure he might let you do it more. Maybe he thinks it's disgusting and that you can't possibly be enjoying it (only doing it for him). Some guys think that.

[sparta13]

talk to him why he stops u is there any reason to stop me or anything else? try to do different techniques also... lol tie his hands than give him BJ kidding

[Asker]

we actually did bondage and I gave him a blowjob then and he enjoyed it but it's just he won't let me do it.

[nala_rawr]

he might not enjoy it
or prefers to b inside ur pussy.
just tell him its something u REALLY want
if that doesn't work
then ur not compatible.

[MrMysteryMan]

Because... I've got nothing...

[MrMysteryMan]

Maybe he feels very vulnerable being the centre of attention. Like he does all this to get you off and he's really satisfied by getting you off, he probably loves giving attention, but then when the attention is all on him, he gets kind of shy and not as comfortable with it. How is he with you outside of the bedroom? Is he more attentive to you and very unselfish in general? If this mimics his actions outside the bedroom, it could be something to do with his self confidence or something and getting you off gives him self confidence. Then afterward, his confidence goes back to being less maybe when the focus is all on him.

[prettylips101]

Maybe he's insecure about that one particular thing.

[FemWorship]

Something about loss of control
+ being the seduced gal
+ being so drained, can't reciprocate

As for me, all you would have to do is drop your top/bra
give a bear hug forcing those breasts into me
while tugging down my pants
until you have me by the balls

[amandaschwartz]

check to see for signs of herpes or syphilis.

[vampireelf]

there are boys who just doesn't like receiving oral at all. I dont like it, too. And I dont like the sight of a girl with my penis in her mouth. So I can totally understand him ;)

[Alfredo1992]

maybe he doesn't like the feeling or your probably use your teeth a lot haha

[Asker]

Asked him and he said thats not the problem and that he just doesn't like oral

[Alfredo1992]

Its all right then no reason to over think it then enjoy each other and figure out what makes him twitch ;) lol

[madelacroix]

That's the craziest thing I've ever heard 🤔

[Primemutton]

Respect his wishes I would say , it's clear he isn't insulting you ability.

[zeeko]

it is okay.. that is not a problem. .

Would it matter to you if you suck his cock?

[Marinepilot]

That is strange. I've never heard of such a thing. Perhaps he will change.
Although, it's good that he focuses on your pleasure.

[osc92]

i hear some guys don't feel much from getting bjs. so he must not care for them because they probably don't do much for him.

[cowlbreezy55]

I don't know but i sure would ;)

[Anonymous]

He might be feeling guilty because of it.

[Asker]

Guilty meaning you think he's cheating or something else.

[Opinion Owner]

no, guilty pleasure.