I'm attracted to my sister's husband what should I do?

[Anonymous]

I'm recently divorced and have been lonely. My sister and her husband have run into a tough time so I let them live with me in the spare bedroom. It helps them financially and I enjoy having someone around the house now that I'm single again. But after four months it's gotten rough. They are loud during sex and they have it almost every night. I mean I thought I had a good sex life when I was married now I realize I was wrong. They go at it like newlyweds but they've been married five years! I'm beginning to become aroused when I hear them and I've started to find myself drawn to my brother in law. He's helping around the house - mowing the lawn, fixing furniture, things I'm not good at - and knowing that he is also skilled in the bedroom has me thinking of him a lot. It's getting hard not to make a move but he is still my brother in law which is what has kept me from doing anything. Should I through them out? I'm concerned my lust will get the best of me and I'll ruin my sisters marriage and I can't do that. Wouldn't it be better to kick them out and send them on their way than to have an affair?

[btbc92]

Are they living with you or are you living with them? You need to tell them to keep it down or ask for privacy, because its rude. You do not need to hear them having sex. There doing it because you allowing them to have sex in your house. Its within their right as a married couple as that is what they are supposed to do to keep the married flourishing. Overall you need to mind your business concerning their sex life and her husband. It is not your business who you think he is good. You don't know that. But if they cannot respect you, then they will have to get off their butt and start moving to get their OWN place. Then they can have sex as much as they want. But in somebody else's house is a no-no unless the owner say its fine. But you have the job of having self control and self discipline. Everybody feels temptation. But there is other ways to block out what their doing, music in your ears or leave the house. Otherwise get both of them to speak and bring it to the table.

Again, if they have a problem with your terms and rules, kick them out. Its called having respect. As long as you respect their marriage, temptation is temptation. But you are still responsible for lusting. And that includes removing what is causing you to lust in the first place. In fact, what you said about: "and knowing that he is also skilled in the bedroom has me thinking of him a lot." Is way off base. You never had sex with him, you don't this. I don't how experience one is, know body knows how another person has or likes to have sex unless somebody tells you and you had sex with them. Period. As long as you understand this, then take action and do something about it. But not commit adultery. If you feel you can't contain anymore, find somebody to marry and get your own husband. That is what a spouse is for.

[redeyemindtricks]

Girl...
On the one hand, I want to thank you -- on behalf of the couple -- for being so kind as to offer yr spare bedroom.
It's never easy to let others into space that we're using to having for ourselves -- so, just in case THEY don't say "thank you" enough... here's another "thank you" for them. (:

BUT.

But but but.

On the other hand...

—··•• Why are you writing this as though HE has literally NO self-control AT ALL? ••··—

You wrote:
""I'm concerned my lust will get the best of me and I'll ruin my sisters marriage and I can't do that."

Girl that's 5 -- count 'em, FIVE -- first-person pronouns, in that sentence. I'm, my, me, I'll, I.

THIS IS NOT SOMETHING **YOU** CAN DO BY YOURSELF!

If he is an honorable man -- and, let's be serious, we KNOW he's not sexually frustrated or drying out on the vine, here -- then HE would shut you down IMMEDIATELY, even if you *did* try to make a move on him.
Hell yeah he would...
... because he LOVES yr sissy. (and oh he loves her *hard*, from what I can tell <3 <3 )

__

Srsly...
If they still NEED a place to stay -- and if you're still benefiting from having them in yr house, too -- then... please keep letting them stay in yr house. In exchange for fair labor and whatever else they're doing for you.

And... exercise some damn self-restraint. And self-respect. And respect for yr sis and her man, too.

And realize that, even if you DID try to seduce the boy, you'd probably get rejected so hard yr head would spin for days.

[Asker]

I hadn't thought of that. Just sort of thought with my lust and not my head lol. Guess he is a bit distracted with her lol

[redeyemindtricks]

Lust is fun. Fantasies are fun. It's all part of being a healthy woman... no harm there. __ I sometimes lock eyes with random boys in the street, and -- just for a couple seconds -- think the nastiest, filthiest, dirtiest thoughts imaginable about them. I bet they're thinking the same about me, too. Our eyes meet... we smile at each other... and then we keep walking. I don't look back. The boys might... I don't care. Most of them are ten or fifteen years younger than me anyway, lol. And then... that just gives me a little extra lightning to go through my day -- and then, later, I can take it ALL out on mah man. <3 <3 __ I understand how much it sucks being sexually frustrated. Girl I'm bipolar... When I was manic, I would literally tear apart my LIFE if I went more than a few days without getting off. So yeah, I understand. But... You can use this tension as a source of *inspiration* -- and you can probably use it to make sex a HELL of a lot more fun with whoever gets you next --

[redeyemindtricks]

but just make sure you keep it in its proper place, as a source of fantasy, around the house. Also -- again, thank you for being such a kind-hearted and charitable sister. You'll get that good karma back, for sure.

[redeyemindtricks]

Tx for the MHLuv <3

[Asker]

Thank you, I needed the reality check

[redeyemindtricks]

Yw. <3

[MariaG24]

I don't know. That's a tough one. Is it something you can discuss with your sister without her getting all crazy (I mean are you close enough with her to talk about it)?

Maybe you can just give him blowjobs when she is not around? Would she object to that? Would that satisfy your desire a little if he came in your mouth a few times a week? Maybe that would satisfy his hornyness some and they won't keep you up at night fucking like crazy.

[CroMan]

i doubt that she would stay just on blowjob, maybe first time, but after it would just go on more and more until they end up in bed

[MyExperience]

Turn off your lust. Period.
You're feeling vulnerable because of your divorce but you can't throw yourself at you brother in law. Are you so amazing that he'd even up and leave your sister? From what you've said, even though they've hit a rough patch financially, it doesn't sound like it's negatively affecting their marriage so if you throw yourself at him, he's most likely going to tell your sister and reject you but not neccesarily in that order. If you literally have zero willpower then yeah, kick them out but what's your reason going through be? Sorry I'm afraid I'll jump your husband. ?
Maybe instead of kicking them out or wrecking their marriage and your relationship with sis, you go out more. You won't hear them banging and maybe you'll get lucky on your own, making all of this a mute point. Good luck.

[Tarvold]

She's your sister, why can't you talk about this with her?

I would imagine that if I was in the same situation, I'd just go to my bro, "hey dude, I'm happy that you're with a great girl and that you're getting laid, but c'mon... I'm going through epic blue balls here. Have some sympathy will ya?" And then he would take care of the problem.

Go talk to your sister.

[miamigirl1970]

Please don't go there, your affair will be brief and he will then be an ex. Your sister will never be your ex... please tread lightly, just try to think of him only as family, and know what your actions will cost. If you have to put them out, give them a little time, and restrain yourself through their transition process. Best of Luck

[SvetlanaSavachenko]

I don't know what to tell you there, I'm in the same situation myself, sort of anyway. I'm a Whore so I get plenty of dick but no matter how much I get it's never enough. Sometimes my sister works nights and doesn't get home till after I leave in the morning. Her husband falls asleep on the couch and I've been so tempted as I stagger and stumble to the kitchen to get my first cup of coffee to just get on my knees and suck him off. I'd love to have a threesome with them and try to flip sis bi.

[Streamhopper]

Yeah, if it comes to it, it's better to send them on their way if you can't control how you feel. What are you doing about *your* situation? Are you going out? Trying to find a guy? Or are you just fixating on him?

[Asker]

I'm fixated on him! I've dated and haven't met a guy I like. Honestly I really just want a good night of grab my hair and make me scream sex. I miss it so much

[Streamhopper]

*extends paw* Hi, I'm Scott. You're probably fixating on him because he's delivering what you want. Unfortunately, it's to your sister. You can't safely continue on that path; at the very least, you'll hurt your sister, and at worst, you'll end up much worse than you are now. Just keep looking; keep dating, and if you need to, tell them to move on so you don't have that temptation staring at you every day. There's a lot of guys out there, and one of them is yours. It's up to you to find him. =^.^=

[SongBird3]

You should find another guy. Its ok to have an attraction (ur not blind!) but you dont wanna ruin your sisters life just because you can't control ur lust. I do think you should talk to ur sister about having sex loudly, that is kinda rude especially if ur in the house and they dont keep it down. Its common courtesy. Just let them stay until they get there shit together and then theyll be in there way. Till than, porn and a vibrator will do the trick.

[abundantlyrich]

This sounds like a bad porn movie script gone wrong. Family threesome 😡

[reptocarl]

Yes it'd be better to have them leave but before you do ask your sister if you can fuck her husband or if she'd be open to a three way

[redeyemindtricks]

A three-way with sisters? Uhhhh

[reptocarl]

@redeyemindtricks wouldn't be the first time

[Asker]

I don't want a threesome and I really don't want anything like that with my sister that's just way gross

[Intraluminal]

Would throwing them out be better than risking their marriage and your relationship with your sister. Hell yes!

Better still would be to go out and get laid.

[redeyemindtricks]

The fuck, with literally NO ONE ELSE on this thread even realizing that he'd probably shut her down faster than a liquor store in Saudi Arabia?

[Intraluminal]

@redeyemindtricks LOL. True, but you a gentleman never tells a lady that a man wouldn't fall all over himself for the chance to have her.

[redeyemindtricks]

The gentlemen I know are pretty fuckin' blunt, actually.

[qwertyKitchen]

That's almost irrelevant. Good for him if he does do that! But she's said she's "concerned her lust will get the better of her". Whether or not he is tempted, the damage between the sisters will be done. I think that is the chief concern of @intraluminal and @miamigirl1970 and me.

[redeyemindtricks]

@qwertyKitchen Do you think her sis is stupid? Women can tell from 500 yards when another woman is lusting after a man. I don't have any sisters, but I have a couple of girlfriends who are pretty brutally honest about how much they'd love to fuck my husband. ::shrugs:: Shit happens. It's fun to tease them with, from time to time. People with friends and/or same-sex siblings manage to have workable relationships all the time -- even (gasp!) close relationships with sexual tension -- without everything going to shit. It happens dude. People also stay on diets despite walking past their favorite restaurant... people also keep promises even if they're honestly getting the shit end of the deail... and, in general, I know this is a Shocker!, but, there are people out there with actual character and respect. #stayclassy

[Intraluminal]

@redeyemindtricks yeah, but if she thinks throwing them out is the lesser of two evils...

[redeyemindtricks]

::le sigh:: this is why people need to flirt way way more, and be way way less goal-oriented about it.

[Intraluminal]

@redeyemindtricks People just don't understand the value, fun, and essential goodness of flirting. It's a lost art. Now its, "hey baby, wanna bang?"

[redeyemindtricks]

Is there an echo in here? (:

[qwertyKitchen]

@redeyemindtricks I can see that. But I think you're assuming a best case scenario in which her sister is as thick skinned and confident as you are. You know I respect the hell out of you, but you're a bit of an exception if you can stay close with friends who are up front about wanting to fuck your husband. So without accusing her sister of stupidity, there are also naïve people and people with fragile hearts. Whether the brother in law can keep it in his pants or not, it's a potential source of bad blood between sisters, and that would the real tragedy here.

[redeyemindtricks]

@qwertyKitchen lol... it's a rare woman who *doesn't* want to fuck my husband, especially after a few minutes of his... effortlessness. It's almost infuriating, how practically the entire opposite sex just transforms itself before his eyes dude. I wrote about him here (girl mho)
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1961117-how-to-respectfully-compliment-women-s-breasts

So yeah whatevs idc. Honestly, I'm like #fuckyeah bby! Whose toy is that? Mine mine mine mine mine! Me me me me me fuckers! I'm first place, y'all are all second place or worse! (:

If the sister's skin is thin enough, I would think this would be a self-correcting situation anyway -- in other words, they'd move out soon enough!

[Intraluminal]

@qwertyKitchen What you don't know is that @redeyemindtricks would cream like crazy from holding one of those friends (if they were hot enough) while her husband fucked them. Am I lying Red-eye?

[redeyemindtricks]

That's a very specific fantasy about a very select kind of woman...
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q2068812-am-i-alone-in-this-the-idea-of-my-oh-cheating-on-me-turns-me-on

So, yeah, for the most part, lie. (:

[Intraluminal]

@redeyemindtricks Well, I did say, "if they were hot enough" come on. Admit that just talking about it here is getting you a little hot. Making you feel how torn you'd feel watching his face - that look, and seeing her open her mouth in that first gasp women give before they adjust...

[redeyemindtricks]

You have the right basic idea, but, the thing with dirty talk is that it has to be... like... dirty?

[Intraluminal]

@redeyemindtricks Wel, That's your husband's job. I'll leave that to him. (And you). 😇

[Intraluminal]

Anyway, I think the sister and the husband are deliberately teasing the OP.

[redeyemindtricks]

ahha nice save <3

[CisScum]

Learn some self control. Everybody thinks that they can't control sexual urges but u can, just practice self control.

[SuperNovaRoyalty]

Hi there! I remember you. You always have good opinions. Just wanted to make you smile :) (+1 follower)

[CisScum]

@SuperNovaRoyalty heyyy thanks a lot! :)

[john52461]

Why do you need to have an affair? Are you sure your sister won't share?

[Whaaaaa]

Leave them alone

[Autumn-Bunny]

You should be ashamed!

[Cashew72]

Go to confession..

[upforanything84]

I can totally understand being extremely turned on... sounds hot... but that's your sister. Don't ruin their lives. It would fuck up all 3 of your lives. Kick them out!

[Cowboy6666]

There are plenty of guys there besides your sis husband. Hunt for those. Lol

[relaxrelax]

tell your sister right
and be honest that you are lonely
and of what you are feeling

[Speedsix]

Masterbate, but steer clear

[Anonymous]

Nothing. Nothing at all. Stop having thoughts about destroying your sister's happiness and find someone else to have a crush on. There are so many people in this world. Why do you have to think about the one who's already claimed?

[Anonymous]

Wow! Sounds like he's REALLY putting to your sister every night! Is your room right next door?

[Anonymous]

Fucking get a boyfriend and fuck off.
Don't ruin her or his life

[Anonymous]

Just find yourself another guy. Tell them that it's time they start looking for an apartment or something too. Don't exactly throw them out, but just say that they should be looking to get out on their own again. Stay away from your brother in law unless you have to be around him. Don't watch him doing any of the chores. Stop listening to them having sex.