Would you feel disrespectful if a guy you've been dating ask you for a threesome? Did I overreact?

[Anonymous]

This guy that I've been dealing with ask me to do a threesome and when I asked him if he was serious he made a joke of it. But it did bother me, so I basically told him that I felt disrespected and that I don't like the idea of another woman being all over him. Did I overreact? Is this a normal thing for guys to ask? If you've had a threesome before, share your experience.

[Andy90]

I had a threesone in a past relationship and it did more harm than good.
My girlfriend and thought it would just be another person in the bed to pleasure us.

But that extra girl wanted to be all over me
She wanted to be fucked the same way I would my girl.
She wanted to be kissed, orally pleasured and caressed.

So a threesome is never 2+1
Its 1+1+1
You have to be open to seeing your man fuck that girl and to getting wet and horny for him and she the same for you.
You also have to be ready for female-female contact. Could you lie back and enjoy your guy eating you out while a girl sucks your nipples?
Because you can leave her out of the action, thats not what a threesome is.

I think threesomes are awesome if its just 3 random fuckbuddies.

But i think they are way too emotive to be done within a serious relationship.

[AustinMan]

I have studiously avoided threesomes for exactly that reason. They are emotional minefields from start to way after. I don't feel like he was being disrespectful, at least not intentionally. It's something a lot of people do as part of sexual experimentation. I'd just tell him that you're a one man, one woman girl and if he can't be happy with that, you'll understand. That you'll be hurt but you'll understand.

What do you think?

[Anonymous]

Don't take it too personal.. Clearly A LOT of people are doing it. Just tell him you're not interested and ask if it's a deal breaker

[19magic]

I donno I'd like to do a threesome both ways fmf and mfm

[Berethor]

He mast be thinking that you are an slut, so if you are not, it's very disrespectful.

[Anonymous]

It doesn't turn me on in particular, but there are things that turn me on that other people might see as disrespectful.

I'd suggest not getting offended by it.

On the other hand, if a woman I was with really wanted a MFM, i'd probably feel like I wasn't satisfying her, and THAT would bother me. But it's not that she was disrespectful.

[Anonymous]

If it's not your thing that's perfectly fine. But you shouldn't treat a dude like a criminal if it is his thing.