Feeling really depressed after a one night stand... What shall I do?

[Anonymous]

So, I have been talking to this guy for the past 4 months and we met off tinder and he messaged me first. One evening he messaged me and we started talking again, but the conversation mainly led to sex, I still continued talking to him despite thinking that he is just after sex, I was secretly hoping to change his mind by talking to him and sending cute photos. Then he asked me out one week in advance to go out Friday evening because he works quite a lot and has only the weekend free, if even that. So, I dressed up really nice but also left my flat thinking that this is probably a fuck date and he is nothing special. However, I met him outside his company and he looked super glamorous, elegant in his suit and briefcase and he called his private chaffeur (in a new mercedes) to pick us up and we went to a lovely bar where he generously kept ordering champagne and food and he took me to his flat which was super lavish and extravagant and i just fell in love with him and his life style already. The most important thing is that as soon as we met we instantly clicked and connected on an emotional level and we kept talking for really long time and we really seemed to get along. I would start off the sentence and he would finish it for me, he just gets me more than any other man and is emotionally mature and stable. Later, when we went to his flat we had the most amazing sex ever and he was extremely generous in bed. He told me to lay down and dont do anything and he went down on me for so long, made me squirt 3 min into foreplay and then we kept fucking all night and he kept going down on me and asking me to sit on his face and kept asking me to 'cum' for him. I was completely blown away thats the best sex I've ever had in my life because no one has made me squirt, come so many times and so caring of my sexual needs. In the morning he ordered me a taxi back home and paid for it but he hasn't messaged me since then. I am just feeling broken because I want to date this guy

[Anonymous]

a lot the time girls tend to regret one night stands , its partly why there harder to come by these days , so I'd say your experience is somewhat normal , sometimes people just don't want the same things long term , they want to have sex in the moment but don't want the same things down the road

[kongskullisland]

you should have thought about doing it like really really thought about it

[Sarahprincess]

You are just stuck in the afterglow of sex. It wears off after a while. Just spend some time with your friends or start texting some other guys.

Its natural to want to go back to someone that gave you pleasure like that. But sometimes 1 night stands just don't turn into dating

[Splintercell]

How old are you and him?

[Asker]

23 and 26

[Splintercell]

Okay, help me to understand why your depressed after a one night stand. Yes I know dumb question.

[Asker]

Because he jus represents everything that I want from a partner: extremely good-looking, caring, high sex drive, generous , elegant, extravagant, went to top 5 in the world university, extremely good career, ambitious, witty, sex GOD (i am not joking, no one has ever made me enjoy sex so much) and we really really got along and i felt there was an instant connection as soon as we met... i feel like i will never find anything better than that and I am sad because he hasn't cared to message me after i got home so i guess he didn't like me enough... although we had an amazing time together... i wish i could see him again and spend more time together... he exceeded my expectations

[Splintercell]

Oh I see. Another question: does character, integrity, and personality count? I mean yea he sounds like a lot of women's dream guys. Yes sounds like the intercourse was great, but the guy doesn't sound like marriage material.

[Asker]

Yes definitely counts, as I said we really got along and we were talking about everything... families, previous relationship, future plans and he just seems to get me unlike most of my friends and he understands me emotionally quite well and just the whole date went smooth and i remember previously when we talked on whatsapp we also seemed to have respect for each other and got along... i just dont understand why would he put so much effort into me, by dressing up so well, taking me for dinner and giving me the best sex ever and always asking me to sit on his face and to come for him, if he wasn't planning to ever see me again... why bother putting so much effort to impress me and be nice to me?