I was not great in bed the first time we had sex, will he call again?

[Kaya35]

Hi. So, yesterday I had sex with this new guy for the first time. We've met a few weeks ago, the chemistry was great right away, we almost end up having sex on our first date, but I told him that I want to get to know him a bit better before we had sex. For the next few weeks he was calling me every 3 or 4 days, we went out a few times, but I could tell he is not sure how to proceed ( my guess is he is not very sure whether he wants any relationship, etc.) So he was making some effort to stay in touch and see me and did not pressure me for sex during that time, but he was not making any bigger effort to show that he cares.

Anyway, we met again yesterday after a week of not seing each other, it was at my house. We were kissing and then I told him I want o go to my bedroom. And that's when things became a bit awkward. He was great at what he was doing, putting in a lot of effort to please me. We had some very hot moments. Then I felt like taking initiative and thought "oh, he went down on me , so I will give him a bj". But half way through I felt like I'm doing it to sort of "impress him back", not because I really feel that close to him. So I stopped. He asked me what was wrong and I said that everything is fine, that a bj is just an intimate thing I would usually do when I've been with someone a bit longer sexually. We kissed a bit more but did not continue with sex anymore. We were lying in bed for 2 more hours, talking, kissing, he was tender with me. And then he left to go to work.
Now I am freaking out that he is probably very disapointed and I'll never hear from him again. I am normaly a good, spontanous lover, but this time I came out like someone undecided. I know that we both expected a lot from our first time since the chemistry was always so great. But neither of us had an orgasm. The sex was hot but kind of stopped before we really got to the climax of it.
Do you think he will totally lose interest, or will try to see me again?

[FemWorship]

Unless he has a "milk run" of others he visits in their bedroom,
he WILL be back to try try again. Even if he's busy, his little zipper pest will bug him in less than 3 days to be unzipped again to play.
You were not selected to be paid to get him off! You were selected as an attractive playmate that is also candidate to be promoted later.
If fretting over this every time is exhausting, then find out what this 3-4 day calling routine is... maybe his work only allows free time to play infrequently.

[Kaya35]

Hey FemWorship, this made me smile :) And yes, I also do not think I was selected to get paid to get him off, but somehow I just end up not being myself in the bedroom with him. I suddenly caught myself a bit stressed by his good "performance" and trying to impress him. And since I am always 100% true to my emotions and never fake anything, I was like: "what are you trying to prove here?". I was also simply shy around him, because I could tell since we've met he is v experienced sexually and somehow I wanted to be equally good in his eyes. And then, after this whole thing ended, I was like: "oh God, now he will not look at me anymore like I'm this sexy woman, but he will look down on me like I'm this cute girl with some issues in a bedroom, sweet but not exciting". And the worst part, I'm never shy or too much "in my head"when having sex. But it's not like I was going to say : hey, I am usually much better that this, please give me another chance. (haha)

[FemWorship]

Let's get you to approach all this another way, even if out of character. All your concerns are about being competitive, an equal, to be impressive as him... none of which comes natural, ergo can't impress him & weighs whatever native prowess/enthusiasm down to failure. Don't you know guys love to be better at some things? Better approach for now is to be honest and complement, brag on his expertise, wallow in how good he makes you feel, then perhaps express how someday you hope to return these favors! (If you really are competitive, then know that someday you will be equal/better than him in bed with him serving as practice sex buddy.)

[Banjo25]

No, I doubt there is anything to worry about. All a guy expects from a girl really is to lay there with her legs open. Anything extra is taken as a bonus.

Your worries are unfounded. Its like if you give a dog a plate of barbeque ribs that he could care less "the manner that you tossed it over to him"

Dog just grateful for the food, LoL!!!

[Kaya35]

Hmmm, if only it were that simple :) LOL

[Banjo25]

It is that simple. Im not exaggerating. In fact the only thing that a girl can do that turns a guy off is if she gets rough and slaps him in the face or bites (assuming the guy is not into rough sex). Me for example I hate rough or violent things (even hickeys). But other than that I think the only mistake a girl can make during sex (that will displease the man) is to say she is not in the mood for sex. Or if she behaves like she is not enjying it or that if she acts like she is bored during the sex. Any of those will make the guy feel like he is not performing well in bed and make him insecure

[AustinMan]

I feel your concern. Just wait him out is my advice.

[JuicyBrain]

Hard for us to say, we don't know the guy. If it was me? I wouldn't see it as a reason to not call again. I believe we can all do things in an awkward fashion from time to time. Especially on a first time. So, to me, they don't count. If it happens 2 or more consecutive times though, yeah, I might rethink that relationship. But who knows, if the chemistry is good, I might decide that the not so good sex is worth it anyway. Especially if she puts effort into becoming better.

[meatballs21]

Quite honestly, a girl who started blowing me and then stopped because it was "too soon" AND stopped the sex dead in its tracks, wouldn't get a call back. I would worry that is only the tip of the iceberg in terms of other weird sexual hang ups she might have.

[COCOCHANEL]

sounds good to me

[cchris987]

I wouldn't

[Dantheman101]

Is was a great starting point cause he will be back

[love_truth]

yes he will call you again if he want to. otherwise you can enjoy with someone new why so much worry about it

[Anonymous]

If he likes you in a committed relationship type way then yeah he'll call back. People put too much pressure on the first sex session they have. People get so caught up in performing well that they forget to relax and just enjoy the intimate experience they're sharing with someone. You can have plenty more opportunities to rock his world another time if he still wants you.