I can't keep an erection?

[Anonymous]

Please help!
Im beginning to have sexual relations with my girlfriend. However i can't seem to get an erection or keep one. At the beginning when we start kissing i feel hard however i just can't keep it hsrd. And when i attempt to put on a condom.. well it just kills it. I then get hard occasionally again but i can't keep it hard enough for sex. The only time I can is when im quickly masterbating with my hand...
What can i dk to get it hard enough for sex? And keep it up?

[AdamThomas]

I take it you watch or have watched a lot of porn? The trouble with masturbating to porn excessively is that it changes how your body reacts when with a real woman, you become less aroused. The simple solution is to cut out porn and masturbation altogether.

Then when you have sex, just relax and enjoy it. Don't be too focused on performance, what you're going to do next, worrying whether you'll stay hard or not. Just focus on the feelings and enjoying it.

Eventually you'll find it easier to stay hard. I once had the same problem.

[AdamThomas]

I also forgot some other things, because it could be for other reasons. A lot of men nowadays have low testosterone levels. This obviously impacts your sex drive and your ability to maintain an erection. Low testosterone is also linked to other things like stress, depression, even diabetes. All of these things can affect your ability to stay hard. The solution to this is: - Get at least 8-10 hours of good sleep every night - Eat more red meat, fatty fish and green vegetables - You need cholesterol in your diet to produce testosterone, ignore the outdated advice to eat a low fat diet and avoid saturated fat, it's good for you - Cut our sugar as much as possible as wel as alcohol, and avoid soya like the plague - Lift heavy weights or do bodyweight exercises - Do high intensity interval training These things should fix any physical problems by building a stronger body, improving blood flow, raising testosterone levels and decreasing stress.

[Asker]

Thanks man.. how long did it take when you stopped masturbateing to keep it up?

[AdamThomas]

I can't remember exactly as this was quite a while ago, but it did happen pretty quickly, as in with min a week or two I think.

[Asker]

Thanks man... i left it 10 days before the last.. it helped a little but still not great

[AdamThomas]

It takes longer for some than others, you just have to stick at it. The more you have sex/foreplay with her the quicker it will be because then your brain starts to adjust to become more aroused with a real woman rather than porn. It might help to talk about it with her, as embarrassing as that can feel that's what I did with my girlfriend and she understood. Also I think what made it faster for me was the other stuff with diet and lifting, that helps a lot. Whenever I don't eat right or exercise enough even now I notice that my sex drive starts to decrease, and once I start again it's almost like I have a constant boner.

[Sholax]

Death grip is when a guy masterbates over the course of a few years and gradually tightens his grip over time. This causes the penis to require more and more sensation to stay happy due to it's sensitivity fading away. Porn can make your brain require more "action" to keep yourself going which would make real life too softcore for your brain to enjoy. Either quit porn/masterbation cold turkey to rewire your brain and resensitize your penis or buy a toy to remove your death grip. Good luck, friend. :)

[lovydoey]

Maybe because u masturbate too much to the point that u can't have it up in any other way. I heard it happened to some guys. But I don't know talk to ur doctor and see what he recommends. Or if is just a temporary thing

[TuMeManques]

Have you been heavily relying on porn in the past? That leads to ED which is why so many young people are getting it now.

[Asker]

Yes i watched a lot, most nights if not every night.. how can i re train?

[TuMeManques]

I'd seek counseling if you can't stop it on your own.

[Asker]

I can't stop it. I stopped it for 10 days before i saw my girlfriend... still didn't work

[TuMeManques]

You have to stop like forever... Check out fightthenewdrug. org

[Asker]

Thanks

[CheerGirl38139]

The Google is your friend bro.

www.webmd.com/.../frequently-asked-questions-about-erectile-dysfunction

[Live_love_143]

your testosterone levels are low go to the doctor for supplements

[AdamThomas]

Supplements aren't always the answer, nor the best answer. You can boost testosterone naturally and should try that first. Also, most testosterone supplements are useless. They might boost testosterone levels for a short time before they lose the effect, if they even work at all. The only one that really works is actually injecting testosterone with testosterone replacement therapy, and they usually only prescribe that if your testosterone levels are severely low, and their idea of "low" is a lot lower than what most people would call low, so that would be a waste of time.

[Live_love_143]

@AdamThomas hey do you have a phd?

[AdamThomas]

No, but I've done a lot of research into this for many reasons.

[Live_love_143]

@AdamThomas ok than what should he do?

[truthbeknown]

Ok, stop masturbating as that sorta kills your chances. Condoms do kill the mood. More foreplay and more experience. I think you are just nervous.

[Asker]

Thanks, im stopping masturbating i can only seem to get hard when i use my hand..

[truthbeknown]

Masturbating can become addictive to the point your body will only respond to your hand.

[GraveTruth]

It's totally fine if it's a little relaxed in between. If it's going WAY down then you should consider doing stuff that is more exciting before sex or learn how to put a condom on in 1second.

If you are losing an erection during sex then you should go and check it out.

[Levin]

Excessive ejaculation, porn, bad insufficiently physical lifestyle in general? Just a guess.

[TripleAce]

Might be wise to Change girlfriends if she ain't cutting it

https://i.imgur.com/8Sm4rZq.jpg

[Zazzz]

Relax. You're probably just nervous

[Anpu23]

Try a cock ring... it might help.

[Theodorable]

Go to the gym, eat more almonds, more steak, lose weight. Maybe don't use a condom. Get your girl out on b/c

[akadatank44]

Probably jerk off too much.

[TrollMan]

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[EDR80]

Honestly maybe its all in your head. Sometimes if your stressed out or worried about things it can affect your sex life.

[TheFlak38]

A common problem. Don't worry too much about it. Just try to figure out why it happens.

[SoFeckinAddicted]

I can prescribe some Viagra.

[akadatank44]

Than you'd be committing a felony 😛 last time I checked you were a nurse not a doc!

[SoFeckinAddicted]

@akadatank44 it wouldn't be the first time. And then*

[akadatank44]

When was the first time?😱

[SoFeckinAddicted]

@akadatank44 Uh prolly when my mom had a toothache and I wrote her a prescription for antibiotics 😂😂

[Anonymous]

stress...

[Anonymous]

It is pychological. You may want a glass of red wine or two before doing it (but no more than that). It will relax you and allow blood to flow. Try an aspirin hours before as it will increase blood flow. Take vitamins to give ypur body what it needs if you don't eat great.

[Anonymous]

You guys aren't sexually compatible it happens