IS HE A PERVERT OR AM I A PRUDE?
My husband recently bought some novelty gifts intended to spice up our sex life. I feel like I give him sex almost as often as he wants it. The problem is that he watches porn and, I think, gets these ideas about how I am supposed to act in bed. I cannot be those girls. I can't bend like them, look like them and I'm certainly not doing incredible feats of insertion, having group sex, sex with women, etc.
When we have sex it is usually, nearly always, him on top or me on top. Nothing really in between. He has asked to do other positions but I'm not comfortable with them, physically and psychologically. I don't like him screwing me from behind. He frequently asks for blow jobs but I don't enjoy it, and find his girth actually hurts my jaw. So we don't do it. He has expressed disappointment at times but he cannot reach orgasm that way anyway so I assumed that was not a huge deal for him.
He has also asked me to shave my genitals in the past. I trim but I refuse to shave completely. I know he wants to go down on me but I don't enjoy it, I'm just not comfortable with it. Maybe I'm self conscious.
Then of course there is anal sex. It's been a long time, but he used to ask for it. He never got it and I really don't want to try it. So thankfully he just stopped asking.
I don't understand because we have satisfying sex, when he wants. He insists that I'm too conservative, that he's not a pervert. These acts are normal for many couples. So I'm not going to be a porn star anytime soon, but I don't feel that I'm a prude.
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