My boyfriend doesn't want to have sex with me and would rather watch porn. Why?
When it comes to sex though, after the first couple of months it really started to dwindle. We used to have it daily and now it's down to 1-2 times per week. He initiates it but I feel that he just thinks he has to, to keep me happy.
He used to give me oral and spend time on foreplay but now when we do it, it's just sex and that's it. If he finishes and I have yet to have an orgasm, he won't make any further attempt to 'finish me off'. He also doesn't like me giving him oral or handjobs.
A few times I've tried to initiate sex by touching his penis over his clothes and he has moved my hand away. I no longer try to initiate sex at all. It is always him but only twice per week at most, on a Wednesday and Saturday as if he had scheduled the bare minimum to try and keep me happy.
I got upset one night and asked him about it and he said he just doesn't have a high sex drive and it's not about me. He has health issues which regularly gives him an upset stomach and he said this can affect his sex drive.
I check his phone regularly and he looks at porn and probably masturbates nearly every day. He also googled yesterday "I don't want to have sex with my girlfriend" and "I would rather masturbate than have sex". I can't tell you how that made me feel inside.
Do I ask him about it or be patient and accept that this is how our sex life will be? I feel that if I initiate it, then it will just be even more of a turn off for him.
I just want to know what's going on in his mind. Is it the lack of thrill now that we are in a serious relationship or is it that he just finds me less attractive or sexy than before.
I've never felt the way I do about him and there are too many other good things in our relationship to keep me from leaving.
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