Does having sex with a trans woman, make me gay?

Im a straight male, and i act like a typical hetero sexual male. I do not find men attractive at all. im just a kinky guy though however, i have thought about what sex with a trans woman is like. if she looked exactly like a hot female, and indistinguishable from a male but just had a penis, i would consider it. i have thought about being penetrated by girls with strap on dildos, and sucking on them aswell. one time while having sex, the girl pinned me down and stuck her finger in my ass after lubing it up, and i just took it and enjoyed it very much. then i thought about how i would suck a dildo, why not just suck a dick attached to a women? Since i am attracted to women, and the sex is with someone i see as feminine, i still consider it hetero. but its really not... so what the hell am i? its not gay, but not bi, and it can't be hetero. its just kinda weird. i only kind them attractive in a taboo kinky fetish type of way. would this make me heteroflexible?
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  • That's tricky, but I don't think it makes you gay. Sexual activities by themselves are not gay, or straight. Gay or straight depends on who you have sex with. Transsexuals with penises are sort of a grey area, because it's the idea of having sex with a female that has male parts. There's a technical answer, and philosophical one. A transsexual is technically the same sex as you, but you like them because you don't see them that way.

  • I don't know what you are tbh, and my suggestion is to just let it be. If you're attracted to someone or something, just go for it. Holding back because of labels is just not right. I wouldn't pay that much attention to it, tbh. In my opinion the true straight, gay and bi (50/50) people are the minority, most of us are in between that and have our own preferences.

  • Well, that's a tough question. But if you want to have sex with a trans woman who still has a penis, then it's like you're having sex with a man. And that would make you gay.
    But then again, if you're attracted to women, then maybe that makes you bi or hetero flexible
    And there's nothing wrong with that. You like who you like.

  • your not 100 percent gay but I wouldn't consider you gat or even bi. Sexuallity is far more fluent then we pretend it is.

    • then why do people say sexuality is not fluid at all.

    • because a lot of people want things to be black and white so they lump people togetehr and pretend like they know better then the person with the feelings. Don't let anyone else defien you.

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  • Why define yourself? You are what you are. I'm not sure if a label will change anything. You like what you like and you can identify as whatever you want. You don't need to be categorised.

    • exactly

    • It’s because he asked a question therefore he is implying that he doesn’t know if he’s gay or not and is asking for our verification.

  • Yes technically that trans women is biologically male since her birth certificate said she was born a male. Therefore by definintion you’re a homosexual.

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  • Try not focus on a label. If you enjoy it why does it matter?

  • Opinion Owner nailed it. The binary conceptual cage enables the plethora of simpletons to get out of bed in the morning and operate. But its legitimacy is a joke, at best. Be a brace human and love who you want to love. No holds barred my friend.

  • If, by "trans", you mean, they've had the entire sex change done, no. Some people have screwy ideas that trans means, a guy with tits that looks like a girl. For some reason, most people call these, "chicks with dicks". But you never see trans men being called, "guys with gashes".

  • If you're a man and you have sex with someone who has a scrotum then ya you gay.

    • “Derp!” -Simpletonians

  • I think you're probably bircurious. Wanting to try the dick and liking it up the ass is very unheterosexual.

  • I think it at least makes you curious.

  • Biologically: Yes.
    Socially: Maybe.

  • gay or not I love being the bitch, when Im having sex witb trans girls, and they love sticking the big girly dicks inside me,

  • Yes of course it makes you gay

  • No, you were already gay.

  • Pansexual

  • Not gay, not straight. Sexually open minded or flexible is my term for it. I think the big division is where a heterosexual male looks at a beautiful trans woman and is turned on but wouldn’t pursue sex is straight. A heterosexual male that would pursue it is just more open to sex in general. Anal sex can be very pleasing to anyone regardless of gender. If you want to give a blow job, you still aren’t gay, just not limiting yourself. If you want that from a male that looks male then that changes the conversation.

  • I don't like the whole labeling thing. Sex is pleasurable with whomever you have it with. I've had strap-on and dildo sex with a girl. I'm not attracted to a man in the sense where I'm going to cuddle and kiss him. I've had to buy threesome with two girls and myself and another guy and a girl. I think trans women are beautiful. I think a lot of men fantasize about pleasuring another man's genitals they're just not honest with themselves or other people. So my answer to you is stop worrying about other people if that's something you're attracted to or want go for it search it out

  • Either gay or bisexual or pansexual. Just don’t call yourself straight. Anyway, most men are basically gay like you and pretend to be straight.

  • YES.

    A lot of males who are homophobic use this as an excuse to diddle with their love of dick. But if you love dick... you are homosexual.

  • does having gay sex with a trans post op, make me gay?

  • yeah it does

  • "why not just suck a dick attached to a women?"

    Hint: if "she" has a dick attached, "she" is a he.

  • He has a dick... so it makes you bi or gay.

  • I had the same fear and when I first saw her I liked it so much I was shaking and had crazy thoughts about this hot girl and I am straight. I want to know why I acted the way I did and why I submitted to her.

    I am in love with my girl and afraid to tell her these things

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