How to I tell my boyfriend I want to have more sex?

[Anonymous]

this is a bit long and i'm sorry but advice would be very appreciated.

We've been dating for almost 7 months now and we get along so well! and we're very compatible when it comes to sex.

i'm still learning how to be more confident and stuff, and I have a mental illness and traumas which makes simple things communicating and saying what i want a bit hard. so for those who will probably comment "you can't be in a relationship if you can't talk to your partner" or "it's simple just talk!" , bear with me.

I think all I'm asking is advice on how to word it properly or ways I can possibly show him I'm turned on or wanna do different things, I don't know.

Ok so, here's the thing:
I'm kinda kinky and i wanna do several things and I want to have sex a lot.

I understand if he doesn't want to most of the time or if he doesn't wanna do the things i want to, but he is interested in the same things, we just never do them.

I realised we just have sex when he wants to, i want it as well but i realised it only happens when he makes a move. Like if he grabs my ass or my breasts then that's it 90% chance we'll end up doing it because yes I'm that easy and keen. But i don't know how to show him when I'm turned on and i want to have sex. I hate being rejected and it just makes me feel awful if I'd try something and he'd tell me he's just not feeling like it.

Also whenever I'm on my period we never have sex, and i just end up giving him bjs but when i'm on my period it's the time i want sex even more and i just don't get anything. I know he doesn't like period sex so i don't ask him to, i don't feel very comfortable with doing it while i'm on my period either so it's fine, but sex isn't just penetration and stuff.

How can i tell him i want to have sex/more sex? or i wanna do something different?

I don't know if i'm making any sense, it's my first real relationship and i'm a bit upset and don't really know what to do. any advice would be great ! anyways, thanks for reading.

[andrew231]

every girl gets extra horny on their period it's a part of your ovulating cycle. if your having a hard time getting the words out try txting him and telling him that way to get the ball rolling. it's normal to feel embarrassed your doing something that is new. getting totally comfortable talking about sex with your partner is something that takes practice like anything else so my advice is take baby steps and try txting him and tell him that you would like to talk about your sex life more and that you would like to have more sex than you already are but make sure you let him know that you want more because you really like it no sense in making him think it's because he's not doing a good enough job lol.

[summiter]

Look all young guys want sex and a lot of it at that! It is OK to talk about sex. Just bring up the subject and ask him what he likes and does not like with sex. Then take the opportunity to tell him you like it and want more. How old are you two? Was he a virgin when you met? How often do you two have sex right now?

[mirandakanet]

I am severely shy myself... but in this case I think it would be best to talk. Ask questions, he most likely won't be offended by them and you will receive direct answers instead of doing something that he maybe isn't into during sex which could make it awkward. I had a guy ask me multiple questions once about what I liked because he had some kinks. Once he did that I felt comfortable asking him questions back. You learn from each other in this way. Good luck to you, hope you get the advice you are seeking.

[Vivaldi]

You are not shy against ugly guys like myself.

[mirandakanet]

@Vivaldi You don't know me.

[Edymemelord]

YOU SAY IT.
This was MY ISSUE.
And i was too scared to say anything because he gets home late and is tired and he really loves to cuddle and watch movies but I like my nightly fucks and he's always hard but doesn't want to put in effort so I told him and he actually did something. I suggest the same.
A way you can show him you want to have sex is by putting his hand on your body or just grabbing his dick.
Just reply if you want any more tipcs c:

[Tammy94]

You could start by showing him what you typed above, or write him a note saying much the same thing. You could also arrange a signal with him to let him know you want sex, such as . . . i don't know, something simple but obvious, like leaving a lipstick on the bed or hanging a shirt on the door or something. Best of luck!

[JessicaP92]

I just grab his dick k and he gets the idea hahaha or I'll just sit next to him and say baby I'm wet and BOOM haha he wants it. its your man and your dick too u know hahaha don't be shy

[Asker]

hahaha thank you! i don't know why i'm so shy, it's ridiculous

[JessicaP92]

its normal haha I was sooooooo shy when I first met my partner in but now he can't keep me off him hahaa. in fact he thinks I want it a little too much -.-

[JessicaP92]

just think, every guy wants a chock that can take care of herself and take charge haha he won't say no

[Shaft50]

@JessicaP92, too much? No such thing! :-)

[Asker]

he just seems so chill sometimes? and whenever we're walking down the street or even drinking at a concert my head just goes: wow we could have sex... right now... somewhere and then i just look at him and he just looks like if i tried or said something he'd be like: umm.. maybe not right now? :/

[JessicaP92]

don't know till u say something right :P I have done that lol my partner is a bouncer at a club and I went to that club to wait till he finishes and we stayed back for staff drinks then went elsewhere and I said hey we should do here in a joking way (not joking haha) and he said yeah let's do it hahaha and this is right next to his WORK 😂😂😂 if he knocks u back then tell him he misses out

[JessicaP92]

actually... before u even say anything just feel his crotch lmao that'll make him say yes 👌😂

[multiilevel]

Wow damn, women do that as well!!

[OlderAndWiser]

Ask him if he wants to go to bed early tonight. If he says that he is not yet sleepy, tell him that you weren't planning on going to sleep right away.

[Vindicated]

You say that him touching ur breasts or butt helps is a good movement for you to have sex with him.. Do the same.. Touch him down there.. Touch him elsewhere.. Kiss him.. I mean it is not that hard

[NJ_Casanova]

My girls just need to kiss me on my neck/caress me. Your guy might need you to grab his ass/D.

[NJ_Casanova]

Wearing sex outfits is another way to say that you want more.

[CapnHawk]

If he grabs your butt and boobs, you grab his crotch. He'll get the message.

[Asker]

but how can i do it first? like, he already does that and i get the message but he's not getting the message when I want to do it. I mean he doesn't have boobs and he just likes when i grab his butt when we're doing it i guess, otherwise he'll think i'm joking.

[CapnHawk]

You come up behind him, put your arms around him, hold him tight, and move down his pants. Unless he's dead, he'll get it.

[Asker]

thank you! hahah

[SoCalRon]

I think this is a difficult situation. I wanted to have sex with my wife more often than she wanted it. I eventually convinced her to go to couples counseling with me and that helped.

[anyaa]

talk dirty randomly if he rejects you honestly find a guy with higher sex drive

[bunanababa]

kiss him like there's tomorrow while grabbing him down there or simply just whisper in his ear and say you want him inside of you while feeling him down there. He will get the point

[Browneye57]

period sex in the shower.
If you want it just say 'come fuck me'. Or take your clothes off and parade around, he'll get the hint.

[Titanic1912]

Well, I'll only do it if my future wife will want it. I'm going to watch and wait. If she's doing something that is going to turn me on, I'm going to turn her on in return. If she wants sex, I'll give it to her, but if she doesn't want it, I'll wait and do it again some other time. Same thing with me.

[DannibleTheCannible]

try the line "nice shoes, wanna fuck?"

[Christop]

Just tell him "babe I want more sex"

[DizzyAster]

Turn off the light, and jump him when he gets in.
Take him down and undo his pants, start riding him.

[Dragan]

Try "Honey I need more"

[Liisjak]

Tie him to a chair... problem solved. You might even use the blue pill, just not too much. If he ods on viagra then it's gonna be hard to close the casket lol

[Dthefirst]

U just have to sit down with him and say "Babe, I've been wondering, could we have... more sex? "

[WhoStoleMySock]

Open your legs, point to your vagina, say "now".

[masterkamasutra]

Talk openly, why not be expressive.

[lucky1234567]

try wearing hot clothes

[Anonymous]

In my past relationship, I'd start kissing my ex on the neck when she had perio, because that turned her on and she'd start playing with herself.

After some time she'd just say "kiss me" and point to her neck, so you should try that too. It's not direct but it leads in long ways, and I'm pretty sure he won't turn you down

[Anonymous]

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