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My girlfriend gave me permission to hookup with someone else?

I'm 24 years old and I've always identified myself as a lesbian. I've never been attracted to men, never dated men, and I've never had sex with a man.

My girlfriend and I have been together almost 2 years. I'll be honest, the sex sucks. She has a low sex drive and it wasn't until almost a year into the relationship that we had sex for the first time. &When we did have sex, it was rarely. She has never liked giving oral so she eventually introduced the idea of using a strap on, on me. I agreed to trying it. I loved it. And since then I've been craving penis in me. I imagine it would feel better than silicone.

I still don't feel attracted to men though, and I can't see myself ever pursuing a relationship with a man. I was telling one of my close friends about this issue and my girlfriend saw the messages. She of course felt really insecure about it.

But this was 6 months ago and since then my girlfriend keeps bringing up the idea that I should hookup with a man once to feed my curiosity. She tells me that I have her permission as long as she knows before hand.

The moral part of me thinks that I absolutely can not do that because I care a lot about my girlfriend and don't want any regret of sleeping with someone else, perhaps I am just craving it since our sex is bad, but on the other hand I'm curious. We plan to move in together soon and settle down, and I'd hate to continue with these cravings or end up having to end the relationship later on to experiment.

Please give me some advice on what to do.
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Most Helpful Guys

  • As someone who dates a girl who recently as in upon our anniversary of hooking up which was like one or two years ago. Admitted she was willing to switch her relationship limits to be a bisexual girl. As in before hand she was purely lesbian and had no clue how to act around guys.

    My tip would be to ask if any of your girlfriends have guy friends who are straight. AND NOT ex boyfriends those are not good ideas. Unless your goal is to make your potiential bisexual first date be really awkward.

    I mean I'm going on now what is now 3 years or at least what my niece says 3 years since I was made. Her honorary uncle. via being the boyfriend of her favorite aunt (only one). xD Just be careful of who you choose and remember to recognize if the guy is using you.

  • Be with a man that would be open to having a relationship with both you and your girlfriend long term, that way if it is something you need, maybe you can both still stay together. Would you be more interested in a man if he would dress all soft and silky and be submissive to you?
    I always thought girls that liked other girls would enjoy a man that likes being all soft silky and submissive.
    Who is more in charge in your relationship normally? In bed, and outside of the bedroom?

    • Yes, if I were to hookup with a man, I'd need him to be soft, submissive, and gentle. I'd need to feel as comfortable as possible in the weird situation of a random hookup. Outside of the bedroom she is more in charge. In the bedroom, I am more in charge compared to her but I'm not super dominant overall. I'm the only person she has ever had sex with so I just let her do what she's comfortable with.

    • Pm/add for another couple questions?

    • sent you a pm

Most Helpful Girls

  • Try some penis ! It's truly amazing ~~~ 😍
    First off being serious now , if your sex life sucks why it's around? It's she had penis before then maybe she's not a full lesbian. I know because my sister was a lesbian for around 2 years she was serious with that girl and even said yes to marriage. The girl gave her a ring and it just didn't work out even though the girl loved her. It's sucks but think about it... she's a lesbian that doesn't eat p*ssy? wtf? No she likes the idea of a woman but is probably unsure of what she really wants. I'm sorry to say it's just how I see it because I know a few lesbians trust they love eating girls out it's why they are lesbian...

  • My Question Is; Why would you even Wantto Move in with Someone, hun, who you already Know doesn't Like Joe?
    Think it Over, it is Not going to work Living under the same Rough Roof. This is now a Domino Affect, where she is even Telling you that you can Hook up with Another Jill.
    Good Luck and Don't Pack, maybe Pack it in. xx

  • you're stuck. you're damned if you do you're damned if you don't.

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  • Try a hot guy for a hookup and see if you like it. If you don't then it is time to move on.

  • So she has been with a guy? And has no desire to be with one too?

    If sex is important to you and it's been this bad for a while.. I'd get therapy/help before you move into together.

  • Well, I can see this ending in tears...

  • I actually had a friends with benefits relationship with a girl that identified as lesbian. She was in a committed relatonship like urs but she "loved dick sometimes" she was super secretive about it cuz her SO had no clue she liked guys at all. anytime her SO was out of town or really busy with work, we had like a sex marathon : )

  • did you made her cum and reach her to orgasm? did she cum while having SEX with you? I guess she's bi and thinks you're the same, she's just trying to make you happy. I am sure you'll enjoy it if you do with some experience person, it's not likely to have partner Just have some fuck buddies.

    • She identifies as a lesbian as well. She has never dated a guy or had sex with a guy. I make her cum during sex but she's never reached orgasm, ever. She's never had an orgasm in her life because she never cared to experiment with her body growing up due to her low sex drive.

    • I really believe and feel that once if you make her reach orgasm (with/without her consent) she'll not gonna let you go to anyone else.

  • Lol, she is obviously testing you or something.

    • If you enjoy the feeling of the strap-on, tell her to use it more often on you.

  • i wouldn't do that if i love my partner

  • So go for it. Have sex with a guy. Preferably someone that you know like a freind. You have a higher sex drive hers will never be as high as your so take the chance to rev your engine and let loose. If you want to still stay with her. Then get pregnant and raise the kid with her. Really your morals don't matter she gave you the go ahead. Like your mum telling you to have a fresh cookie out of the over before dinner.

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