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I'm not sexually attracted to my Fiance?

is something wrong with me? , I'm not sexually attracted to my Fiance, he's a nice guy, he gifts me a lot of things but I never bothered to open them up in excitement, I take them, thank him and I open it the next day or I just forget about it. I'm not trying to be rude. This guy is madly in love with me, he's 29 and he's a civil engineer. I'm just a student, I'm not really good at studies, I'm ok I guess. I'm 19. He finds that spark in me and I find no spark in him. sometimes I feel guilty, I told him it's not going to work out and he cried, that scared me and my parents wants me to marry him. am I doing something wrong? it feels like I'm missing something in life, I've never been in love, I actually want to fall in love with someone and marry him, I'm not a gold digger. I'm scared, I find him normal and nothing special. Most of the time I don't even care how he is or what he's doing but he texts me 24/7. He freaks out and calls everyone if I don't answer him. he always calls me when I'm in the class, I don't receive calls while I'm studying, I texted him saying * I'm in the class, I'll call later * and he told me, he doesn't care if I study or not, it's ok if I don't study and he got mad at me, he also said that he doesn't care about my studies and to stop studying further. he's too over protective, I find that annoying.
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Most Helpful Girls

  • Don't get married to him and call it off. Period. Never get married to somebody you have no desire to share and have sex with. Marriage strives on sex. This relationship has always been one-sided. You either find somebody you are willing to have sex with or just continue to deal with him. You shouldn't marry anybody you don't share that desire to. It would be a mistake. Let this guy go. It would not be a marriage. He has real serious issues and he needs to see a psychiatrist.

  • Break it off. Right no. This is not good for you, since you will likely never love him. Why would you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody like that? Also, it certainly isn't good for him. Relationships only work if both people are equally committed.

  • break up with him who cares what others say you're 19 you'll definitely meet someone hotter and better you have time

    • I told him it's not going to work out and he cried. he said he'll kill himself if I don't marry him.

    • still you gotta leave he has issues and whatever happens it isn't your fault would you actually marry him and be unhappy the rest of you life NO you leave and tell your family they will help you I know they like him but if you have crazy text messages to prove it they will help do this for you.

Most Helpful Guys

  • You need to end your engagement and your relationship and move on. You are effectively lying to him - but to marry him you'd not only be lying to him, but to the entire world, plus adding legal complications. That's WRONG.

    Come clean, tell him the truth, and end it NOW. And don't get into another relationship until you ARE sexually attracted to the guy - or until you find an asexual guy that you like.

  • "am I doing something wrong?"

    Yeah, you are with someone you have NO attraction for. This will only end up 1 of 3 ways.
    1. you marry, have children, are unhappy, cheat
    2. you dump him, find someone else
    3. you marry, have children, dump him and find someone else.

    This is not going to go well.

    • I've been thinking about the first option you said. I'm not someone who'll cheat but I'm scared that it might happen. it's so hard to love him, I tried but it's not happening... I'm not only spoiling my life but also his, I feel guilty.

    • Do the right thing, and dump him already. To hell with what others think.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • um what's the point of having a fiance if you pretty much don't give a fuck about him and not even interested in him. just break up with him

  • You, you are doing something wrong. You are staying with a guy you dont love.

    • Two things: 1. You are right. I have had this situation happen to me before and I would rather just be told upfront so that I don't have to deal with the heart break. 2. That can't really be you in your photo.

    • @alfonsosloan45 if you say so...

  • He isn't right for you.

  • Then why did you become his fiance

    • HAHAHAHA

    • arranged marriage? I've been telling him from the beginning that it's not going to wotk out but he wants me badly. he cries.

    • Ohhh i see. Honestly, you just have to break it off. The longet you wait, the harder he'll take it. Most people aren't as suicidal as they say. He says that to control you. Do you think he would hurt you?

  • he is not going to kill himself . he being a baby is how he's trying to control you .
    send him and your parents a link to this page and let them all read it .

  • Be honest. Tell him you're just not feeling it. Better now than in 4 years when you're married with child.

    • I'm scared I'll be killed. my parents loves me a lot but they told me that they'll not consider me as their child if I leave him. and they'll get me married to someone worse and will make my life a living hell because I'll have to be punished. they also told me they'll never talk to me.

    • So is "arranged marriage" the custom where you're from?

    • no it's not. I'm an emotional person. it's sad when my parents say they'll not love me anymore if I don't get married to him.

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  • Honestly the guy seems really nice but overprotective which is not so good. If you are not in love even aftr trying a million times then letgo, love is a feeling which u don't have to compel yourself to fall in, it just happens with time.

  • Why are you with him in the first place?

    • he said he'll die if I leave him. what if he really dies? :/

    • Why did you start dating him in the first place?

    • yeah wtfff why the fuck did you do that >.<

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  • You're hurting him. break it off so he could find someone who can love him back and so you could find someone you really love

    • I told him it's not going to work out but he doesn't want to let go. he cries or he tells me he'll die without me. what am I supposed to do..

    • He needs to. Ignore him and block him from your life. It's for his own good

  • "my parents wants me to marry him."

    The worst reason there is!

    • I know.. I love my parents, they said they'll not love me anymore if I don't marry him.

    • If you marry him you'll no longer like your parents.

  • Leave him. Its not fair for you or for him.

  • Is your Fiance Black to begin with?

    • I don't care about race. no he's not.

  • You need to break up with him and live your life and do your own thing.

    • he doesn't want to leave. what should I do? how to make him go out of my life?

    • You just have to be really firm. Tell him you don't want to be with him. Anything he does after that is his own choice.

  • is this arrange marriage coz I think it is

    • yes, it is.

    • I knew it than give time to your relationship it's gonna settle

  • golddigger. shame on you

    • what did I even do? ... I don't remember asking things from him. I never even asked my parents to buy me stuffs. I like to depend on myself.

    • you exploit him!!!

  • He's just not doing it for you. Leave him and let him find someone that is attracted to him.

  • are you Indian? and is it arrange marriage thing?

    • no, I'm not. and yes, it's an arranged marriage.

    • I am pretty sure you'll get attached to him soon. just try your imagination

    • :/ not with someone who harassed me.

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  • Nope you're just like every other woman
    -normal

  • You are doing something wrong. You keep being with him even though you don't want him.

  • Break up now. You will ruin his life as well as yours if you marry him.

    • I know that, I even told him it's not going to work out but he isn't listening. he calls my parents each times and he cries. it's very annoying and I feel guilty. I told him a lot if times.

    • lot of*

    • Stop talking to him. You've told him. Breaking up does not require mutual consent - you tell him and its done.

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