Why do people still value sex and virginity so much?

[Anonymous]

It made sense that you should stay a virgin some centuries ago given that religion was the single most important thing about everyone's lives and you needed to "prove" to be a virgin in your honeymoon or your marriage would be canceled and you would have no lands and blah.

But honestly, in the 21st century, what is the importance of virginity? It's literally bullshit, you don't 'lose' anything when you have sex. And why does sex matter so much anyway? Just penis in vagina (or whatever floats your boat), in and out for 15 minutes if you're lucky, the Earth doesn't stop revolving around its axis, you still have bills to pay and socks to wash, like... everything is the same! Why are those things such a big deal? And even if we consider them to be important to US, why do we still place judgement and are evil to people who don't share the same values as us?

[Anonymous]

Good question. It's silly. Sex isn't all that deep and shouldn't be what you use to define yourself, that's just crazy. Fortunitly in many places it's not that big of a deal anymore, the people who make it into one aren't the type you want to be with anyway they are usually wrestling with their own issues. Losing your virginity doesn't change you or make you anything other then what you already are... the best it can do is change your perception of yourself... but you could have done that on your own without the sex if you wanted. Having sex and enjoying it doesn't make you less reliable or less likely to settle down... many people go through phases and want to enjoy what life has to offer before settling down, some guys feel like that's just for them.. let them just try to stay away if you can or use 'em and toss 'em when your done which ever is your style.

[lapprentice]

Well... my parents care, and since I don't want to hurt my parents, I chose not to have sex. I don't want to end up pregnant or with STDs, and I don't think that rushing in to have sex is a wonderful thing, as the first guy will probably end up leaving you if you don't find the right person, and you end up bonding to them, but they don't give a shit coz you're just another girl on their fuck it list. I don;t really bring my religion into my dating life, but love is patient and kind, and I think that right there, that sorta proves, that maybe waiting will make it mean more. No, it's not important to everyone, it's all a matter of opinion. but would you rather fall in love with a girl who waited for you and she's clean and hasn't got a kid or any STDs, or fall for one who may have an STD but doesn't know?

[jemjem2017]

for me it is important. i value my self and i respect my self, i just don't want to have casual sex or sleeping with a guy i don't know. every one has a opinion to this issue and every one has their own beliefs and they have their own lives they can do what ever they want to do. i grew up in conservative catholic family but my brothers are not virgin anymore. but me i still value my virginity why? because for me sex is something that i want to value. i want to make love to the one and only person and that's my future husband. for me my virginity is the most precious gift i could ever give to him. i respect my self and i value my dignity. so for me it is very important and i value it standing proud to be virgin

[Anonymous]

I saw it that way too, penis in vagina. When you don't get enough love or acceptance or peace from your parents, a lot of women want penis in vagina. When you meet the right guy you just want his penis in your vagina. Some people don't need penis in vagina and can wait.

[Browneye57]

Sex is the glue for a man-woman relationship. Without it you may as well just be roomates.

Also, women can't really come to grips wit the male sex drive because he has some 15-25 times as much testosterone in his system compared to you - it is the sex-drive hormone. If women could even come close to understanding this (it's impossible) it would solve a lot of relationship issues.

You're right about the 'virgin-thing' though - unless there is some religious reason, but it is best to wait 'till you're really ready and sure you want it with the one you're contemplating.

[mathewk98]

One argument I heard from traditionalists is If you make it taboo to have sex outside of marriage and once you are married it makes sex feel like something more important that you saved that moment for a special person and now you get express all the curiosity and excitement about exploring the sexuality with your partner all at one time. they think this makes it more enjoyable and helps the couple make a conection literally and figuratively. keep in mind when this was more main stream most marriages were aranged by their parents.

[truthbeknown]

Awesome question! I agree 100%. Virginity is something to fucking to get rid of and never look back!

[notsureofmyusername]

You see sex as only Penis-vagina. Others see it as something more intimate so it's not taken very lightly. Do what you want with your life, let others do the same.

[RasmusAiken]

Just as people choose other things they value (foods, cars, vacations, club activities, music) some people choose to value purity, cleanliness, a spotless home. There may be no practical value to any of these choices. But to them, loss of virginity suggests being less than pure.

[Berethor]

It's simply really, why would a guy want an girl that get fucked by other guys? it's disgusting, also sluts tend to be unreliable, that's why they are not wife maternal.

tvtropes.org/.../NatureAdoresAVirgin

[NJ_Casanova]

I think girls do.. most men don't... unless they are insecure/religious or are very small below the belt.

[Twiggles]

It's got little to do with that and more to do with biological reactions we've inherited. Also cultural differences. Like some animals mate for life, others will have five different partners in a day etc. It's all psychological and too personal to be expanded properly in any way that could apply to the majority.

[jestingdemon]

Because if you're not careful you still can end up pregnant and alone or alone with children and that's not easy and isn't all that good for the kids. Basically it's to make people cautious but some people take it a bit to seriously.

[suckitbe]

Because those that would separate morality (largely sex related as to how you treat your body) from politics (how we conduct society) understand neither. To counter your 15 min example: just squeeze a trigger, split second decision, only a minute in your life, should that carry any weight? If virginity means nothing to you that's fine, but don't expect all guys to settle for a whore once you're done playing.

[pavlove]

i don't think they do. this site gives a skewed view of the relevance of virginity in modern culture

[Decentguy]

i do value that a lot

[ILoveChicks]

This site is full of prudes. In the real world, there are less prudes.

[youngmatureman]

tbh I'm a virgin and would love to get rid of my virginity as fast as possible

[Blitzkrieger]

I dont know. I feel like im the only guy who is normal about sex.

[ASAdasdTYU]

because I'm virgin and I want someone virgin like me

[Anonymous]

sex is nothing

[Anonymous]

You're a whore.

[Asker]

True

[Anonymous]

Lmaof 😂😂😂reading this I didn't value mine that much and I've always wondered why my friends did because the only thing that I cared about is that the first guy I had sex with doesn't turn out to be such an ass hole.