Why do I want to fuck her so badly?

[Anonymous]

I've been friends with this girl for a while. I used to just think of her as a friend, but I want more. I tried to put a move on her a couple years ago before summer started (I kissed her kinda on the neck before we left) and she blushed really hard and smiled, but didn't seem too flirty over the summer. When we got back she acted awkward and last year was awkward between us. This year though we've gotten past it. She's really friendly for the most part. She's not the nicest person in the world but every time I see her there's a bit of tension. I always think about the possibility of banging her. Usually when I'm with people, no matter how attractive, I don't think about sex. But every time I see her it at least crosses my mind. I don't know what I can do though. She doesn't get too much attention from guys that I know of. Maybe at the end of the year I could just shoot her a random text? I'm not obsessed with this girl but when I see her I definitely feel horny and it makes me think about this.

[deraz24]

Try to start some kind of relationship, start talking to her more so it'll loosen up the tension

[Asker]

Yeah I mean we talk casually when we see each other and I feel extremely comfortable around her... but we're sorta in the same friend group (which doesn't really hang out very often, maybe once every few weeks). It's people from freshman year and we don't all connect together very often. I just don't know how to maximize my chance of her wanting to also bang me haha

[deraz24]

Like I said if you constantly talk to her and build up on friendship you'll get close, make her feel good emotinally. You already said she blushed when you kissed her that one time, it shouldn't be that hard but it'll take a little time

[Asker]

I admit it was awkward as heck, but it was also one of the bravest things I've ever done haha. I was really feeling it for her then. And her roommate was packing in the back of the room and may have seen it but I didn't even care then. It was hard to tell if she liked it. But yeah I'll start texting her every now and then to see how she is doing

[deraz24]

Lol yea better get on it if you want any chance, people don't wait forever

[Asker]

Yeah I'm not gonna get my hopes up about it but lately I've been feeling horny af and I want to experience sex with a girl I know I could love passionately

[deraz24]

It doesn't hurt to try lol

[Asker]

Whenever that first time happens though, I'm gonna go beast mode

[deraz24]

Hope it happens soon lol and don't kill her

[Asker]

hahahaha didn't mean I'd be that forceful. Lots of kissing licking will be done tho

[deraz24]

Lol 👌👌

[Asker]

:P :P :P :P :P :P :P

[deraz24]

Did you talk to her more lol

[Asker]

I tried. We did a couple things in our friend group that were fun, but she's so bad at communication. Like I ran into her on campus on Valentine's day and she told me her class got cancelled because her professor was sick and said that her night was free except she had to do lab reports. I texted her that night asking how her reports were going and she never answered. Saw her on campus the next day and she basically ignored me. I said hey what's up and she just walked right past me. Such a classic. I'm done now

[deraz24]

Aw no maybe she'll come around

[Asker]

I don't think so. I've come to the conclusion that I need to stop trying for girls for quite a while. I'm never successful, and it just makes me feel bad and waste a lot of time thinking about it. And the more I think about it the less I see relationships being worth all of this effort and pain. I'm done being teased into thinking I can end up with a beautiful woman and then basically get stepped on and laughed at afterwards. Why did you comment on this again though? Hasn't it been like a month if not more?

[Asker]

It just seems insane to keep going after people who clearly won't want me. It's stupid. Why try texting this girl who clearly is making no effort for me? No girl has ever been truly interested in me, so the right move is to give up. Stop torturing myself for good

[deraz24]

Bc you picked me for mho and wanted to follow up, and pls don't be one of those bitter dudes as soon as you give up you could've just missed your girl, just bc it don't work then doesn't mean it nvr will. Take a break to recooperate and try again, good luck

[Asker]

Logic says to not try again, and logic has made me happy. My dick tells me to try to get girls even though I can't. That makes me unhappy. I'm not irrational, and I'm not going to keep putting myself through this. If I hated myself then maybe. But luckily, I do not

[deraz24]

I wish you luck dude I wish I could help

[Asker]

Don't worry about it. Not everyone is meant to find love or whatever, and I'm glad that it's not my main goal in life. It sucks because I will always have sexual urges, but it's not the end of the world

[deraz24]

Its not the end at all you'll get someone eventually pls believe that

[Asker]

nah haha. certainly not expecting it at this point, that would just be stupid. i kind of enjoy being alone too. the rejections fuel me

[deraz24]

Okay keep that attitude then bc when you find someone it'll make it that much better lol

[Asker]

Not sure I want one anymore. Being treated like the worst guy on the planet by every woman I've liked hasn't exactly given me a reason to keep trying. Sure there are sexually attractive girls, but they're fucking awful people

[deraz24]

See don't think that tho we're all not bad, someones gonna like. you I know it sucks for the time being but it will get better when you least expect it

[lareina05]

you could do it but she might get a little clingy afterwards

[OlderAndWiser]

You want to see if you can have a relationship with her, or you just want to bang her?

[Asker]

Gonna sound bad but bang. We're graduating after this year and don't live close at all

[OlderAndWiser]

Would she be okay with just hooking up?

[Asker]

I don't know man. I don't want to risk asking the question until the end of the year though

[spoonman2014]

It is called lust