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Should I break up with my boyfriend?

My boyfriend and I have been together for a year now. One of the best years of my life. Maybe the best year of my life so far. I was his first girlfriend, and he was my first serious relationship. We were each other's firsts, and we waited until we were ready. We practiced safe sex. We wanted to do it right. We sent each other nudes and were playful. I never ONCE regretted losing my virginity to him.
However, my parents found out about it and they're furious. Mostly because this isn't the first time they've caught me sexting someone. I've relapsed/did it again after being clean about 3 to 4 times. The whole situation ruined my reputation and my self esteem. It's taken years for me to accept my sexuality and myself. My boyfriend knows of my past because I told him a long time ago. He accepted me as I am and what I was, and he loves me for me. And that just made me fall for him more. I never had someone who accepted me even after what I did.
My parents don't want to see my boyfriend's face ever again. They don't want him at my house. They are close to kicking me out, and they would have already if I didn't have school. I already accepted the fact that my parents think I'm a slut and they won't be able to see me differently.
I don't think this will be able to "blow over" because i fucked up so many times already. I love my boyfriend so much, but I don't think this is a healthy relationship anymore.

My questions:
Is sending nudes to your bf/gf slutty or not normal?
Am I a slut?
Should I break up with him?
What are your thoughts on the situation?

I'm going to my two older sisters' house this weekend and hopefully they'll be able to give me advice. But I would like more opinions. I'm so lost. Every time I think about him, my brain starts spiraling out of control. I don't know what to do anymore.
You should stay with him.
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You should break it off.
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Most Helpful Guys

  • First off many adults have a sexual relationship amongst texts as well. You're kinda on the younger side but that doesn't mean it's not frowned upon. The only problem with you being 18 is if they aren't 18. If he's 17 even I would stop with the nude photos but continue with the "dirty" talk in texts or even phone calls. A slut would mean you're either making sexual advances on him in public or with different people other than your boyfriend. In my opinion you shouldn't break up with him, but you should realise that as long as you live with your parents and use their phone plan (if you are) then there's a point where you need to calm down the conversations and respect their rules whenever in their house. This would also mean NO sex inside their household. If they feel it's wrong then that's the rule of the house. But, you are in fact 18 so sex isn't something your parents can control out of the house. Now if they know you had sex somewhere they're automatic thought process goes to : our daughter is out there having sex, who knows what else she does". Even if they seem to be going overboard they have a reason to considering your past sexual texts.

    All in all, I say you should stay with the boyfriend. Finish up school, and save up enough to start your life being responsibly in love.

  • What do you mean by clean?

    And no if he is your first and only guy you're not a slut. But this whole "accepted you for what you did" thing is confusing me. What did you do? And what you mean relapse? You're 18 for crying out loud.

Most Helpful Girls

  • It doesn't seem like your boyfriend is the problem. I would try to keep your relationship with him going if it's at all possible.

    Sending nudes does have risks, but it is normal. That said, you talk about it almost like an addiction. If you want to stop sending nudes and you are having a hard time resisting, that's something you should see a counselor about. If this is the case, letting your parents know that you want to change your behavior for good this time (and are willing to take action to make it happen) might get you back in their good graces.

    However, if sending nudes is something you enjoy and feel good about, and you don't want to stop, then ultimately that should be your business. However, your parents are your parents. If you are dependent on them, then you need to try to respect their feelings on these matters while you are living under their roof.

  • 1. I don't send any nude photos to anyone so I don't know if that is really normal but I think it is not.
    2. It is how you see yourself and how you really do things. Don't listen to anyone to define who you are. If you have decided to changed then proved them that you are a changed person now. Don't look back of the past mistakes you had done. Have a mindset of what you wanted to achieve in the future.
    3. If this the situation and you are under the roof of your parents I think you should obey them. By doing that maybe they will see you as a changed person. You should talk to your boyfriend about it and you must agree with whatever the two of you decided on this situation.

  • If you are old enough to be sending nudes this is perfectly acceptable behavior... However as many girls lie about their age and I don't see why your parents couldn't kick you out unless you are in high school... if you are actually under 18 it is ILLEGAL to send or receive your nudes, even if the guy receiving them is under eighteen as well. It's considered receiving and distributing child pornography and you could be charged.

    If you are actually the age your profile says then kudos to you, you have a normal sex life. Just make sure your face isn't in your naked photos and it'll be all good! Don't leave the boyfriend! As far as I can tell he hasn't done anything wrong!

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • I think you'd be throwing away a happy relationship for your parents' approval if you did break up with him.

  • You have a problem with your parents not your boyfriend. I think you'll regret breaking it off with him when the source of your problem is your parents being to far into your business.

  • You are fine, your parents are insane.

  • 1. Don't send nudie pics of yourself. To anyone. Unless you want a whole lot of other people to see them.
    2. Move out. Get your own place, pay your bills, support yourself. Do whatever you want then.

    There. Problems solved. :)

  • I've seen you post these question s like 3 times, screw your parents, your life your rules

  • I send nudes to my boyfriend all the time, but hust him. I've sent them before once but wasn't too proud of that. But stay w him you're an adult

  • Your parents sound very conservative

    • My dad is more of an old school Asian guy. My mom tries to be more open about stuff. But yeah, they are pretty conservative now that I think about it.

    • I think what's worse is they don't seem to care about your happiness

    • They told me that they feel embarrassed and hurt about what I did.

  • Sending nudes is not a good thing as it may lead some problems late

  • Your parents are the problem... not you

  • 1.) I wouldn't exchange nudes, but far be it from me to judge people who do.
    2.) No, you're not a slut.
    3.) I don't see why you shouldn't stay with him.

  • First of all, YOU SHOULD STAY WITH YOUR BOYFRIEND FUCK YOUR PARENTS
    then your other questions:
    1) Honestly I find it gross and meaningless to send nudes but not slutty, you have the right to do it If you want to
    2) Are you a prostitute? Are you having sex with people to get money? I'm guessing the answer is no - therefore no you're not a slut. You are in a relationship and you're in love. You can do whatever you want.
    3) You should definitely stay with your boyfriend.
    4) Your parents are overreacting If you are truly 18 and not 14. They are abusing you emotionally If they told you that they'd kick you out of the house. Your parents are unfair, immature, and OLD. Ask them If they've ever been in love cause they obviously sound like they've never been.

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