I'm a straight girl but I never get aroused by looking at guys?

[Anonymous]

I was always cognizant of the fact that whenever I saw girls in a raunchy way, a music video or whatever, I would get turned on. When I started masturbating etc, I would watch girl on girl videos and get really turned on. But I want to be with a guy in the future not with girls; I literally cannot make the same emotional connection with a girl. But in real life, seeing a guy rarely turns me on. I can acknowledge they are hot but I never actually get aroused. When I see picture of guys or something it does nothing. When I see a random picture of a girl it does do something. When I see an attractive woman I can't help but admire her. Either way, woman are pretty sexy. I am not attracted to girls but I do get turned on by girls and lesbian porn. Seeing guys doesn't do much for me. I appreciate their attractiveness and sometimes think "oh, it would be nice to date him", but I'm not lusting over anyone. But I am 100% certain I'm straight, since I have no desire to be emotionally or sexually involved with a woman. But seeing sexy women turn me on. I don't know quite where I'm going with this except that I totally feel you! One of my friend said that, [In general, I don't find pictures/videos of guys attractive. Does nothing for me. I also don't find myself remotely attracted to the kind of guys whose "attractiveness" is strictly physical. So, basically, pictures of muscley dudes actively turn me off. However, when I'm around a guy that I find attractive and I'm in a relationship with like my fiance the oddest things turns me on. Upper back/shoulder blade area, as he moves. The way he smiles. The way he smells. In general, the way he moves and exists in a room. His personality and how it shines through even when he's totally silent. :)] What happens when I'm in an actual relationship or married and I can't get turned on just by looking at my SO? I feel like that would be horrible. I feel turn on seeing sexy women or naked women but seeing guys do nothing for me.

[Anonymous]

I feel the same way but I'm bisexual. first off, women are beautiful. like we have all these nice curves and soft skin and pretty hair... ok so yeah I feel like all girls admire other girls. but the sexual attraction... thats attraction. I struggled a lot with it when I was younger, thought I was straight but I'm bisexual haha. I don't get turned on so easily with guys, I have to have an emotional connection or at least some chemistry. looking at pictures of sexy guys does nothing for me. and yet I date guys more than girls. Don't know why because I never had problems with girl relationships. I've never had sex with a girl though, just make out.

anyway

I think maybe you're bisexual or lesbian and just don't want to admit it or you don't understand. not sure just my opinion...

[RiYad]

do you get turned on so easily with girls if you haven'y any emotional connection or any chemistry? looking at pictures of sexy girls arouse you?

[Asker]

Can you tell me how can a girl have sex with girl and what is the difference between make out and sex when two girl is involved?

[Opinion Owner]

kind of hard to explain. if a girl is being sexy on purpose it turns me on but I used to be a dancer and girls would change together and it doesn't phase me because obviously I respect that they are t trying to be sexual you know what I mean?

[Opinion Owner]

and sex is sex. oral sex, using toys, touching etc

[Asker]

Sex is penis inside the vagina. without it everything is make out.

[Opinion Owner]

no... oral sex is called oral sex because it's sex

[Opinion Owner]

if you orgasm, it's sex

[RiYad]

I ask looking at pictures of sexy girls arouse you? What do you feel when you see sexy guy and sexy girl

[Opinion Owner]

just pictures nor really. if the girl is doing something sexy then yes. as for guys... I don't know guys are just... I don't know lol. I don't know how to explain

[RiYad]

then "sexy picture" what does it do? what is your internal feelings when you see sexy guys or sexy girls? Tingle, turn on, indifferent, attraction. what?

[Faye4ever]

Women are naturally more sexual appealing than men, in simple terms of shape and size and bone structure... I don't know. But I hope you get what I mean. Women exude sexy different than men. A man being sexy is not by different angles he's in and faces. It's hot when he stands there, with a nice solid body, not doing anything sexual per say. Men are hot, and you want to have sex with them, but they don't like exude sex the way women do. So I do understand what you mean. It sounds like you can find a guy sexy, its just when you like him.

[RiYad]

Women are naturally more sexual appealing than men that's why all women aroused by women? Sexual orientation is all about sex appeal and sexy body? There is many guys who is sexier than any women but guys never aroused by those men.

[Faye4ever]

@RiYad Its just my own opinion, and its hard to explain. I feel female sexuality is seen and expressed differently than a mans. I feel when a woman is attracted to a man, it arouses feelings are aesthetically sexy? But it is sexy to us. Also when you say there are guys out there who are way sexier than any woman. I do understand that. But it's also a preference. But what I'm referring to is not about preferences. I'm just purely meaning, put a sexy man, and a sexy woman together. You look at a guy and like him for his "hard looking body". Words that pop into my head are like hard, rugged, sharp, all the those stereotypical words. And then when you look at the sexy woman, you think curves, soft, plump, smooth. Different sexys, but one has a more gentleness to it. I don't know it's hard explain. It's not really about sexual preferences, but more about... aesthetics?

[Faye4ever]

Like women now have been truly grown in its heights of sexuality. And if you try and get a man to copy those same things, it doesn't get the same appeal. I mean think of poses and sex toys, and visual sexual things, men and women can't do the same sexual things and get the same appeal. Like I know there are preferences. But I feel that women are a point where its easy to see and reach out and feel there sexuality in a way that other types of gender associations can understand. Because our sexuality has been thoroughly explored and exposed... I don't know never mind.

[RiYad]

Guys have hard looking body and women have curves, soft, plump, smooth body. one is gentle and another is rugged. Totally opposite aesthetic beauty. That's why guys attract to women not men. I don't understand what do you want to say? Can you summarize this?

[RiYad]

I really want to know...

[Faye4ever]

@RiYad Oh man! I really can't put it together, I just know what I'm visualizing in my mind and it keeps coming out like crap! I feel like women's aesthetic is easier to take in than a mans? I don't know... But I mean gay men appreciate men's aesthetic obviously. I just feel, like i said JUST FEELINGS, women's aesthetic is easier to understand. Just because, women's sexuality has been escalating for decades, so you can really understand it and find the sexual appeal. I feel like men's sexuality has been limited for decades. So you can't dive into it the way you can women's, because men's sexuality is so much more limited in society. ( Not saying it has to be that way though.) Like think of a women, with nice lips eating a lollipop. You can't get a guy to make the lollipop look sexy AS EASILY as woman even if he has nice lips because we are aesthetically different. Women naturally sexualize things, in ways men don't. And now it's spread to where women can accept it, even if they are straight.

[Faye4ever]

Like I can do a bunch of different examples. A woman bent over in a thong vs a man bent over in.. a man thong? A woman rubbing her clit vs and dude stroking his cock. A woman moaning vs a man moaning. A woman feeling her waist and chest vs a man feeling her waist and chest. It's sexier watching a woman touch her self to me, than a man even though I am not interested in women. Just because woman sexuality is at such and acceptance and peak. But I feel men aren't and they need to I guess find a way to exude there sexuality in a way to reach the height that women have. I don't know...

[RiYad]

Oh! Now I understand what do you want to say. But not talking about these things. I know men and women are different aesthetically. One is feminine sex appeal and another is masculine sex appeal. If men perform in feminine act they It would be unappealing and same for women if they perform in masculine act. But It way not my question. My question is... You find it sexier when watching a woman touch her self, than a man do. But does it arouse you? A woman moaning does it arouse you? A woman bent over in a thong does it arouse you? A women, with nice lips eating a lollipop does it arouse you? If these things arouse you sexually then why don't you have sex with a woman, why it is man? Gay man find man arousing that's why they have sex with man, straight man find woman arousing that's why they have sex with woman. They feel urge... If we find men, with nice lips eating a lollipop arousing and other things arousing then we would like to have sex with men and feel the urge...

[RiYad]

... but we don't find men arousing that's why we have urge to have sex with women because we find women arousing... Question for you... why you are not interested in women if you find their act sexier than men? Why don't you have urge to have sex with women, why straight women find the idea of kissing another women and having sex with another women gross and feel vomiting? what is the thing that prevent you?

[RiYad]

we defiantly find nature, sun, moon, flower aesthetically beautiful but it's always neutral appreciation that's why we don't feel the urge instinctively when we see nature, sun, moon and flower. it's totally different chapter. hope you understand...

[Faye4ever]

@RiYad Hmmm maybe it IS in that neutral way for me. Yeah I can't say I would get aroused. But lets say if a girl is watching porn, its kind of hard to get aroused without the girl in it... so then again maybe it does arouse me lol. Boy this is quite an interesting conversation lol.

[RiYad]

[But lets say if a girl is watching porn, its kind of hard to get aroused without the girl in it... so then again maybe it does arouse me lol.] Gay (male) porn arouse you? If girls arouse you then you are not straight. Why do you claim you as a straight but you are not? what is the thing that prevent you to have sex with girls?

[WhistleThuslyTWEETs]

Because you are bisexual and have sexual orientation towards girls. feel free to share it. bisexual hahaha

[Caty7]

I know exactly how you feel. I find girls really sexy but could never see myself dating other girl, I just feel sexually attracted towards girls aswell. Don't try to label yourself as straight, lesbian or bissexual. You are what you are.

[Asker]

I don't try to but my mind never want to hear. Do you feel turn on seeing sexy girls? Also do you feel turn on seeing sexy men's? Sexual attraction and sexual turn on is same thing?

[Caty7]

I always feel attracted seeing a cute girl and a cute guy. But I find girls more sexy than guys. I think so. Sexual turn on can turn into sexual attraction if you do something about it 😇

[Asker]

what is sexual attraction then? when we watch porn we feel turn on/ we sexually arouse, does it mean we sexually attracted to porn performers? If I feel turn on seeing sexy women, is it mean I sexually attracted to those women?

[Caty7]

Sexual attracted is a lot of sexual turn on's together in the same person. Like it's a turn on if that girl is blonde but you're sexually attracted if she's blonde, tall, curvy... like a bunch of things you find attractive. About porn, can be different if you're turned on with what they are doing rather than what they look like.

[Asker]

If you see totally random sexy girl and feel turn on, is it mean you are sexually attracted to the girl? I get confused to see your comment.

[Xfitchick]

If you write this story, why do you say you are straight? This is the story of a lesbian girl. The fact that you don't want a relation with a female can have social, moral or religious backgrounds, so external to your state of being.

[Asker]

I am straight because I don't have desire to have sex with women. When I fantasize about sex there is a missing object because two women can never have sex, they can makeout. In my case feel aroused when I see sexy women, naked women but I don't attract to them. When I see men I feel nothing inside me. I have desire for a guy as my husband.

[Truthatanycost]

Missing object? That's a very interesting choice of words...

[Xfitchick]

Indeed nice choice words and definitions :-) It all depends now of the definition of husband and expectations.

[alexstorm]

Why do you feel you have to pigeon hole yourself one way or the other? Stop counting who is a guy and who is a girl. Just be okay that you find someone interesting, admire the person, without bothering if they are male or female. It seems like too many people have a crazy notion that thier thoughts and feelings have to all align to some standard. You are you and you are fine they way you are. Enjoy the company of whomever you like. There are many others who feel like you do. You may find a particular person that complements you so well that you settle into a long term relationship.

Hope that helps.

[Berethor]

Stop bullshiting us, you not an 100% straight, not even close, and sexual attraction is physical, first and foremost, while you admit that you don't really attracted to an guy's body. Anyway it's still your choice with who you want to be, and most guys don't care about their girl not being so straight, as long as she let them to fuck her. So in the end it's mainly a question of if you willing to take an guy's dick, if you only want to see his smiles, it don't worth much.

[Rissyanne]

lol you aren't straight.

[Asker]

I don't want to have sex with women, but I do feel turn on seeing women. Why I'm not straight.

[Rissyanne]

Because you get turned on by women. Just because you don't act on it doesn't change anything. you can't claim straight. You are bisexual.

[Berethor]

@Rissyanne true, and she is hardly even an 50% straight, let alone an 100% straight.

[Rissyanne]

@Berethor you know now days you have ask someone if they are bisexual before you go out with them. I hate it when people claim straight and they aren't

[Intraluminal]

Maybe therapy could help you pursue lesbianism? I mean it's just a hop, a skip, and a jump from finding girls sexy to look at, to finding them good to eat.

[Asker]

What do you feel when you see sexy men?

[Truthatanycost]

He may be right. When I see a guy that has a good physique, my first thought is ''hmm I wonder what routine he did and how much weight he pushed''. I feel respect and appreciation because I know how much effort and dedication it takes to have a good physique. Beyond that I feel nothing. In your case, you are practically drooling and the question you should ask yourself is this. If there was no one around to judge you and no one would ever find out, would you pursue being with women...

[Asker]

@Truthatanycost I'm confused. Because I don't feel turn on seeing men but feel turn on seeing women. I feel confused whether I pursue being with women or men. Without testing food how can I tell food taste?

[Truthatanycost]

Did you say that you already have a fiance? You plan to get married?

[Intraluminal]

To be honest, there is a lot of social pressure encouraging girls to be lesbian, and pushing the idea of women's bodies to be the epitome of sexiness for both genders. As a result a lot of girls think they're gay when they're probably not. That said, you should give it a try. It may be that you've internalized the message to the point where you'll be happier gay, to or maybe you really are gay and are just suppressing it. Therapy might help.

[hawkeye92]

tl:dr
are you possibly gay?

[Giggletr0n]

Well that could mean 1 of 4 things: either you are an in the closet lesbian or at least bisexual with a preference towards women, you are attracted to very specific types of men that you haven't come across enough to really notice, you are overthinking it and turning yourself off or you appreciate an attractive woman a lot more than an attractive man to the point where you are confusing admiration for arousal

[dolemite68]

i understand i think some girls feel this way. I just don't think guys are as aesthetically pleasing as women, just focus on the other stuff that you like like his smile and smell there's nothing wrong with that

[Centurion20000]

You're a lesbian. Embrace it.

[CountryLesbian]

You're either asexual or not straight

[Asker]

why? I have sexual desire. When I see sexy women It's turned me on. But I don't have desire to have sex with them.

[Anonymous]

Hahaha catfish

[Anonymous]

it seems like you are not straight or you have never seen a guy good enough to make you feel so

[Asker]

do you also feel same? naked women or sexy women turn you on?

[Opinion Owner]

it doesn't turn me on

[Asker]

why it doesn't turn you on? if it doesn't turn you on then which thing turn you on?

[Anonymous]

Have you tried looking at pictures or videos of she-males?

[Anonymous]

This is why i'm so happy to be a dude. Women's brains seem awfully wired for some reason. Must suck to be a girl

[Anonymous]

Are you having sex with your fiancé yet?

When you see attractive women do you want to do stuff with them, or are just vaguely 'aroused'.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like you're romantically attracted to men but sexualy attracted to women. Perhaps using lesbian porn when having sex with your boyfriend would help (he'd be attracted to it as well).

[Truthatanycost]

Romantically attracted = code word for wallet and provisions...

[Opinion Owner]

Not neccicarilly

[Anonymous]

I feel the same way

[Asker]

what is your sexual orientation? are you straight same as me?

[Berethor]

I don't see why girls like yourselves claim to be straight, while you are bisexuals at best, if not straight up lesbians in the closet, if you was 100% straight then you was attracted to male bodies, and you was not attracted to females bodies at all. Also why lying about it, when many guys don't care about it anyway? many guys are okey with dating bisexual girls, and some guys are even okey with being with an lesbian.