I had a gay dream last night?

[Anonymous]

i refuse to believe that i'm gay.
i do find women sexually attractive, so i know i'm not gay
i don't even look at guys sexually in person, or online.
men's bodies don't do anything for me, i don't like facial hair.. besides mine..
i just don't like men...

but this gay dream has my head and my penis confused...
when i think about the dream its like my penis sticks up without my permission... like its doing right now just because i asked this damn question and i don't like it..
i would say it, but its explicit..

im 17 by the way...
please don't be mean & say fag or anything because i'm not...
i'm just confused as shit right now...

[SomeGuy37]

From what you said, you are not at all gay!! Listen to the ladies that say the same thing!!
Everyone has dreams, and sometimes really strange dreams!! Those dreams are not Oracles of your life!! They are just dreams!!
You can have a dream, very sexual, arousing, especially at your age, and maybe even have an orgasm, during the dream! TOTALLY NORMAL!!
You need to know that your penis, especially at your age, has a mind of it's own!! IT will intentionally try to humiliate you, and embarrass you, being 'AT ATTENTION' when you least want it to!! It doesn't mean anything!!
Don't deny, and hate your dreams or fantasies!! Just relax, and let go, and enjoy your feelings, when you experience them!!
Dreams are your subconscious just 'relaxing', OK? Don't make a big deal if some strange images come through!
As you get older, if you want, you can learn to manipulate your dreams, and read words, or see the time, on a clock, dreaming in full color. You can learn to turn the beginnings of a 'Nightmare' into something less distressing, and later, something soothing, and wonderful!

[Cruciatusdeatheater]

I don't know what to tell you. Me, personally, I'm bi (sorta), but I've never had a dream like that. Perhaps they're just hormones dude. It happens. My friends have had some and there not indication of them being gay or bi. Maybe it's curiosity that's been lingering in your mind? I don't know what to tell you.
My best guess is hormones. It'll pass. Don't ponder too much on it unless it occurs again.

[Asker]

is it bad that if it did happen again i wouldn't mind? this all happened when i started watching porn... like at age 14 or 15 if someone showed me a penis i'd probably hit them

[Cruciatusdeatheater]

It's probably curiosity? It's not bad. You know what you like. A dream isn't going to dictate who you and you are what you know you feel. Also, try laying off the porn. It screws with your perception of things haha. That could be a factor, too.

[Anime27]

Women watch ALL platforms of porn including girl on girl porn and can get off on it. Doesn't mean that they're lesbian. It just means that you can be turned on by a variety of things not just the normal. :)

perhaps (and this goes for me in particular) it's not the fact that it's 2 guys or 2 girls or a guy and a girl it's the sexualness and closeness of watching sex, watching it happen that's a massive turn on and knowing the pleasure that comes with it. Can watch a either sex fuck a blow up doll and get turned on only because it resonates in your brain with pleasure that you know or will anticipate :3

[btbc92]

Buddy, I don't care what anybody tells you. You're straight. You like women, and that's that. A dream doesn't always mean anything. But from a spiritual perspective, you could have picked up something from people you hang around with or your watching porn with that in it. Something isn't right somewhere, and you need to just simply ignore it, ask for forgiveness of such dreams which was NOT intentional, and move on. When we dream, our bodies are vulnerable. Which is why you need to protect yourself from that violation of that.

[Bleh-___-]

Getting turned on from a gay dream isn't a big deal nor does it mean you have a preference for men. For you, being gay is taboo because you're not gay. Getting excited over something taboo is normal. It doesn't mean you're into it.

[Asker]

i like the way you put it... but i hope i don't like it if it ever happens... i guess the thought of it isn't so bad but i hopes thats just it..

[CheyXhey]

just a suggestion but maybe you like voyeurism I know even if you're not gay having a man watch you have sex with a girl is a turn on for both partners.

[Asker]

there was no girl involved

[Joti_Harrison]

Don't worry bro. same shit happened to me one time. Had a disgusting dream like that. Happened a few years back, but till now I'm straight as ACE. Nothing better than a nice round ass and cute titties for me.

It's just a dream, don't think about it at all. Shit-dreams like that happen especially during puberty, wet dreams and stuff. Don't give it a thought or let it question your sexually. Don't make it a big deal or let it fester in your heart. You are a straight dude to me and keep it that way, don't question yourself.

Live your life like it never happened. You could just pray about it If you are spiritual like me and leave it in the past. Now, Go out there and get you a nice girlfriend with a big ass :D

[BrittBratt2416]

Sorry but if you're having dreams about men and getting turned on then you're slightly gay or bi.

[breezy_girl95]

Maybe you are slightly bi with a preference for females. Or, it's perfectly reasonable to have dreams about the same sex with out worrying about it.

[Asker]

but its not normal... wouldn't it gross you out to find out your boyfriend was having gay dreams and he was sort of liking them? i just dont want it to ever happen again and i want to change how it made me feel

[breezy_girl95]

Accept who you are and what you like. I wouldn't care as long as I could help my boyfriend

[Asker]

i don't wanna except it... and yeah good that you'd do that but not every girl would do that some might even look at me as less of a man

[breezy_girl95]

If they can't accept it they aren't worth your time.

[Asker]

maybe its the other way around.. maybe im not worth theirs.. women need a strong capable man.. not men that have dreams of them getting sexed by another dude

[breezy_girl95]

If a girl loves you for you, she won't care, as long as you love her for her. There is someone out there for you, you just gotta find them. Good luck!

[Asker]

ok thanks for helping me out

[breezy_girl95]

Yeah. No problem. Ask me again if you need more advice.

[Asker]

you're not grossed out by me?

[breezy_girl95]

Nope. Most of my friends wouldn't be either. You just need to find your special someone.

[HappypersonT]

You'd be surprised how normal it is. I questioned my identity for years, but I'm straight. And even if you are bi it's totally fine. If you don't want to be bi then you are probably not.

[Asker]

well thanks, i'll remember to ask you

[breezy_girl95]

I questioned myself for a long time. No worries OP

[ElissaDido]

You are straight, stop worrying lol.
It's just a dream.

[HappypersonT]

If you have no attraction to guys, you're straight. It's okay, guys have wet dreams about guys all the time and are still straight. Everyone as a hint or bisexuality.

[Asker]

how can you be so sure i meant to ask if i was the only guy who had this happen to them too

[ADFSDF1996]

It's just a dream, you can't really control what kind of dreams you have or control what happens in a dream. You are straight.

[Asker]

but the bad part is i liked the dream... as much as i wish i didn't... i do.. thats what's upsetting me..

[bunanababa]

you're probably bi but hey nothing's wrong with that

[Asker]

there is... for me.. i was raised in an straight household by straight parents... they'd probably try to hurt me if they found out i had a gay dream

[bunanababa]

wow okay but you are who you are. You need to accept yourself either you are straight, gay or somewhere in between. Self acceptance is more important

[Asker]

there's a lot about me i'd wanna change... this is one of them i don't know if this is really how i feel or if its part of puberty... i hope its just puberty and will go away... i think im too young to except it.. im still young and developing each day... but i understand where you are coming from and some day if nothing changes i might have to except being bi... but i know for a fact im not gay.. because i want a wife, and kids.. of my own..

[bunanababa]

That's understandable. I think all of us many times would want to change something about ourselves. It is inevitable but I think we should learn to accept ourselves more even though it's a hard and long process. For now don't think about your dream too much. Sometimes dreams are just dreams. Don't worry you'll be fine :)

[LB33777]

U gay.

Nah I just wanted to say that lol.

Dream are dreams.

[jake253]

You are very confused and you know it G just don't be the guy that gets married and has a family only to figure out how unhappy you are and now must have him a friend of our family's did that and did not tell his family but they figured it out when he was hospitalized with AIDS

[someindianguycringe]

ur 100% not straight, i talk the kind of shit that would make people doubt i am straight and even google photos of the best looking men all the time and yet i get boners ONLY on females.

[Asker]

mens looks don't turn me on either just.. something else

[someindianguycringe]

well, u sound bi

[Asker]

thats why im asking for help..

[someindianguycringe]

chill, its not like you have a disease or something. Unless u have these feelings too often, u don't even need to worry.

[Asker]

well if i did have these feelings often what would i need to worry about

[someindianguycringe]

just accept it then.

[Asker]

is it normal? have you had dreams like this?

[someindianguycringe]

Nope, not even close

[JustinTheGreat]

The fact that you get a boner when you think of the dream means you are probably sexually attracted to guys.

[Asker]

this is so confusing...

[JustinTheGreat]

So you've never been sexually attracted guys in real life? Did the dream change how you see guys?

[Asker]

well i have like penis for awhile i remember watching this kid pee at the urinal in elementary.. i just stared at it but i thought it was me just being a dumb little kid little things like this are starting to make sense and its embarrassing

[JustinTheGreat]

This might not even mean anything at all so dont be embarrassed. It's 2017, being bisexual is accepted by most people now.

[Brooke_1713]

you might be bi, i think?

[Asker]

i dont wanna be... im not emotionally attracted to men..

[Brooke_1713]

you can't deny or change anything. Just let it be, man. Not like that you're gonna be less of a human being or anything like that.

[Asker]

ill be less of a man

[Brooke_1713]

no you will not. Sexuality is part of us and that's totally normal.

[Asker]

well i feel like less of a man.. makes me feel like some little girl nothings wrong with little girls, just me being a male i don't wanna feel like that... but i can't shake the feeling... could you go to therapy for this... probably not at 17..

[Brooke_1713]

Look, don't be so worried about that. You could be bi and still have successful relationship with girls (or guys...) There's absolutely nothing shameful about it. And being bi doesn't mean that you cannot be masculine or hot, I mean, Have you seen Ricky Martin? Yeah, he's into guys and doesn't look or feels like a little girl. And the guy with full body of tattoos in Prison Break... he's also gay.

[Asker]

i guess so... thanks for helping me out.. i feel a little better.. but i do also hope that this is just a teenage hormone thing.. i hope it all goes away once puberty is over and i think it will

[Brooke_1713]

actually... puberty is when your hormones is high and it is when you start to find out your sexual orientation...

[Brooke_1713]

It's a whole long journey to actually know who you're into and not into, so just take time i guess?

[Asker]

yeah... im frustrated...

[Brooke_1713]

Just live life, those things shouldn't be the problem at all. In the future you might have a boyfriend or girlfriend and it's ok, just roll with it, whatever makes you feel happy and makes you feel like yourself. Denying would only make you feel more frustrated... but like I said, you still have time to figure things out so just let it be the way it is right now.

[Brooke_1713]

being honest to yourself is the best way to figure things out, find out who you like, find out what your type is.

[Asker]

thank you for helping me

[Brooke_1713]

Any time:))

[cupidkisses]

it is just a dream don't care it

[SuccessfulHornDog]

Most dreams are symbolic. Even a dream where you have sex or nudity with a girl usually means something else, which is comforting to know when its your mom, grandma or sister in the dream.. yikes

[mrkdvsn]

I've never had a homo dream, but I can get turned on by seeing a man with a woman because I pretend that I am in the place of the guy. But I have no answer for your erection situation

[Blade222]

it's just a dream, don't get bent out of shape about it.

[Teenagekid16]

Say the dream so we can have an idea

[cdemon69]

you were probably pranking guys in your dream..

[Asker]

i wish it was that simple

[cdemon69]

ahhh don't worry dude you will be fine and u are straight its all in your head.. 😋👍

[Asker]

has it happened to you?

[cdemon69]

Naah but I thought once that I was gay..

[Giallo]

Dosen't have to mean anything.

[Asker]

what do you mean