Am I wrong for sleeping with my FWB's best friend?

Question

My friends with benefits (friend with benefits), Adam*, and I met two years ago. We both went to the same school and even though we were polar opposites, we got along great. Well one day, months in to our "fling", he invited me to hang out with him and his friends. That was when I met his best friend, Jake*. He didn't come off as flirty, in fact when I first met him, I thought he was more on the cold, standoffish side. Anyway, days after we all hung out, he messaged me on Facebook... it was a straight up booty call. I turned him down saying I didn't know how Adam would feel about that. He eventually asked me out again but this time I said yes. I thought, "He's really attractive and besides, Adam and I are just friends with benefits, he won't care". He took me to dinner and then we went back to his place. Well Jake wound up telling Adam we hooked up which only angered him- with both of us. I guess at first Adam didn't want me to know he was upset with me since he would still invite me to hang out with him and his friends, but I knew he knew. He would ignore me when I tried talking to him and we weren't even having sex anymore.

Luckily, he's not the kind of person that holds grudges so we were back at it after a week. The sex wasn't the same at first (duh) but we eventually got back to where we were.

So was I wrong for sleeping with his best friend? I honestly wasn't trying to hurt him. I just figured that friends with benefits meant we weren't exclusive and that we could do whatever we wanted.

*Names have been changed

Boredguy123 · Accepted Answer

Both wrong and right. Since you are FWB's with this guy emotions are not suppose to be involved so you shouldn't be hurting his feelings. But it is supposed to be common courtesy with a friends with benefits to only sleep with that person so long as you are FWB's to not spread disease.

Guitarwizard7 · Accepted Answer

No because friends with benefits is just someone who agrees to have casual sex with you on a regular basis. There's no commitment to each other.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

friends with benefits is just a hook up, and sleeping with his best friend is no different then sleeping with him. It's all casual, unless someone grows feelings.