Why Did I Suddenly Become Gay After Failing With Women?

[Anonymous]

I'm 24, my whole life I've struggled with women. I'm not ugly or anything. I am a man but very feminine and emotional, even though it seems many women like it when men can be more in touch with their emotions I tend to be way too much for them. It just seems in my experience it's hard to date women in general. It seems most women I encounter are superficial, arrogant, high standard, (Most girls I've dated cheated on me with other women for some reason), and when it comes to the bedroom it's hard to please them.

This has been eating away at me to the point where I was becoming depressed. Then one day I just stopped finding girls attractive, women didn't turn me on anymore and I suddenly started finding guys attractive. Gay porn suddenly turned me on. This was scary and it was different. I experimented and honestly the "gay lifestyle" was much easier, it was easier to talk to men, to find gay men who can relate to me, me being a feminine male wasn't a bad thing, a lot of gay men were caring and in the bedroom it was so easy to have sex, we both lasted similar times, I felt confident and didn't have to worry about lasting long, being big enough, I didn't struggle to give men an orgasm but with women it was almost impossible to make them orgasm.

Now today I am with a guy I've been dating for 6 months, it's nice. It's definitely better then being alone. But even though I don't sexually find women attractive I often find emotionally wonder about being with a woman. I miss the idea of being with a woman, having a Traditional Man-Woman marriage with biological kids. And it still bothers me how I went from finding women so attractive to suddenly not finding them attractive anymore and I can't help but feel my bad experiences shaped this sudden change. I saw studies showing nurture/experiences can possibly affect sexuality for some people. I rather be with this guy then be alone, but if I could have it any other way, I would rather be with a woman when I was straight.

[itsallover]

You were probably gay the whole time you liked women, and you were only really attracted to them because of societal expectations. Alternatively you might be bi if you've felt attraction towards women at some point, but due to your negative experiences with them you've subconsciously written them off.

[Asker]

Any theories or hypothesis on is my attraction to women back then was really strong like 100% but my attraction to men right now is only 90% I mean nothing is holding me back, my family would accept me as I am, they have no problems with gays

[itsallover]

You're bi with a preference for women then.

[BellePepper]

Maybe you've just been gay all along? media.giphy.com/media/KuVhN8MJs6Mq4/source.gif

[Asker]

shut up with your condescending attitude.

[BellePepper]

LOL I wasn't being condescending but I can be so that you know what it looks like if you want XD

[alecxryan]

That's great man. At least you found someone and you're happy, yeah? Im gay too haha

[Decentguy]

because maybe after falling with a women, you realized that you are gay

[Asker]

Then why didn't I find guys attractive back then but found women attractive? It's not like there was anything stopping me from being gay back then

[Decentguy]

then its possible that you are a bi

[Asker]

ok tnkx

[Anonymous]

Your not being borned gay. This can change, depending on expirance.

[Asker]

is the word faggot cencored here?

[Asker]

oh it's not never mind