Are girls just not that attracted to guys?

Question

My reasons.
1. Girls can't be sexually attracted to random men they haven't met or spoken to.
2. They aren't physicslly turned on by men's bodies except with an erect penis from their BOYFRIEND only.
This is because it shows the guy is horny and desires her which results in her feeling turned on. But the initial desire comes from the guy.
3. Most girls are sexually fluid and are able to get off to other girls, lesbian porn and still clsim straight because its not th male physicality they're attracted to but the emotional attachment/ context.
4. Girls look at guys/girls as partners only eg. Boyfriend/husband material (how well he can provide for her and the child, how well they get along and only after this do they want to sexually explore)
where as guys look at girls sexually and after they establish an emotional connection then look at them as girlfriend/ wife material.
5. Men ask women out and pay for dates because men are initially/ already attracted and need to prove to the girl they are husband/ boyfriend material. Where as in order for the girl to begin to feel attraction they must be close be able to see a future together.

Summary: Men are more directly attracted to girls so they ask women out and pursue them and are driven by their large attraction toward women where as women feel nothing untill they meet a guy they can see a future with and only then begin to feel attraction.
So basically men are attracted to women and how well they get along with them.
girls are attracted to personality/ providing potential (of either gender, usually guys) and after feeling close and desired they begin to express sexual interest.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

this sounds like the obsessive height dude, alright.. I was gonna humor this but I'll save it for the inevitable next time.

1) I have legit fantasized, got up from what I was doing and masturbated right there from being turned on by a hot male celebrity on tv. alright?
2) Women want to be desired yes, an erect penis is physical proof of their desire, yes? Their boyfriend only? Sure bc otherwise we're sluts. Not turned by a man's body? Alright then, can I glue thor's face on kate upton's body? bc that's the amount of sense that makes.
3) I have to admit, being gender fluid and randomly changing up your orientation is legit more popular than it needs to be and doesn't feel realistic. That being said, when you're younger.. you do go through a bit of a slide before figuring out your orientation (not for everyone but it does happen). Your facts about lesbianism come from a scant amount of sources to begin with. I promise you, the only people really getting off to lesbian porn are mostly straight men. Also, I always click female friendly on pornhub and it immediately takes me to lesbian porn. Guess what my reaction is? A big fat NOPE!
4) it is possible to find a unicorn of females who don't need an emotional connection to be physically turned on. With your theory in effect- you make cheating sound like an emotional affair which 90% of the time, its definitely not the case.
5) I'm not saying she's a gold digger but some if not most women are raised to look for husband material but many women genuinely fall in love with a guy for who he is and vice versa for men with no relevance to how "marriage material" they might be. Also, since we're still on the subject of sex.. many women (men too) sleep with a girl/guy they are attracted to and GASP guess what? He/she sucks in bed. So that also defeats MANY of your theories because she's clearly turned on but he's a bad lay. :)

a lot of tomboys get married and I see more sluts happily married than I do loners. Just because a girl gets along with other girls doesn't make her instantaneously desirable. I don't know where you decide these things but you're MANkind, so I'm sure you just decided it in your head and vocalized it like a biblical law. Yes, as a shy girl.. I am more sexually expressive and open once I get to know him. Guess what? That is not a rule. If it were, it's been hella broken.

That's all I got for now. kthnxbai

Nobodylikesme · Accepted Answer

From the sounds of it, you are far from the ballpark about women... about a world away if you want a realistic estimated measurement, I'm really sorry for being so blunt about it!

You will have to do some research about how we think but, I really do love my boyfriend. However, I will never be able to think like a guy. Yes. We dont have that visual attraction. Its the same thing with keeping an ego and erections. My thought is usually, "Um? Is this normal?"
Anyway, one of the things is, we need emotional security, that you will always be there! You won't change your feelings for us and be attracted to another girl! This is often confused with us being emotional. We want to be beautiful only in your eyes because inside us we are insecure that you dont love us. When something isn't working and we want the relationship to work, we analyze ourself by talking to our friends. Then we try to fix it and we dont know why our guys act distant. We really care about the ones we love but we need to hear it from you, and see that you are honest. Another aspect you wanted to know, is when we are starting to like you. That is when you dont seem like a player, thats when we build our trust and start to love you. We look for your honest actions -not how you look physically.

Kitten967 · Accepted Answer

1. I can't be sexually attracted to random men. I have to have a string connection with them.
2. I only get turned on by things like kissing and other physical stuff. Never just by how they look.
3. I don't like lesbain porn but I know I'm not straight.
4. Not sure what to say about that one lol.
5. I don't expect or want guys to pay on dates, I'm more than happy to pay for myself.

For me I am attracted to their personality but I know many women who will have causal sex and random hook ups with guys they've just met and never dated.

MisterSir · Accepted Answer

1. because if they were, then by today's standards they'd be deemed slutty and desperate, no?

2. uh, i'm fairly sure they are IF you take care of your body. just like most men aren't attracted to fat women, most women aren't attracted to fat men.

3. then they're bisexual or demisexual, things of which men can be too.

4. generalisation. i have seen and known couples in real life that don't have children and they're both very much in love with each other.

5. fucking dumb "whu shud py frst?" and "hw du i gt hm 2 sk mi ut?" gag trends ONLY happen on gag.

conc: yes men are more directly attracted to women, but to claim that women are not attracted to men period, is bs.
yes the guy has to initiate 90% of the time, i never understood why either gender are so bitchy about this, you'll get either a "yes" or a "no."
yes you have to spend money, that's life, suck it up.
hetero men are attracted to women and hetero women are attracted to men.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

LOOOOL

Girls are attracted to guys, they are just not attracted to you.
Girls can be sexually attracted to random men, they are just not to you.
Girls can be turned on by men's body, they are just not to yours.
Girls pay for plenty of dates, they just don't pay for you.

What's with all the ugly bitter men on here who believe women are to blame for their shortcomings?

ShaunaM95 · Answer

Girls are attracted to guys. Please stop asking this question in different forms, it's very annoying.

Napoli · Answer

1) I got myself off thinking of the builder across the road yesterday. I've never met or spoken to him.
2) I'm commitment phobic so I've only ever had friends with benefits, not boyfriends
3) Lesbian porn does nothing for me.
4) Again, I find the idea of commitment suffocating and if I wanted to a man to provide for anything, & i'd ask my daughter's dad for child support, for her not me... the reason I won't is because I know he can't afford it
5) If I like a guy, it's in the moment, that day. I won't be thinking about anything else. Before I had my daughter, I never thought about next week, never mind the whole future.
I've always known I've never wanted to get married and have that kind of thing. Kids weren't even in my plans. My "plans" were to pack a bag, buy a hopper ticket and see where those roads took me.
Which kind of proves why there is no point in making plans.

SarahsSummer · Answer

You've made some fairly large and unfounded assumptions to your never ending theory.  Once and for all, we are not all bi/lesbian.

rushthesand · Answer

Holy shit dude.

1. Not all of us are the same. Is every guy attracted to the same girl?
2. Women are physically attracted to men. We just also prioritize other things simply because we have a LOT MORE at stake when it comes to sex. While you guys can hop off of us and move onto the next girl, we are stuck with a baby (before BC). It makes sense evolutionarily for us to be very choosey about who we have sex with. This is where the emotional attachment business comes from. Doesn't mean we can't be attracted to a man physically.
3. However, there are still TONS of women who have casual sex and may or may not develop feelings. So that contradicts what you're saying.