I want to lose my virginity to a virgin guy?

[Anonymous]

Before you read this, I just wanna let you know: don't judge me, not because I can't handle it, but because I love efficiency and I need practical advice on how to make this plan - reality.

Long story short: I am a virgin. I am 19. It sucks. I feel awful. I am horny all rhe time and masturbating is kinda passé now. I have been waiting for so long to start having sex, because throughout my teen years and even before, I was a victim of domestic violence wich was severe, so I spent those years healing myself and I decided to have sex when I am feeling great. I have went out of the abuse with victory and I have been living a confident, healthy life for over a year now. I am ready to have sex.
I wasn't waiting for "the perfect guy", wich is lame for who does it like that, I have been waiting for me to get ready and I am. I don't want my first sex to be in a relationship. I want it to be just sex and then, I will dump the guy. Don't judge me, listen to me. So, somebody I feel nothing for and somebody who is ALSO a virgin. Things are getting complicated: I am moving to USA and leaving the little town where I currently live, in Europe. I don't even have any social media. I am planning on moving there, making my fb and instagram accounts, contacting this guy, text for a bit, and then come here again, for a couple of weeks and fuck him and go back to USA. There is this guy who is 16 (legal age in this country is 14) and he has been crushing on me forever. We knew each other since 2008. He is "safe". My BFF is his classmate and she told me he is a virgin, for sure, not even kissed ever. That's perfect. He flirted with me on a party 8 monthes ago and asked for my number and I said that I don't date younger guys... I made a mistake. He could've been the one whos virginity I'm gonna take. Even IF we start chatting via fb, I gotta hurry, what if he finds a girlfriend in the meantime? The thing that further complicates everything is that his mother is a stuck up control freak.

[Anonymous]

First off, I am really sorry about your troubles. That must have been really difficult to deal with.
As for your situation with the guy, you claim that the guy has been crushing on you for years. I think it would be terrible of you to sleep with him while he might be expecting things to evolve into something serious between you. If you ONLY want to sleep with him, you should tell him that beforehand. You shouldn't give him false hopes that it might be something more.

[Asker]

Thank you for being kind and open-minded. I know that it is not fair, but the way I see it is eaither I'll get hurt or him. I don't want it to be me. And in order to be sure that I won't get hurt, I have to hurt him. Sorry. I was hurt in the past badly. But, please give me practical advice. This is one of the most important things I will ever do and I have nobody to talk to about this, because my friends think I am sexually experienced. So, please, kind stranger, give me advice as a girl to girl. You can understand me. God bless you if you help me. You can make good impact on my life. One of the possibly most traumatic experiences of my life can be a blast if you help me. Thank you.

[Opinion Owner]

Why do you want to hurt him? He didn't do anything to hurt you back. If you feel like losing it with him, you should make him feel sexually wanted in your texts. Flirt with him more, try to tease him, tell him that you are not wearing underwear, tell him that you just got out of the shower etc. That might keep his interest. However, I sort of disagree with the fact that you are eager to hurt him while he hasn't done anything negative towards you.

[Mynameisnottolong]

Being a Virgin ain't a bad thing at all, I wish I still was, the wrong person got it. I'm sorry you had a hard life growing up. Okay while I don't condone what you are about to do, I don't look at you differently its your choice to make, yea find that guy and exchange virginities XD moving to America eh, be safe. We can be friends but no sex please I have a girlfriend and I wanted to be nice and offer a friend :) hope this helps.

[Asker]

Man, HELP ME here. Should I text him while still here, on contact him from USA? Do I tell him to wait for me and not date anybody else, or do I just ask him on one date, get him drunk and that's it? And do him on that date? Tell me, please.

[Mynameisnottolong]

Okay 1 dont get him drunk and use him it may not go well text him while you are still there and be honest that you trust him. traveling to and from America just got mega level hard with the oversized orange oompa loompa in the white house. Lets hope he's still a Virgin and std/aids free. Be honest tell him you want to experience your first time and out of all the guys you've come across you only trust him.

[Mynameisnottolong]

If you tell him to wait for you and he develops feelings toward you and you fuck him than leave, that will mess him up good. Dont expect him to be awesome or sex last an hour he may not know a lot and might come in 5 minutes.

[Asker]

I am a USA citizen, so there will be no problems with the Trumpocile for me. I am not an imminent. I DON'T want to tell him that I am a virgin. I'll go to gynecologist prior to sex and everything will be safe and there will be no STDs. I mean, we are both virgins. Maybe I do it before I even move to USA?

[Mynameisnottolong]

You don't have to tell him you are a Virgin, tell him you have a fantasy about fucking him and you want to do it before you leave. Do it now get it over with, he's lucky!

[Asker]

Thanks for understanding me. And "get it over with" is exactly what I have to do. I mean, I don't regret not having sex until now. I wasn't mentally ready. Now that I know how to separate emotions and sex and now that I am fullfilled in every aspect of my life, I am ready. So, my original plan was to have sex while I am still in my teens, aka before my 20th birthday. I am turning 20 in November, so I thought that I have 8 more months. But I'm not gonna waste my time, he may get laid in the meantime. I am leaving for USA end of March/beginning of April. Why wait? Let's do it now and then move freely and happily to my new life in the USA. It'll be glorious. So I regret not giving him my number back when he asked me, but I wasn't ready. I hope he's not mad. Since I won't make social media while still here, do you think I should just ask my BFF to give me his number? Then text him. Ask him on a date, kiss him and get him drunk and bring him to my house/appartment that I own in a city near

[Asker]

And then just have sex with him? Maybe he'll be scared. Do you think that it is better for us to go out a couple of times before I fuck him? Or maybe that'll risk the fact that he may dump me in the meanwhile or for his mother to forbid him to go out with me? I would rather fuck him on the first date, but than again, maybe it's better to go out on a couple of dates and have him fall for me, otherwise he wouldn't have the time. And then also, if I ask him to go on a date with me, and he thinks we're only going for the movies, and I end up wanting sex from him, and he didn't know, he might've just not prepared himself (shaved down there, or...) do I go out with him, or fuck him right away? I don't wanna lose time.

[Mynameisnottolong]

Girl whoa you are over thinking this where do I start XD well if he has hair down there you should consider that. Of he develops feelings for you and you just want him for sex, you have to carry that on your shoulders for the rest of your life. If you go on multiple dates and his mother finds out well she may prevent him from seeing you (if that happens I would use the I'm moving to another country and I wanted to spend time with the guy I liked before I have to say goodbye). Yes he may get laid so time is of the essence here. You'll have to carry condoms and the pill and you may even need to teach him how to out it on (watch youtube). Don't beat yourself up over the fact that he doesn't have your number it can't be helped. Yes ask your bff for his number but his mother may also be watching it so careful. If you make a social media account after you leave he may be on the look out for it so if the day comes that he asks you why you fucked and left him, be honest but don't hurt him.

[Mynameisnottolong]

Asking him on various dates he may think you are into him, now you can do it and get sex each time, helping each other out in the process with experience, if you go this route the next time you have sex with him ask him to shave. Also you can be honest that you want just want to be friends with benefits with only sex but not a relationship

[Asker]

No, I don't. I am not sexually attracted to him at all. I wanna fuck him once. Preferably on the first date. But I am not sure if he is willing to give it to me. Maybe he would be scared. If I suggest him shaving down there, he'll know what's up and his mother is gonna prevent him from doing it. Also, I wouldn't wanna go on a couple of dates with him. I don't even wanna be seen in public with him. I thought of driving him to this city where I have a flat. It's an hour away. Nobody knows us there, go to movies and have sex later. Maybe get him drunk. The ideal version would be if I had to see him just once and fuck him. But not so sure if it would work. Maybe he is nervous. But I don't wanna go on dates with him, make out and not have him put out. I would just waste time. I gotta make sure he will put out. HOW? I know he had a crush on me for ages. But IDGAF 100% brutally honestly that I'm gonna hit it and quit and and him checking my social media accounts afterwards will just be 👍🏻

[Mynameisnottolong]

Ouch I kinda feel bad for the guy. If he had a crush on you. Chances are he masturbated fantasizing about you. Listen stop thinking about it, go take him to your flat, date him once (than you can be double sure you want to fuck him), fuck him and be done with it. But you know you will kinda break his heart afterwards so just be nice afterwards. Itll be hard for him. It was hard for me to of been used and tossed aside.

[Asker]

What if he just doesn't wanna put out? I just realized that I'm not sure he is 16 or 15... Then I will be used. Cause otherwise I would never go out with him nor make out. How to make sure he will have sex with me?

[Mynameisnottolong]

Unless he's a goody to shoes every guy should like sex

[Tdieseler]

Damn...😔😒 i came in here willing to judge you anyway but you said two things that i 🙌 hands up support...
"I wasn't waiting for the 'perfect guy'..." .. and
"I dont want my first sex to be in a relationship..."
i wouldn't do a 14 year old though... wait till you are in the USA darling... its gonna blow your mind...(and something else).
I am a full supporter... let me know how i can help... :)

[Asker]

You can help me by telling me do I contact him while still here, or when I go to USA? Do I tell him I wanna go out on a date with him or not? I want to prevent him from fucking others. I gotta hurry up, because if he is no longer a V I don't know anybody else who is. I gotta hurry! How to manage to get him to bed, preferably on the first date?

[Tdieseler]

Why do you want a Virg? and even worse, why do you want a younger one? You do know that there is a reason why virgins are disliked right? Are you a predator? You should want some experienced guy to just fuck you off the bed... but you want some kid that will be asking directions... im fine with whatever, but i want you to admit it...

[Asker]

I want a virgin, so that I will feel powerful the first time I have sex and that I will take his virginity, when he doesn't even know he is taking mine. There are no virgins round my age that I know of... I am not a predator. I don't need sex to be good the first time. I don't have to orgasm. There'll be many guys to come who can "fuck me off my bed", but it'll be then, when I'm not a virgin anymore.

[Tdieseler]

Alright... you talked me into it. You just stated what you want. and seems like you know it too. (im still averse to the fact that he is 14 though) im sure you can find another guy... what is with the power thing though?

[Asker]

What are you talking about? He's not 14. He is 16. The power thing is that I feel like I am TAKING something, not that I have something taken away from me.

[Tdieseler]

guess i mixed and matched legal and actual... as for your power thing... you should feel that way from your perspective... but from his perspective, you are giving...

[undefined12]

Don't lose it to a virgin lol they have no idea what to do and will probably be no fun. It's usually better when your partner actually knows what they're doing

[undefined12]

And probably should date some your age...

[Asker]

I don't care if he doesn't know what he's doing. It's just one time. All the other guys after will know what they are doing.

[medieval]

I suggest finding a level headed non-virgin that you find attractive, your first time will be awkward and it's better to at least have one person know what they are doing, provided they care for your experience and treat you well.

[Asker]

I can fake it really good that I am not a virgin: psychology tricks, sex tutorials, practiced on dildos, recorder myself while doing it. Plus, he has NO experience, so he won't know. Tell me what exact steps to take

[medieval]

Have you hung out with him before? Unless he is very shy most guys are not bothered with being upfront. Perhaps taking him out to dinner and straight up offering to take him home. Deception is never good and you will receive an upfront answer this way.

[suseel_sushi]

PFF...31 and virgin. How boh dah?

[Statueoflove]

Relax.. i am virgin too no problem in my life. Just trust your feelings and hope ypur imagination! It will be help