My boyfriend won't reciprocate with a threesome?

Question

I gave him a FMF one a few months ago. Before we even went into it I told him the only way it can happen is if I receive a MFM in return. He promised to go through with it.

Ever since the FMF I've asked him when the MFM one will be. First he gave excuses and now he's outright saying no.

What should I do?

Answer 1

Anonymous

Here is the thing a lot of people can promise you or say they are going to do something just to get what they really want. Not everyone is going to keep their word. Doing threesomes when both parties are not even bisexual is more of test to show you what the person character really is. You're not looking at the big picture. If you're not bisexual then don't have threesomes now you created something in the relationship that mostly will cause you guys to break up. He played you you either learn to not do threesomes again from that or you keep complaining to him about it til you guys aren't a couple anymore. You're not a kid you should know when you been screwed over and you been screwed over.

Answer 2

Pomegranate139

Yoda

You shouldn't have afreed in the first place. Men hate MFM. They would usually never do it. If anything you should of had the MFM first, that way if he wants FMF he'd have to go through with it.

Do you even really want a threesome? Or are you just gonna do it because it will be fair?

If he won't do it just pull out all kinds of weird freaky sex things and tell him he has to do these now cause he won't do the MFM

Asker

+1 y
Mfm is my ultimate fantasy. Now I know I should've told him to do it first.
Guess I was spoiled because my ex used to give me them. Thanks
Pomegranate139

+1 y
Maybe ask him if he wants to pick which guy
Asker

+1 y
I did. He just doesn't want it in general

Answer 3

Asker

Mfm is my ultimate fantasy. Now I know I should've told him to do it first.
Guess I was spoiled because my ex used to give me them. Thanks

Answer 4

Pomegranate139

Maybe ask him if he wants to pick which guy

Answer 5

Asker

I did. He just doesn't want it in general

Answer 6

erandal | 965 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Explorer

I was in a similar situation and in my case it was that he felt threatened by the possibility that I would prefer the other man.

Was he justified? Maybe but he certainly didn't like seeing me have sex with somebody else.

The relationship lasted less than a month beyond that because he became so insecure he practically pushed me away.

Asker

+1 y
Did you give him a fmf threesome?
It's not really fair of him to withhold one from you yet get one himself. You were probably just as worried as him.
erandal

+1 y
We had both. The FMF was not an issue for him but the MFM is what broke it. He just couldn't take it.
Asker

+1 y
Of course the fmf one wasn't an issue lol

Answer 7

Asker

Did you give him a fmf threesome?
It's not really fair of him to withhold one from you yet get one himself. You were probably just as worried as him.

Answer 8

erandal

We had both. The FMF was not an issue for him but the MFM is what broke it. He just couldn't take it.

Answer 9

Asker

Of course the fmf one wasn't an issue lol

Answer 10

RJGraveyTrain

Master

And this is why I am against threesomes. Lol. He lied to you girl. All you can do is either accept it, break up, or show up with another dude.

CheerGirl38139

+1 y
Bang! 💥
Asker

+1 y
Great answer lol. Normally I wouldn't do one in a committed relationship but guess I'm a sucker for a puppy dog face
RJGraveyTrain

+1 y
Ha dude I'm heartless, that puppy dog shit doesn't work on me. 😆
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HotDogg

+1 y
Do all three, in the reverse order. Another dude, break up, and then accept it.

Hurts being lied to and feeling used.

Answer 11

CheerGirl38139

Bang! 💥

Answer 12

Asker

Great answer lol. Normally I wouldn't do one in a committed relationship but guess I'm a sucker for a puppy dog face

Answer 13

RJGraveyTrain

Ha dude I'm heartless, that puppy dog shit doesn't work on me. 😆

Answer 14

HotDogg

Do all three, in the reverse order. Another dude, break up, and then accept it.

Hurts being lied to and feeling used.

Answer 15

Chico_brah

Yoda

The only reason I'd consider doing a fmf is because my girlfriend is bisexual. He is probably pushing out of the idea because the thought of another man fucking you probably kills him. He most likely doesn't want to admit that. Most likely has nothing to do with him playing you.

You look at sex as something purely physical just like I do. Not everyone is like that. Some people associate with emotion and "love".

Your boyfriend is most likely one of those people. Just lmao at that slut teacher down there.

Asker

+1 y
The fmf threesome hurt me too. It just sucks he promised a mfm one for that and doesn't want to go through with it.

I feel like if I go through that for him he should for me
Chico_brah

+1 y
The thought of another guy fucking my girlfriend in front of me can't even register in my brain. You guys shouldn't be doing threesomes if it's hurting you. This shouldn't be about revenge or getting even though. He hurt me so now I have to hurt him back is not the kind of logic you should be using in a relationship. I'd still be pissed off forsure. You have every right to be.

Answer 16

Asker

The fmf threesome hurt me too. It just sucks he promised a mfm one for that and doesn't want to go through with it.

I feel like if I go through that for him he should for me

Answer 17

Chico_brah

The thought of another guy fucking my girlfriend in front of me can't even register in my brain. You guys shouldn't be doing threesomes if it's hurting you. This shouldn't be about revenge or getting even though. He hurt me so now I have to hurt him back is not the kind of logic you should be using in a relationship. I'd still be pissed off forsure. You have every right to be.

Answer 18

JessetheTerrible

Xper 2

He's being an asshole here. Maybe suggest having an mfm threeway without him, because obviously he decided to not honor his word. If he gets upset about that, remind him that he agreed to a threeway for you in exchange for one for him. And if he's still not budging, then maybe you should think about breaking it off.

Answer 19

Bandit74 | 6.1K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Master

Well you can't force him to do it. If the genders of this scenario were reversed I feel like you would be getting different responses, especially from the female users. If you were a guy asking about how to get his girlfriend to hold up her half of the bargain and have a threesome that she changed her mind about, I guarantee the girls here would say you were an entitled asshole and that you should accept that she changed her mind. But since you're a girl they are giving more supportive answers than they would have given if a guy had posted this exact scenario.

So I would say either accept it or break up. Even if hypothetically you did force him to have one or if you just went out and had one without him, then he would probably break up with you.

So the choice is would you rather be the dumper or the dumpee?

Answer 20

MrNameless | 1.5K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Guru

wtf at all the people who asking he asker to dump the guy cause he won't reciprocate the threesome. It doesn't even necessarily mean he lied. He could have changed his mind and not feel comfortable about it. If you are having a fantastic time with him as your boyfriend, I'd move on from the situation and keep maintaining the relationship.

Answer 21

Cmasterson | 4K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Master

there's nothing you can really do, however you have to tell him that it basically shows you can't take his word, he can tell you if he changed his mind however you had rules and you agreed to someone so basically he's taking back his word and it ultimately its not about the threesome its about the fact that you don't know whether to believe him.

Bigmeat

+1 y
Would you do a MFM?

Answer 22

Bigmeat

Would you do a MFM?

Answer 23

GraveTruth

Xper 6

What you should do is understand that if you have a boyfriend is the type whom is not loyal enough to be comfortable enough to be finger, banging, and exchanging fluids with someone who isn't his own adorable butterfly then you shouldn't be surprised when he doesn't keep a promise.

Answer 24

dizmuhjam | 520 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Xper 7

Shouldn't have done it to begin with. This is stuff for bisexual couples. You just ruined this part of your relationship. How to fix that? Accept that it won't happen. If you can't you have to leave. And never do something stupid like this again. There is stuff that simply can't be fair and equal no matter how hard we try.

Asker

+1 y
Believing that'll he'll follow through with his word is stupid? Ok
Asker

+1 y
I'm not bisexual and I did the fmf one. He could do the mfm one
dizmuhjam

+1 y
"I'm not bisexual and I did the fmf one. He could do the mom one" No, just because YOU'RE able to deal with your own gender to a certain degree doesn't mean that he's able to do it as well. People are different.
And yes in this case it was stupid of you believing that he wants to share you with another man, knowing that he's not bisexual whatsoever. It was a dickmove of him lying like that, but you also shouldn't ever believe such nonsense if you know he wasn't into this kind of stuff to begin with.
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Asker

+1 y
Lmao so it's ok for a girl to go through with something that makes her uncomfortable for her love but not a guy? You're hilariously selfish.
Especially since he made that promise I'd believe him. I wouldn't expect it if he made the promise. So get off your high horse thinking men should be given special circumstances over women
dizmuhjam

+1 y
First of all its not me being selfish its your boyfriend. I personally wouldn't even have started this mess, knowing that I couldn't keep this promise.

And I never said MEN should be given special circumstances over WOMEN. I just said that YOU the person asking this question was able to pull this off. Your BOYFRIEND is not, otherwise he wouldn't make such a fuss about it.

When I wrote "never do something stupid like this again" I meant by this that you maybe do a mfm first and then the fmf telling him that otherwise its not gonna happen. But that was just a tip for a future relationship.
dizmuhjam

+1 y
add at the end of the mid part of my last comment: Sorry that your boyfriend is a liar, thats just what it is really.

Answer 25

Asker

Believing that'll he'll follow through with his word is stupid? Ok

Answer 26

Asker

I'm not bisexual and I did the fmf one. He could do the mfm one

Answer 27

dizmuhjam

"I'm not bisexual and I did the fmf one. He could do the mom one" No, just because YOU'RE able to deal with your own gender to a certain degree doesn't mean that he's able to do it as well. People are different.
And yes in this case it was stupid of you believing that he wants to share you with another man, knowing that he's not bisexual whatsoever. It was a dickmove of him lying like that, but you also shouldn't ever believe such nonsense if you know he wasn't into this kind of stuff to begin with.

Answer 28

Asker

Lmao so it's ok for a girl to go through with something that makes her uncomfortable for her love but not a guy? You're hilariously selfish.
Especially since he made that promise I'd believe him. I wouldn't expect it if he made the promise. So get off your high horse thinking men should be given special circumstances over women

Answer 29

dizmuhjam

First of all its not me being selfish its your boyfriend. I personally wouldn't even have started this mess, knowing that I couldn't keep this promise.

And I never said MEN should be given special circumstances over WOMEN. I just said that YOU the person asking this question was able to pull this off. Your BOYFRIEND is not, otherwise he wouldn't make such a fuss about it.

When I wrote "never do something stupid like this again" I meant by this that you maybe do a mfm first and then the fmf telling him that otherwise its not gonna happen. But that was just a tip for a future relationship.

Answer 30

dizmuhjam

add at the end of the mid part of my last comment: Sorry that your boyfriend is a liar, thats just what it is really.

Answer 31

Carina_Teacher

Xper 4

hold him to. it. tell him if he won't, someone else will.

Asker

+1 y
Thanks!
Chico_brah

+1 y
So basically tell him you're going to cheat on him if you don't get your way?

Answer 32

Asker

Thanks!

Answer 33

Chico_brah

So basically tell him you're going to cheat on him if you don't get your way?

Answer 34

anaspie | 657 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Xper 7

Wow sounds like your in an incredibly selfish relationship... Might be time to reevaluate that one

Answer 35

ThisDudeHere | 4.6K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Master

Tell him that he is a hypocrite and that you two must do it to be fair.

Answer 36

Paris13 | 5K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Master

Break it Off Here, dear.
I Feel that you Both are not a good Deal, and that this So-called "Relationship" is Hopeless as Well, I can Tell.
Good Luck. xx

Answer 37

CheerGirl38139 | 5K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Guru

well... you could tell him there will be no more MF sex until he makes good on the deal that you made with him in good faith. :)

Answer 38

tydontdy

Xper 1

lol he won't do it. guys don't like that you should have done the 3some without expecting one in return.

Asker

+1 y
Why should I do one and not expect anything in return when he clearly stated he was going to do one?

That's not exactly fair
tydontdy

+1 y
ohh if he stated that then yeah it's his fault
tydontdy

+1 y
I thought he just wanted FMF and didn't agree to a mfm beforehand
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Asker

+1 y
Nah he told me before hand he would give me a mfm one for a fmf.
tydontdy

+1 y
yeah like the other girl that commented. hold that against him

Answer 39

Asker

Why should I do one and not expect anything in return when he clearly stated he was going to do one?

That's not exactly fair

Answer 40

tydontdy

ohh if he stated that then yeah it's his fault

Answer 41

tydontdy

I thought he just wanted FMF and didn't agree to a mfm beforehand

Answer 42

Asker

Nah he told me before hand he would give me a mfm one for a fmf.

Answer 43

tydontdy

yeah like the other girl that commented. hold that against him

Answer 44

CT_CD | 14.7K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Master

He played you. I love your boyfriend

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Answer 45

Bigmeat

Xper 2

Do you really want to get fucked by another man while you are in a relationship?

Asker

+1 y
I want to get fucked by two at once.
Bigmeat

+1 y
Why not just do it with another two guys? I doubt your boyfriend will do it, very few men will do MFM specially if their girlfriend is in between.
Asker

+1 y
Because that's cheating in his eyes

Answer 46

Asker

I want to get fucked by two at once.

Answer 47

Bigmeat

Why not just do it with another two guys? I doubt your boyfriend will do it, very few men will do MFM specially if their girlfriend is in between.

Answer 48

Asker

Because that's cheating in his eyes

Answer 49

Greek_God

Xper 6

Give up. The majority of men will never do MFM. His fault was only promising to you he will do it. He should have said no right away. But you can't change his mind

Answer 50

Anonymous

I'd be down for a MFM threesome if u gave me a FFM threesome!!! Lol. 🙂

Answer 51

pas666

Xper 3

You got played congratz

Answer 52

Anonymous

There's no way in hell he's gonna allow a MFM lmao.

It's not the same thing if it's 2 females compared to 2 males.

Asker

+1 y
Uh huh. Then he shouldn't have promised it.

My ex gave me one so I know it's not a universal guy thing

Answer 53

Asker

Uh huh. Then he shouldn't have promised it.

My ex gave me one so I know it's not a universal guy thing

Answer 54

Anonymous

Fair is fair. Give him an ultimatum. If he's willing to break his word with this, he will likely do more in the future

Answer 55

abc--123 | 18.9K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Master

You are owed another 3some. Forget him find 2 other guys

Answer 56

Account | 8K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Master

The correct answer is: Dump him.

Answer 57

Anonymous

Find 2 other guys, there ya go👍

Answer 58

Anonymous

Tell him you'll outright fuck another guy

Poppykate

+1 y
Really? That's a little mean!
Opinion Owner

+1 y
@Poppykate Suggest an alternative way, I'm all ears.
Asker

+1 y
I mean that's basically what he did with another girl so it'd only be fair
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Poppykate

+1 y
I guess.. but can't see any suggestions really making the situation 'better'

Answer 59

Poppykate

Really? That's a little mean!

Answer 60

Opinion Owner

@Poppykate Suggest an alternative way, I'm all ears.

Answer 61

Asker

I mean that's basically what he did with another girl so it'd only be fair

Answer 62

Poppykate

I guess.. but can't see any suggestions really making the situation 'better'

Answer 63

Shawn58

Xper 7

To be honest he fooled you

Answer 64

Justin85283

Explorer

Bring home a guy. Maybe he wants to be a cuckold?

Answer 65

Polkadot95

Xper 1

Dump him.

Answer 66

Anonymous

Don't do ant of them

Answer 67

Anonymous

he won't do it

My boyfriend won't reciprocate with a threesome?

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