What are the signs that you're doing well eating out/fingering a casual/short term girl?

[davidshaw]

No matter who the woman is when I make love to/have sex with her (one nighter, fuck buddy, short/long term relationship) I always make her feel like the centre of attention in bed and in conversation, after all I'm a firm believer that if she feels good, you'll likely feel good as well (girl or guy) usually the signs of when you're eating/fingering your girlfriend are easy because you're close enough with each other to communicate most things with ease, but in a short term relationship or one night stand, detailed communication isn't usually what happens due to hardly knowing each other (as much as I'd like to know if I'm doing well or not through communication)

The few times I've had a one night stand therefore, the best communication I can give is "don't fake it, if I'm doing bad, just tell me, no point in having a bad time after all" and they usually answer back "don't worry, if you weren't doing a good job, I'd tell you" but is it likely that these women are just too uncomfortable to correct me? Or is it likely that what they're saying is largely/completely true?
It doesn't make it easier that women express their pleasure in different ways e. g some might be naturally quieter than others, some might convulse a lot, some get wet more easily etc.

TL;DR/Overall, if you don't know the woman very well/at all and detailed communication isn't really an option, if you ask them "don't fake it, just tell me if I'm doing something wrong/something you want more of" etc. and they reply back with "I'd tell you if you've done something wrong" does this at least usually mean that they are being truthful and that you are largely/completely doing a good job?

P. S like a lot of things, this is a generalised question, so please try to answer within the bigger picture/generalised style. I know stereotypes and generalisations are never true, at least in their entirety anyway

[Anonymous]

might just be me, but it takes me a while to get comfortable being that direct with a person i. e. telling them what i like etc (ironic i know given that im naked and theyre eating me out)

the only surefire way to know you're doing a good jobs if she's having mind blowing orgasms. just watch her afterwards, if youve satisfied her she should have a stupid smile on her face and just seem completely exhausted...

that being said, i was recently in a casual relationship for just under two months. in that time he never managed to get me off, but i still enjoyed myself. he turned out to be a dickhead in the end, but thats not the point. the woman you're with might be the same, or she might not be.

[davidshaw]

damn, haven't got that far then. I've been with some who've wriggled a lot and seemed to have got wet quickly when I went down on them. A few moans but nothing too big. Ok, so over all I'm just average at best and they're just trying not to destroy my confidence? You can be harsh in your answer if you want haha

[Opinion Owner]

i wouldn't take it as you're not doing a good job. you could just be doing better probably. if she comes back she had a good time lol :P also orgasms for girls are mental as well as physical. she might be holding back or not cumming for her own reasons, not for your lack of skill or trying!

[tattooedhandfet]

David,
I guess some signs that you are doing well, are her reactions. Does she moan, is she wet? Those are basics, but you can tell in other ways too. The look in her eyes, expressions of her face, her body temp will rise, giving the skin a flushed look, hardened nipples...
I like your idea of telling them, to let you know. If they don't speak up, then it'd their loss of pleasure anyhow.
All in all, I'm sure you're doing a fine job making love.
So stop worrying!!! 😋

[tattooedhandfet]

Thank you for MH, David😊

[davidshaw]

nw :)

[MlleCake]

You ask.

[davidshaw]

I did, that's what I meant when I said in the question: "don't fake it, just tell me if I'm doing something wrong/something you want more of" which means she can tell me when and if I do something wrong

[MlleCake]

But go one step further. "Do you like when I do this?" "Tell me what feels good to you." "Have you tried ____? Do you think you might like it?", etc.

[davidshaw]

fair enough, but won't that put her off in a one night stand or short term relationship?

[MlleCake]

Oh no. It will make her want to do it again.

[Anonymous]

she will tell you if you are good

[davidshaw]

she did tell me I did good, but afterwards.