Differences between female and male body insecurity?

So I saw a post here asking "who do you think is more insecure about their bodies - girls or guys?"
and the majority said that guys are more insecure about the size of the schlong than girls are about their bodies.

I think the comparison is somewhat unfair, since it seems to me that the source of insecurity is different in each case:
* Girls body insecurity stems from within - I've been on this site for a while now and haven't encountered ONE example where guys go straight out and say that they like only big breasts, or an ass shaped in a certain way. In all the poles posted on female body preference there is always a distribution of preferences - some vote they like big breasts and some vote small, some thin and some "something more substantial to grab" and so on.

* Guys body insecurity stems from blunt female preference - There are a lot of women saying they crave a big penis, and even when some girls say it doesn't matter it seems like they are either lying to protect males egos or are inexperienced. The latter remark is especially enhanced when an occasional girl confesses that when girls talk among themselves they mostly admit that size is really important.

I am a great example for this - I have an average penis and never in my life thought it's an issue, just like if a girl is small breasted or has a few extra pounds - it has no impact on me.
Only after randomly reading an article where women talk about size did the whole insecurity issue arise. Since then I've been searching for answers on different sites only to find out that it is an issue for many girls.

Do you think it's fair to make such a comparison? What's your opinion on the matter?
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  • Girl insecurities are caused by media/the fashion industry that put a spot light on being a certain size (fit/skinny, etc). Those insecurities are further reinforced by peer pressure form other girls.. NOT guys.

    Guys insecurities -
    Penis size, was caused by guys watching porn and peer pressure (everything looks bigger on camera) and the fact that the Porn industry is nothing but lies. Pornstars range from avg. size to a max of 10" in length. Half of the video titles say foot long/12" etc when ABSOLUTELY NONE of the dicks in porn are that big. The avg. pornstar size is around 7.5"L and 5.25" in girth.

    Guys have always been of the "bigger is better" mindset... when in fact that is almost always NOT true.

    Also guys have other insecurities (baldness, weight, Height) it's just that penis size affect most guys.

    99% of girls don't want huge... most are happy with 5<7"L and avg 4.6"<5.25" girth. Inexperienced or Immature guys don't realize that... and don't realize being BIG isn't a good thing and causes more problems than it's worth.

    • That is a wonderful comment. I wish I thought it was true (I mean the last paragraph)

    • It is true. The only Medical study doen on what size women want... found that the majority of women picked 6.3<6.4"L and 4.9<5" in girth. Other polls I've done/seen on sites where the women "knew sizes/inches" also wanted 6.5" and 5<5.25" in girth. Even pornstars don't want 7+".

    • The research you are talking about did indeed pull a 6.3/6.4 length and 4.8/5.0 girth, but that is the average, meaning that approximately 50% of the women wanted bigger (that was true for girth and not for length, meaning the standard deviation was smaller for length). A recent internet survey of 5,000 people stated that in the 1st place by far (34% of women) stated that the most important factor in a guy's body was for him to have a big penis. Another thing - as much as I love science, research concerning the matter is lacking, because except for the research mentioned above no research was conducted on the matter since Master and Johnson, and that was a loooooong time ago. In those days penis girth wasn't even addressed, and during the past decades, especially the past 10 years social norms have changed, we have turned into what is called the "Hookup culture" where women feel free to hold friends with benefits for their sexual pleasure, and since it starts out as a sex thing, they tend to go for

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  • maybe you are wrong. maybe boys are protecting female ego...

    everyone here says whatever...
    í know personality matter Type of person he or she is matter...

    but the truth is... we judge people at there physical apperance... every body is racist at there own level...

    i always heard girls says dick size doesn't matter but the movemnta matter but at end of the day we know we cannot lie to ourselves...

    and trust me boys are more insecure... about there dick size... if a girl once tell your dick is small compare to anyone... maybe if she even compare 12+ inch... men will get inseure... even they also know those way too much rare...

    do. not want to say about girls... they confused creatures...
    but they are also insecure at there own level...

    just becuase we stay in a society where we do comparisons...

Most Helpful Girls

  • Guys are exceptionally insecure about there schlongs.. it's annoying because you would find more chicks arguing that how you use it far outweighs the size of it. However guys don't listen to that they just assume she's lying. Everytime a chick says it. Guys are so insecure that they have already made up their own minds about how chicks think based on a few sensationalised articles rather than actually listening to the average woman.

    • Guys are lot more Insecure about their body hair as well

  • Girls insecurity is not from within... it's generally from guys saying they are all about boobs and butt and don't date fatties and who they tend to oogle in our day to day lives and on screen. i feel like the penis issue has far more to do with his "manhood" and how he measures up to other guys then it has to do with women).

    • but that could just be what it seems like.. I am not a man so I don't really know but that's the message I've always got from the guys who bring it up and talk about it.

    • I didn't understand your reply... what do you mean "but that could just be what it seems like"? And what's the message you've always got from the guys who bring it up?

    • i feel like the penis issue has far more to do with his "manhood" and how he measures up to other guys then it has to do with women).

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  • I think both should get over their insecurities.

    That said, I think there is a vagina out there for pretty much every penis. It's all about trying as many vaginas out there and finding the perfect fit that makes both of you happy.

    • I think the problem could be mitigated and not be such a big deal as long as people try each other's equipment out as soon as possible, like on a first date. The couple might even say to each other: "You know, it's our first date and since we might want to keep on dating, let's find out how well the penis fits into the vagina. We don't even have to have sex even, just try sticking the P in the V and let's see if both of us are happy with that." Then you can try and if it's good, you can keep on dating. If not, you can just go your separate ways with no hard feelings.

    • Yeah... well... you know those posts where a girl says "his penis is too big and it hurts"? and the replies from experienced women is "just take it slow and eventually you'll get used to it"? Well, that's the point where I think the perfect fit changed for that girl for life. So if women today have unleashed their sexual demons and fuck like there is no tomorrow, it's likely that more and more girls will go through that exact process, leaving like 50% of the guys out there with no perfect fit for them.

    • @Asker You do realize bigger isn't always better and when your really into someone it really doesn't matter anyway. Also the vagina is a muscle so it doesn't get stretched out by more use if that is what you meant by "So if women today have unleashed their sexual demons and fuck like there is no tomorrow, it's likely that more and more girls will go through that exact process, leaving like 50% of the guys out there with no perfect fit for them. " Kegels can help to strengthen as well (the more use; sex, kegels the better off you are) help and when a woman is actually aroused her canal elongates and she can accommodate many different sizes.

  • A everyone is insecure regardless sex or age or sexuality. The constant bombardment of ad's and stupid articles (which are almost always bias BS) basically brain wash people daily. In my experience, 50% of sex is between the ears and has little or nothing to do with appearance. Also, the term LOVE IS BLIND was phrased because when someone is TRULY in love, everything is perfect about their partner. To answer your question, people who criticize another person's body or clothes etc, are not in love with that person and are not worth the time of day to be with in a relationship.

  • Girl insecurity - Tit size, ass size, hip size, stomach size, mustache waxing, leg shaving, armpit hair, vagina stink, queef smell, make up or lack thereof, instagram photo filter for facial imperfection correction, arm waxing, hair styling, clothes, shoes, other women and more

    Guy insecurity - Penis size, height

  • I'll tell you the difference.
    The difference is when a guy thinks he's ugly he really is. No matter how hard he tries women say no.

    When a women thinks she's ugly she still gets hounds of guys going after her and if not she just needs to approach herself.

    • Yeah man, In a way that's a part of what I was talking about in my comment to CyberKnight

    • Exactly. See, I think when a woman says she has no confidence or is ugly she is comparing herself against other women but no matter how ugly a woman feels she still can be like "EEWW, he's too geeky" I've seen this on gag too. Tons of women complaining "I can't get a boyfriend" or "I'll be single forever". I replied and it was not long I discovered that all of these women who say "no guy will like me" have height requirements for guys they want and tons of other trivial guy traits they need.

  • A lot of people get nervous and insecure around me, and that makes me insecure. I think "I wish I weren't born so awesome and intimidating" but I was and I have to just learn to deal with it. One day at a time.

  • I'm luckier than most in that area, so I'll admit that I've never really had any worries about the dick measuring contest thing. for me, insecurities would be based on body shape and fitness and any genetic things that can not be changed. the things that can be changed, I do, so I don't have any major issues there, but as for genetics, it comes down to personal perception and outside perception and which of those you value more.

    when it comes to women, the insecurities are almost always felt internally, but caused externally. media feasts on female insecurities, and even feminism and other parts of the modern women movement do the same thing, but instead of saying that women don't look good enough, they make women feel like they aren't smart enough, that they aren't powerful enough, that they have to act out in order to be a real woman, and they can't be good enough just being the person they are. women are an unfortunate victim when it comes to all sides of the media.

    • All you've said is true, women have their issues to deal with in this world and men have different issues, like being expected to lead, stand your ground, face potential rejection when you approach women, being expected to make money and provide for a family, and more... The difference concerning the issue, is that for girls, as much as the media tries to paint a picture in certain colors, it doesn't hold ground when it comes to actual guys opinions, for example a woman can be influenced by the media and think she is not smart enough, but it doesn't mean that actual guys walk the streets and think to them selves "yeah, she's a dumb bitch" - it's all in her head. For guys and penis insecurity - sure it's something that the media brainwashes everyone from small dick jokes in movies or in real life and up to porn, but what makes guys worry is that actual women walk the streets thinking "I like the guy, but sex is a real compromise because he doesn't have a big dick".

    • That actually happens.. so guys insecurity stems from actual threat to their measured value by women, and girls insecurity stems from them believing the world works in a certain way because of the media when actually it doesn't work that way. Have to make an exception - salaries. That's it. All the other things are being repaired as we speak, with women taking major positions in politics all over the world, and also in the business world. The numbers are still to low, but they are on the rise. Women have all the reasons to be very optimistic when looking at the entire human history compared to the changes held in the past 60 years.

    • *too low

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  • I think we are insecure on our dick length and body strength. We don't want to be seen as weak or else we will be called sissies by our buddies. We want average size or big size Dicks because we don't want to have the smallest dick compared to our friends.
    Peer pressure and media hits both men and women because on the media it's portrayed as the norm

  • The difference is even the fattest nastiest bitch can open her legs and have a dick fall in. Men don't have that. So women's idea of being insecure is that the affection that they routinely receive is worthless to them.

  • Yes i agree I'm 5.7 inch long and 5.3 inch girth and I'm insecure too

    • Just to put your mind at ease, It's true that there will always be bigger, but it's not necessarily better. Women on average define a perfect penis as being a little above average in length, and above average in girth. The average girth is 4.6-4.8 inches, and really thick starts at about 5.5 inches, while 6 inches is a pornstar dick which many many women find painful. That puts you just about in the Perfect zone for most women. Relax and enjoy the ride.

    • Thank you man i know my length isn't very good but my girth is good thank you so much appreciated

    • 5.7? That's actually over the average, I wouldn't feel that insecure on your place.