I want to have a threesome With my boyfriend but?

I am a VERY jealous person yet I find it hot to think about my boyfriend with someone else but at he same time I'm very jealous. We have been to the strip club together and I think I'm bi curious because I was very uncomfortable and at the same time I have so much anxiety while getting the lap dance however I was turned on and was confused as to why and my boyfriend was getting a lap dance and I thought it was so hot yet I was so jealous at the same time and I ended up leaving and crying because I couldn't understand my emotions because even if I was jealous it was a HUGE turn on to watch him look turned on my another girl and a girl to turn me on too. I watch threesome porn and think it's sooo hot but the thought of my boyfriend doing it with another girls turns me on so much but it also makes me Very jealousy. I'm very self conscious and insecure but I have always wanted to have a threesome. The thought of swinging with my boyfriend and having threesomes more than once turns me on bu I just don't understand how I'm so jealous too. I really do want to have one but I have so much anxiety and I keep telling my boyfriend no then yes and going back and forth and he says ima hypocrite but in reality he doesn't even know these thoughts I have. I then get scared because I feel like what if he develops feelings for her. I'm the only person he's had sex with so I know he wants to have sex with others and it's good I'm basically bi but I just can't get over my insecurities. I know guys can have sex with out emotional attachment but I'm wired differently so I can't fathom thinking about him not having a connection to a girl too. He told me he wouldn't even want her to stay wouldn't even care to know her name. And how he wants a family with me and how he loves me so much but I don't know. We are both 21 well I'll b 21 in a month. be He said I'm the first person who's ever loved him ( he was in foster care) so he is so in love with me. We've been dating for almost 3 years.
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Or even worse. What if that opens doors to cheating and him wanting more without my permission. What if she's better than me because I'm his first and I'm all he knows
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Most Helpful Guys

  • It sounds like you are open to experiment, but you aren't ready to take that step yet. Let me tell you about swingers: there are a not a bunch of women out there looking to threesome with a married couple--they exist, just not lots of them. What you'll find among swingers are mostly couples for swaps or fourways. There are a lot over great people in the lifestyle, but don't even start if you are jealous.

  • If you are the jealous type, then it will most likely ruin your relationship. What is more important to you? Feeling loved or being very satisfied sexually?

    • Both

    • If you are determined to try it, find a girl that you are good friends with and you would like to have a relationship with (not a hook up) and bring her into your relationship permanently, including living together and having kids together. I think adding 2 other girls permanently would be best so there is an even number and nobody would ever feel left out or ignored.

Most Helpful Girls

  • It's a fantasy- not something you should live out.

    The jealously will kill your relationship if you attempt to live out this fantasy. My suggestion is to work on yourself and your relationship emotionally then try in a few years

    • Yea that's what I was thinking just to wait a little. Thanks!

  • Why would you risk your relationship like this? When he is fucking the other girl on the side... you only have yourself to blame.

    • What?

    • I don't have myself to blame at all I'm not the cheater here

    • Then go ahead have a threesome I think you should

  • "I am a VERY jealous person "
    Then it's a VERY bad idea and it will ruin your relationship.

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  • Threesomes can kill relationships if the girlfriend is the jealous type, I am telling you this now otherwise talk to him about it. Talk about what you want to try out and set some guidelines. Personally, I would tell you to just keep it a fantasy

  • it's sounds like a terrible idea and I recommend u just let go of that fantasie

    • But I don't want to keep it s fantasy

    • honestly I suggest u let go of the idea all together. there a part of u that says it be awesome but it self destructive. Just look how much u agonized over it already. why would completing it make it better it only make it worse. let ur man be enough for u and u are enough for u man. there no need for a third party

  • If you are this turned on but also this angsty about threesomes you can... Try to suppress the urge and deny yourself threesomes.
    Do the threesomes and try to just deal.
    Or combine the two. Research "cuckqueaning."

  • My husband and I are talking about one.

  • you think more than action.

  • if you are jealous it won't work out very well

  • the female mind has always left me bewildered *feeling so confused about women these days