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Yellow fever... Asian fetish... why is it a thing?

How do I get over/know whether or not some one likes me for me or my ethnicity?
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  • I'm going to address the second part 'how do I know if someone likes me for me"

    Most people are not pansexuals who don't care about appearance.

    Whether or not you date a guy who finds Asian women a turn on, you're likely going to be with a guy who finds your body type a turn on, who finds you having a vagina turn on, who finds your age a turn on, and so on. There's a pretty significant chance he finds your height and hair color hot. And there's a good chance he ticks a bunch of boxes for you, starting with 'has a penis', maybe his height, his ambition, etc, etc.

    There's nothing wrong with people having those 'boxes' and if you meet a lot of theirs, and turn them on, great!

    The question in all these cases is, do they just see you as a bunch of checkmarks on their list and an object of lust? Or do they emotionally connect with you as a person -as well-.

    So that's what you look for - the real emotional connection, being interested in you as a person. If someone connects with your personality, wants to know you, cares about you, and also happens to be ragingly turned on having sex with you partly because of your skin tone... enjoy it.

  • I am with a foreign born East Asian so I have "standing" on this.
    Arguably every relationship begins with physical attraction. I was attracted to her slender, athletic looking build, complexion, her petiteness and her lovely long black hair. This is not a fetish. It's an aesthetic preference no different from preferring one piece of art to another. But is that all? No.
    What also appealed to me, when I verified it, was her love of family and children, her mild, stable manner, her industriousness and acceptance of a traditional feminine role It's not a fetish. Its a preference of temperament. Is there a sexual component hidden in here someplace? Yes, but is amplified not by what she has, but who she is. One final thing. Foreign born East Asian women (and probably foreign born Latinas as well) are the cure for a society hamstrung by women infected with Feminist Derangement Syndrome and they will attempt to write off my choice as "yellow fever" when it is in fact my relief that authentic, feminine women still exist in this relationship wasteland in the USA. I thank G0d for her every day.

    • And thanks for asking.

    • Does foreign born mean born in their native country or (in your case) the USA?

    • original country. Japan, etc.

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  • If they like you for more than being Asian. If they have a preference towards Asians, I don't consider that to be an Asian fetish, it's like how many girls prefer a tall guy, it's a preference not a fetish. The Asian fetish is the sexualization of the subservient submissive Asian female, there's a particular stereotype being fetishized. So it's easiest to tell if you don't fall into that category, if for example you are a very outspoken Asian female.

    • What althea said nails it

  • It stems from ethnically based prejudices, and really disrespectful. I think your best bet is getting to know the guys really well before considering them. Trust your own instincts.

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  • I guess the word that start from Kaiser Wilhelm II.

  • Tastes are many and varied. Some guys turn into quivering blobs of jelly at the sight of the playmate stereotype, alblonde, leggy, large-breasted woman. Others go ga-ga for great butts or body builder babes or martial arts girls. Me, I'm deeply into ballerina types, but not as deep as I'd like!
    Yellow fever is real but really can't be explained as other than a personal preference.
    Here's the thing - most guys will go for women they see as beautiful, but will only stay with women they like. So a guy who sees you and thinks 'Asian! Hot!' Is no different or any more weird than the guy who thinks 'Ballerina! Hot!' It is only a first impression.
    The last ballerina I met was so into herself that after the first 10 minutes I couldn't imagine how I'd ever been attracted to such a repulsive bitch.
    In other words, what he finds attractive enough about you to get him interested in you at first is not what he's going to marry.

  • Ethnicity in dating is merely a preference. Im more of a latina or ginger fan, but I love all ethnicities. That said, if the ethnicity is all that matters, dont you think they could've found another Asian woman? Maybe one who'd be more desirable in some way? I dont know, sounds like you're making a fuss of it. I dont think it's a big deal.

  • you'll never know lol. gotta go with your gut.

  • No way to tell other than ask and hope you get an honest answer. But why does it matter why someone wants in your pants? What's the definition "me for me" when your ethnicity is part of you? As far as why it's just the way guys think. We tend to really want what we've never had and most non-Asians haven't had an Asian. Blondes tend to be my favorite but if she was Asian I wouldn't care what her hair color was as long as it wasn't grey for that reason.

  • It's a preference, the same as liking blondes/brunettes/redheads/sporty girls/fat girls/black girls/short girls/tomboys/Arab girls/long hair/piercings/etc etc etc

    You have to find someone physically desirable on some level to want to date them, and if by consequence of being Asian your features are pleasing to them, there you go.

  • Why do you care why someone likes you is my question. Also for reasons well fetishes are learned behavior so the media and pornography he consumes are to blame

  • lol I doubt that's a thing, if they like you for your looks you're attractive otherwise...

  • Cause Asians are cute

  • If its a fetish it goes rarely beyond sex. But
    If thers more than that, od say its just a preference, not a fetish

  • its insecure, diffident white guys preying on Asian girls know they utterly worship whiteness

  • get fucked so you know it.

  • Why? Asians are bad as fuck

  • I'm a white American guy, and I've given up on dating American/Western women (including Asian-American and other Western-born Asian women). I personally find Western women to be too demanding and unrealistic when it comes to relationships, not to mention that a lot of American women cheat. Ever since I've starting dating Asian-born women, most of these problems disappeared from my relationships.

    I like Asian-born women, not because of an "Asian fetish" thing, but due more to a cultural thing. I've dated women from Vietnam, China, South Korea, and the Philippines. The toxic ideology of Feminism hasn't really reached Asian countries yet, at least not on a large scale. Women from Asian countries are usually cute, smart, respectful, and loyal. Honestly, what more could a guy want?

    So, to answer your question, I like Asian women because they have personality traits that are damn near impossible to find in Western women.

  • If they just want to have sex with you and aren't interested in dating you or getting to know you then they might just be fetishcizing you. I don't think it's wrong to be attracted to someone in part for their ethnicity, as long as they aren't objectifying you or just using you for sex.

  • Are u Asian?

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