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GUYS: what makes a woman good in bed? I know this has been asked a hundred times but please give me some details, I am very inexperienced?

And please don't talk about blowjobs, that's a separate topic that I may ask about later.
I'm about to have sex first time with a new partner and it's been very long time since I've done it.

Do you think, first time with a new man, a woman should just enjoy herself and try not to just lay there flat on the bed, or do something, just little things. Or do you prefer her to be as active as possible?

I assume men enjoy doing most of the work since it's what they fantasise half of the time, but some others say it's annoying that women expect that of men.

Or maybe I'm just overthinking, first time is first time and this is something I should worry about later on?

Describe what girls do in bed that makes you go mad, I'd love to do that to him :)) thanks
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thanks for everyones opinions, you guys have been very considerate and helpful
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  • This is wildly subjective but in my case, it has practically 0% to do with skill and entirely to do with compatibility. If she's good in bed, it means I was so into her and she was so into me.

    It means our minds clicked and we had this almost psychic connection where we could anticipate each other and every move we made, every sound we made, etc. felt totally right to each other.

    Unfortunately this type of quality is not something you can typically improve very much. You two either have this type of compatibility or you don't. That's what elevates sex from being good to out of this world for me.

    In terms of things you can actually control, a deadfish is horrible in bed (a girl who just lays there). The reason she's horrible to me is not her lack of motion. It's her apparent lack of enthusiasm. She doesn't seem to be enjoying the experience at all and almost seems to be just "lending me" her body to use. There is no bigger indicator to me that we lack compatibility than a deadfish.

    Aside from that it's just physical things. If she wears sexy underwear, that's a plus for me. If she's trimmed/shaved/waxed down there, that's a plus for me. If she looks her best in these moments and somewhat dolled up instead of looking like a lazy slob, that's a plus for me. All of these things are small though compared to that compatibility I described above.

    • thanks for sharing, your view of this is 100% like mine. :)

  • 1. ENTHUSIASM. By far, the most important thing to making her "good in bed" Attitude is everything.

    2. Communication - she needs to be able to say what she likes, ask for what she wants, give direction (what one girl likes, another may not, and a guy won't know what she likes if she doesn't tell him), and let him know if something is wrong.

    3. Being open-minded. Not being afraid to try a new position, new technique, a new toy, a new situation, etc.

    4. Make the guy feel sexually desired.

    The other things, such as technique, will come with time and experience, but even great technique won't matter if you lack the things above.

    • thanks, that was a very well thought out answer :)

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  • be active don't act like a robot

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  • Trust me and be good in relationship u will be good in bed.
    Try YouTube channel called sexplanation on YouTube its very good.

    Experience and skills are not what make a woman good in bed cox these 2 can be acquired , what makes her good is her attitude feelings ( yes romantic sex is awesome ) and motivation to please the guy.

    You should have good conversations in ur relationship be understanding and communicate.

    Apply the same things in bed :) no shame in asking u like this or like that and tell me what u want me to do of where to focus , share each other fantasies and preference. Maybe try 1or 2 fetishes of his and urs. be open and transparent about sex also about urs :D u tell him u enjoy him doing u this way and that encourage him make him feel happy that he made u feel good :D.

  • Bascally anything other than laying there like a tranquilized matress.

  • Passion and being uninhibited. When you have these two things, than it makes sex more comfortable and sensual and then you are able to explore each other's likes and fantasies and desires easier and with more honesty and openness.

  • Just be open about what you like and I like it when a girl just has fun during sex.

  • Being confident, affectionate and showing enthusiasm.

  • If your body is sexy enough, you really don't have to be that good in bed (in my opinion). In other words, I would personally be content with a girl who has a perfect body, even if she was a dead fish in bed.

    However, if you weren't blessed with a body like that, and you've already realized you need to compensate for it...

    Be active, enthusiastic, open minded, and make it frequent:

    Active = Don't just lie there. Put some moves on him.

    Enthusiastic = Let him know how much you enjoy the sex. If you don't enjoy it, pretend like you do.

    Open Minded = Don't be afraid to try new things. Get over the mental block. Find out what his fantasies are and make them a reality. Try to get him to do the same with yours.

    Frequent = This one is obvious. Make sure you initiate at least 50% of the time. The more often you have sex, the more satisfied he will be. By doing this, you'll inadvertently get better at all the other things.

  • you should moan loudly even if it's fake, we love it!😂

    • well I'm not someone who likes faking anything, but thanks for the opinion anyway ;D

    • lol np

    • if you wanna stay in touch HMU on Snapchat: ruvi_weissman

  • Be active and eager. A lot of guys really don't like girls who just lay there.

    • thanks

  • as long as she´s eager to do stuff, she´s good. everything but the dead starfish is fine.

  • She just has to be open to what the guy wants. For me personally, I have a foot fetish so I like a girl who caters to that. Other guys like a good blowjob then go straight to fucking. Guys aren't very difficult to arouse either. Just give him a quick handjob and just go along with the ride.

  • I love foreplay kissing biting scratching, all give and take I don't want to fuck a sex doll so I do enjoy my sex partner to grind down on me, I want to fuck her but also want to be fucked by her, I want her to make me cum not fuck a limp starfish haha

    • thanks, this was helpful. I like to bite playfully, not too much. but one guy kinda laughed and made fun of it, so it made me self conscious to ever do that again. :)

  • The #1 most important thing a woman can do is have enthusiasm and willingness to try new things. If you have that, 90% of the rest will fall in place

  • lol it's experience, but u should not worry about it, making u good in bed doesn't mean too much

    • thanks

  • talk lot more dirty talk

    • well I'm a shy person, but if something comes in the heat of the moment I'll try to voice it out, he's definitely that kind of guy who'll appreciate it. thanks ;D anything in particular you like to hear?

    • better to know your guy a bit more to advice you on that

    • yeah I don't think I will be very verbal first few times we do it, I'll wait till we're more comfortable with eachother

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  • If you care for each other you talk about what you won't do an respect that an you don't do what you don't like an if he cares he won't mind

  • Try to be yourself and try to forget all these questions. A woman is good in bed when I notice that she feels comfortable and that she takes what she needs

    • Yes, I agree with you. But in order for me to be comfortable it's nice to hear some men perspective of whats a turn on and turn off. :) thanks

    • turn of is when the girl starts to cry or wants to try weird stuff at first time. Turn on is when she moans and seems to be horny

  • enjoy yourself, be interactive, as in try to make sure he's enjoying it as much as you
    And don't be fake

    • thanks, yes I want him to enjoy this that's why I'm asking ;)

    • well, each person is different. don't be afraid to ask what he likes, you have to communicate at least some. personally, I'd rather have a woman tell me if something is not something for her, how else will I know know? Then again, my personal biggest turn on is making sure my partner is completely satisfied

  • Take initiative, say what you like and how you like it and say it in clear language

  • Two things really do it for me:

    1) Her taking her pleasure and getting off
    2) Her wanting me to feel pleasure and get off

    These two things are what my partner gets from me and it's what I want from her. The more enthusiastic she is for both of these, the better, so long as the enthusiasm shows and is genuine. It doesn't matter what else she does… it will be fantastic.

    Feelings, when mutual, also make a woman good in bed. Sex brings closeness. Closeness enhances pleasure. It's a feedback loop that builds in a really lovely way.

  • What makes a woman good in bed?
    You can be completely incompetent. Just be eager and uninhibited and you are "good" And let him coach you, especially on oral.

    • thanks. ;)

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