Should I feel creeped out? 28 year old man pursued me, a 19 year old girl?

[Anonymous]

I was out the other night and a guy approached me as I was leaving and asked me on a date. We went on the date, ended the night with a bit of kissing and parted ways. I thought he was a bit older than me, myself being 19 and I though he was about 24 based on information I gathered without directly asking. He knew I was young though before our date though because I told him that I just graduated high school. We went out again today and I midway through I brought up asking how old he was and he said he was 28 and I told him I was 19. He seemed ok with this though and I don't know, I feel almost creeped out. Isn't the creepy rule half your age plus seven, so 28/2= 14+7=26. I know it's legal but I feel as if this is still wrong. I feel that 28 year old men wouldn't be wanting a relationship with a 19 year old girl, I feel like they just want the sex. He never brought up sex, but the sexual innuendos were definitely there and maybe I just feel creeped out because I feel as if that's too much of a gap to want anything sexual out of.

[MrOracle]

Let me start by saying that it's perfectly fine to follow any guidelines you wish, and to make whatever decisions about your sex life that makes YOU comfortable.

But you also need to realize that, once you're an adult, there are no rules about this stuff. My grandfather was 10 years older than my grandmother, and they married when she was 16 and he was 25. They were married for 66 years until he died.

There are lots of 19 year old women who feel just as you do, and wouldn't feel comfortable dating a 28-year-old - but there are also plenty of 19-year-old women who would LOVE to date a 28-year-old, and have absolutely no issues with that age gap. How is a 28-year-old guy supposed to know which category you happen to fall in?

All he did was talk to you. If you aren't comfortable, fine, say so and move on, but there's no reason to be creeped out or label the guy just because it's not what YOU want - remember, there are plenty of women your age who would happily date him - or even have casual sex with him - or, even, MARRY him!

You do you, but let other people do what they want to do, and as long as they aren't hurting anyone, don't judge them for their decisions just because they're different from your own.

[Asker]

That's a good way to put it, I respect your answer a lot and I understand more. Thank you

[1988fido]

I am 28 and I fell for a girl who is 19
Everyday of my life been thinking about her and I asked her out and genuinely wanted long relationship with her. And sex wasn't even in my head , but she rejected for age gap.

So don't judge on the age thing and just be careful take things slow :)

[Anonymous]

I'm 19 and I would personally feel uncomfortable in this situation so you'e not alone. 9 years is a pretty big difference, especially at this age. It's okay to feel this way and if you truly don't feel comfortable you shouldn't keep seeing him.

[BellePepper]

Ewwwww. I feel creeped out for you.

I think especially since *you* feel it's creepy you should move out of the situation regardless of how you or other people think you should or should not feel.

[DevikaButts95]

It's really up to you and you comfort levels, but it's nice to see someone else use that age rule my friend told me. Lmao.

[Erebusthehyena]

if you are uncomfortable then yes. but age doesn't matter at all really if both people are legal

[MinkWinsor]

a number shouldn't make your decisions for you. how he treats you and if you like him back.

[kerthle]

What are your own standards? If you feel it's creepy, then it is. Your moral standards are your own

[M2sean]

The age gap is an uncomfortable topic for a lot of people, love, but I've known relationships like that work.
As far as being creeped out, yes. I'm thinking the feeling isn't reciprocal and he's on the hunt, so to speak.

[Synaptikal]

That's how girls get raped, you should be careful with who you decide to share your words with.

[zagor]

There is no "rule". It is individual preference. If you like him when you though he was 24, why would you suddenly be put off by 28. Maybe if he was 40 I could see your point, but it sounds like you're upset by some "rule" someone made up on the internet.

[Asker]

I'm not upset, it's just that I see the problem with this age gap and I don't believe that he doesn't think that this is a problem unless he was just looking for sex. This would never work out as a relationship. It's not the number or the rule, it's that our lives are at totally different points at these ages. I'm looking to date and have fun (that does not mean sleep around, it just means not take things so seriously), but him being almost 30 is probably looking to settle down. Then again, unless he was most likely just looking for sex, which I think is creepy but it seems as if I'm alone on this.

[zagor]

Uh, a lot of guys 30 and up just want to date and have fun; ask a 30 y. o. woman. Yes, that includes sex, but that doesn't mean they don't also want a fun relationship or "just want sex".

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

#1 Your not a girl anymore. You're an adult. #2 If the age gap bothers you then tell him to get lost.

[thomasans]

Get those formulas out of your head. No one made you go out with him or continue to go with him. Ever hear of gold diggers, how about cougars? Sugar daddys?

[Anonymous]

well but he is still not a pedophile