MFMs - what is the appeal?

[JimRSmith]

Breaking the habit of a G@G lifetime here, and asking a question in the Sexual Behaviour section.

I ran across this question the other day, and the results struck me as interesting.

https://www.girlsaskguys.com/sexual-behavior/q2363169-which-threesome-would-you-have

More than half the girls selected MFM. This has always struck me as much rarer in real life than MFF or FMF seem to be. But it's clearly a popular choice.

So what's the appeal, and why is it not happening more if it's popular? Is it one of those things that works better as a fantasy than a reality?

I'm asking as a guy who isn't interested in participating, but who is curious about what's driving this.

[redeyemindtricks]

So, here's some perspective on this from girl-land.
With 1-on-1 sex -- even if it only lasts for a night -- there's still SOME kind of connection that happens, there. Transient connection, sure, if nothing deeper is present -- and that sort of thing's fine, for SOME people.
But, still... there's a connection. Still SOME kind of "relationship", even if it only lasts a few hours. (This is why we don't get all wet from just *seeing* hot boys, no matter how perfect they are—there needs to be a backstory.)

Now, see, what's interesting about situations like MFM, is that they cross this line.
They cross into the realm of REALLY being "just sex" -- in the way boys stereotypically think of.
Dissociated. No "relationship".
Fundamentally different from anything that could happen in a 1-1 encounter.
(Drunk sex might be different. I've never been drunk or anywhere close, so I can't say.)

THAT is what you've gotta think about. You need to think about how this is going to affect you, and yr relationship (if you have one).

I remember the first time I did MFM.
I was with this boy, and his roommate walked in on us... right behind me, while I was pretty much in classic spit-roast position. Well, yeah, I just kinda arched my back a little bit, and gave roommate the green-light gesture. Fuck it, let's do this...
I mean, I could actually FEEL the line being crossed, at that point.
The whole "backstory" thing just disappeared, and was replaced by raw, emotionally dissociated sex, with absolutely no emotional strings of any kind at all.

I mean, I don't think that could even be a thing, in a 1-1 situation. Don't even think it would be possible.

That sort of thing would leave a LOT of girls feeling used and worthless. A lot of girls wouldn't be ready for that.
*I* had fun... but I'm also deep into the tail of the bell curve when it comes to uninhibited, IDGAF sexual aggression.

So, you'd have to think about how that would feel. That could be absolutely anywhere from exhilarating to soul-shattering. Depending on you, and the girl (s).

AND, you'd have to think about how it would affect yr relationship with yr girlfriend (if the "F" here is going to be a girlfriend). Would yr emotional bond survive completely non-emotional sex?
I don't know.
You probably don't, either.

If it DOES work out -- and if the rhythm is right, and if the boys aren't afraid of cooties -- it's AWESOME.
Four hands on my waist, getting slammed from both sides mmmmhhhh omg #fuckyeah

High risk high return.

[redeyemindtricks]

Note... "if the boys aren't afraid of cooties -- it's AWESOME" The "afraid of cooties" thing is very weirdly common. Like, cooties with a half-life of at least several minutes, wherever the previous boy's penis has been. ... Which would be understandable I guess? EXCEPT for the fact that these are **specifically boys who are down for the whole mfm thing**. In that case, I'm just like srsly what the actual fuck, boys. Also, boys are just... so... weirdly catty and competitive with each other. Like they're more interested in trying to one-up **each other** than in actually trying to fuck this woman they're with. Like wtf boys? Eyes on the WOMAN!

[BlackMaleYou]

All this sounds like true objectification.

[redeyemindtricks]

@BlackMaleYou I mean, yeah, that's basically the point -- it **IS** pure objectification. It's objectification of EVERYONE involved. WHich is basically the whole point I'm making, about "crossing that line" into a territory where no one's story or identity rlly matters anymore. ... Which some people can live with, and some people can enjoy (and even get off FROM the pure objectification aspect)... and others can't.

[1988fido]

I accept that as nice logical reasoning :) And I see your point as sort of valid. But lets say I am not like that and I can't have mfm or mff or any 3some even if I fantasies about it and a big turn on for me. Idea is i will be sad and maybe hurt /heartbroken. Because I develop feelings and I am jealous type I can never learn to share my girl with anyone, even if she was one night stand or escort. Don't know. why or how and it certainly doesn't make sense because I don't love her or like her so why am not fine with having 2 girls at same time :/ don't know Why would I feel upset from mmf coz I see a girl who is supposed to be ducked by me bring fucked by another guy. Jealousy will kill me I guess :(. That I'd my opinion on your opinion :).

[redeyemindtricks]

@1988fido With a woman you're actually in a relationship with -- or even just a one-night stand (which is still, on some level, a **personal connection** as I mentioned here) -- that's perfectly normal. In fact, I'm pretty much positive that the vast majority of people (of both sexes) feel that way... Which is why, GENERALLY SPEAKING, it's inadvisable to try to do these kinds of things with a serious relationship partner. You mentioned "escorts"... ugghh. That's a totally different thing. The idea of a man paying for sex is repulsive to me (and to MOST women) -- because it means he sees sex as something to TAKE FROM a woman, rather than as something to MAKE WITH a woman. ... I honestly have zero understanding and zero empathy for that sort of thing. That said -- If you would actually get jealous over a woman WHOM YOU PAID FOR SEX... then... that's really, really weird. Because isn't that the whole point of paying money for sex, is, you're not supposed to **feel** anything? Lol smh

[1988fido]

Yes U nor suppose to. feel anything hhhh XD but I still do of there is another guy in the room doing. Her. Or even looking at her naked. So I want her to be fully mine and no one knows share :/. Hhhh Even if it is another girl am not sure about this thu, coz my biggest fantasy is to do 3some, mff so Am just not sure about myself hhhh what I want or how I feel. It's just weird and uncomfortable to have 2 more people naked and see her being fucked by me is annoying :/ I get jealous. And after I finish that escort I don't care of she sleep with half of the country hhhh. And I won't have feelings for her, but if I saw the escort for long time and multiple times I will develop feelings so I stop :) meeting that escort. Now am. single for past 4 years and no sex life whatsoever coz I want to do with someone I like etc Maybe Coz i develop feeling fast, so that's why I mind sharing my escort. But why mff same? Coz they are sharing me and am not sharing any of them I get to fuck both

[1988fido]

And also I would never ask my S/O for 3some ( mff) coz I won't be able to stand the idea of her asking me for mmf. I will shoot her and the guy if he even touched her =.=' So it's fair to never ask for my #1 fantasy Coz i can't handle the reverse of it hhhh A bit screwed up in the head I guess

[redeyemindtricks]

@1988fido As long as you're in touch with yr own needs and wants, that's the only thing that counts here.

[BlackMaleYou]

@1988fido, you are not the only one. The idea of 3sets of pussy lined up in front of me used to turn me on real good but it doesn't anymore when I thought about it i wouldn't wanna do anything serious (relationship) with a woman that is willing or has had a 3some. I realised if i was a woman i would be disgusted and wouldn't want to be with a guy that has had a 3some.

[redeyemindtricks]

Tx for the MHLuv <3

[8plusInches]

yeah i love how you waved him in to fuck you! your my kind of girl baby! but yeah girls love thinking about 2 dicks at once even if they don't admit it. but yeah I've set some girls up like this with friends before and it almost always worked but usually it'd be my friend and a girl he picked up, but we've done it to most of his gfs too. but he gets them naked and sucking his dick and then i walk in and have a girl with her ass facing me and a mouthful of cock and I'm inside her pussy pounding her before she knows it! but also shared a few of my gfs this way!

[oboeyoudidnt]

As someone who has HAD a MFM threesome, the appeal for the girl is the sensory overload. You are the center of the attention, and can keep getting continuously fucked while one guy taps out after cumming.

MFM actually make more sense physically than a FMF. In a MFM there can still be action going on after one guy cums. In a FMF (unless the girls are bi) after the guy comes the action is over. You kinda just sit there awkwardly till he gets a boner 20 minutes later (he could still be giving oral, but in this situation many guys just expect the girls to do their own thing. Even if they're not bi) Also guys like to take a break after they cum lol
MFM threesomes happen more frequently than you think. It's just not as widely popular because of the idea of two guys being together in ANY sexual manner (even if they aren't touching) is seen as taboo still, while two girls is seen as hot.

[oboeyoudidnt]

If anything FMF works better as a fantasy than a reality lol

[oboeyoudidnt]

It actually does get me kinda irritated when guys perk up at the idea of a FMF one, but absolutely refuse to do a MFM (even for their partner.)

[CheerGirl38139]

Freakin Aye. 🙋

[redeyemindtricks]

"In a FMF (unless the girls are bi) after the guy comes the action is over" ^^ ahah. even **this** is optimistic. I mean, I would never have a threesome involving another woman (because ahha let's be srs... I'm straight, and I'm SUCH an attention whore). But, I mean, really. Most boys are bad enough at paying sufficient ATTENTION to just ONE woman. Two, I can't even imagine. A fmf with two **straight** women has got to be the most insufferably boring experience in the entire world. In general... a woman is like a whole surge strip, and a boy is one plug. (If he's a VERY unusually gifted lover, then, MAYBE two plugs... Maybe.) Would you plug more than one plug into the same surge strip? #mmhmm #fuckyeah you would. Would you try to plug a single plug into 2 surge strips at teh same time? Bahhahaha.

[amphet11]

Al girls are bisexual anyway

[CheerGirl38139]

@amphet11 sure mate. You can keep saying that over and over again... Maybe it will eventually be true... that's how it usually works with most things. Just keep saying it over and over and over until it's actually true. 👍😂😂

[amphet11]

Lol at anyone who believes women are heterosexual, they are all bisexual, they consume 2.5 times as much lesbian porn as guys and it's is by far the most popular genre of porn to the female demographic (pornhub statistics,). "straight" women are also literally more aroused by the female body than the male body, indiana. edu/.../Chivers_Seto_Blanchard_2007. pdf (read that, it's scientifically sound proof). Playboy once did a test where women where aroused by a lap dance by both male and female strippers, while men where only aroused by female strippers. Most women will make out with other girls after minimal alcohol, and will be willing to do sexual things to another girl during an ffm threesome. Normally the thing that makes a girl want to have sex with a guy will be non physical, non gender specific traits and will need these non gender specific traits to feel sexual attraction to them in the first place.

[amphet11]

Female sexuality is fluid while men have a hard wired sexual orientation. Anthropologists say women don't actually have a sexual orientation, just an amorphous mess based off sexual narcissistic self affirmation. Disagree with me if you want but there is far to much evidence (both scientific and anecdotal) to consider heterosexuality the female default, look up female sexual fluidity and see that anthropologists and neuroscientists agree with me (well I agree with them). Women are more visually attracted to themselves auto-erotic and are closer to being lesbian than straight if you are being pedantic about it.

[oboeyoudidnt]

As a girl who had a fmf threesome, I can assure you I had no desire and did NOT touch the other girl. It was boring af

[CheerGirl38139]

@amphet11 you're saying that these "studies" claim that ALL females are bisexual? Because that's exactly what you said. Not that they lean that way, or might be more apt to be that way... but that we are "ALL bisexual". That's what you're saying right?

[CheerGirl38139]

You blocked me? 😂😂😂 You must be super confident in your claim. 👌

[redeyemindtricks]

@CheerGirl38139 I bet this is one of those dudes who's gna claim, with a straight (ahha!) face, that boys who fuck other boys in prison aren't actually gay. 🙄 I also like how he thinks the google analytics tools are gna have **any** accuracy (rgd age and sex) when it comes to PornHub. (Google analytics literally trusts whatever you say you are, if you're logged into a google account. And if you aren't, or are using private browsing, then... well, it just becomes one giant exercise in circular reasoning: "If you're primarily clicking lesbian porn, then, we'll call you a woman. Oh heeyyy! Women like lesbian porn!" Lmao)

[redeyemindtricks]

@cheergirl38139 Pssssstt girlfriend. Translation tip: "Women are more visually attracted to themselves auto-erotic and are closer to being lesbian than straight if you are being pedantic about it." ... is a fancy way of saying "I can't get laid. And I refuse to work on myself."

[CheerGirl38139]

@amphet11 nevermind. I remember you now. You troll these questions going up and down spewing your agenda that all women are bisexual. Did a woman leave you for another woman or something? By your logic, bisexual and homosexual males don't even exist, which we'll all know is not the case. You can say "LOL @ people who think" all day long, but it's you that males a fool of yourself crusading for this claim. Have a nice day snowflake. 👋

[amphet11]

Claiming absolutes is for effect - most women are bisexual -most men are straight -bisexual men are incredibly rare (as are truly straight women)

[LaurenGrace]

from all my experience Mfm is one of the most amazing experiences to ever have. it doesn't have to be all grunting and power fucking. it can be a nice and beautiful love making session with 2-3guys. being centre of attention and getting all stimulation and satisfaction you may not otherwise get with 1 on 1 sex is mindblowing and such intense orgasms follow.
the flip side of the mfm coin is pleasing 2 guy also makes a girl really enjoy her time

[MrExtremely2Kinky]

I love it!!

[LaurenGrace]

you know thats 100% accurate @MrExtremly2Kinky

[MrExtremely2Kinky]

Definitely!!

[JBro_]

Is it me or is this question kind of sexist? Not saying it is. MFM isn't popular because it requires a straight man to share his mate with another male and possibly participate in unwanting or awkward sexual behavior to please her. Girls not really, but may be slighyly more open to having romantic or sexual behavior with another because feminine open emotions. Men do not wish to cross boundaries more, for more reasons than one. Even if a girl suggests it she can't force a guy to do it, which is why it's less popular. Where as females tend to do hsrd things for people they love or to please people in general. Where as in a gay or bi relationship the men are open and willing. This doesn't mean men should be more open, but that people have their boundaries and people should respect them whether you're a M or F. But if you want to please your mate try to be less conscious about things and think about them.

[cth96190]

The appeal, from a male point of view, is to watch the female turn into a sexual animal who screams and cums so hard and so often that she can barely speak, during double penetration.

[SOUTHofZERO]

I'm bi so I'd have no problem with it.

[Brutally_honest]

It is no different than ffm

[Khitaka]

I would do it. But I'm bisexual. It seems like fun. Pounding some girl with your buddy. Why not?

[AthleticMom]

I guess of all the erotic stories we've read in bed and acted out (as much as possible as a couple) the one that sticks with me, thus seems most attractive in a strange way but would "never do it" (famous last words?) was the poker party, as trite overdone that scenario has become. The story is very stimulating "He Gives You Away" in the old novel To Turn You On by Aphrodite... which contains a bunch more to turn women on... they do! www.amazon.com/.../0553026801

[wetnwild]

I would love to read your book.. Do you have any less expensive. I'm low income, disability

[AthleticMom]

@wetnwild reading off the amazon link... $1.99 used options to buy...

[Account]

Lol, I love how some men call women whores for having that kind of fantasy, yet they would accept a FMF threesome in a heartbeat. What a bunch of hypocrites they are!
As for me, I am not into threesomes at all, not even as a fantasy. I am into the idea of mutual possession and threesomes do not fit in that concept at all.

[oboeyoudidnt]

This^^^

[BlackMaleYou]

My ideal woman. Not into 3somes either.

[FatherJack]

I would never do a 3 some!!!

[OGEuphonium]

I don't get it. People say it's weird with another guy, but you aren't having sex with the guy. I would try an MFM because so what I am seeing another penis. I've been in an open shower where I have seen 20!

[redeyemindtricks]

Right? Lol Tbh, I can't imagine why that would be weird, unless there are [at least traces of] gay tendencies in the boys who think it's weird. I mean... I've had sex with other women in the room before, and there's honestly no difference between the presence of the other women and the presence of, I dunno, pets or furniture. Because women have no effect on me, sexually. ... so, if a boy htinks that the presence of other boys would make this "weird", then... I think that boy should just come on out of that closet, there. (If the boy just doesn't share well -- to the point of possibly starting shit with the other 1/3 of the threesome -- and/or just isn't turned on by the whole idea of non-1-on-1 sex **period**, then, those are legit enough, and don't rlly indicate that the boy's in the closet.)

[MlleCake]

It's hard to line up two guys who like me and also don't mind another guy in the room.

[vishna]

I think it's an interesting idea as long as everyone trusts and respects each other. For example, some women want to have double penetration, others want single penetration while giving a bj or not, kissing, nipple play, etc. In my head, it would be more about spoiling the woman's body and giving her as much to feel as possible.

[OrdinaryGentleman]

So like one top side going anal and one bottom side going vaginal?

[vishna]

@OrdinaryGentleman nah bro, I'm not about the double penetration. I don't want to be spitted.

[OrdinaryGentleman]

You don't wanna be a chicken?

[vishna]

@OrdinaryGentleman no, haha. Not my ideal fantasy.

[RJGraveyTrain]

I think it doesn't happen more because men aren't cool with crossing swords. I'm not into threesomes but from what I've seen, men only really like the idea of MFF - it appeals to their personal desires and women tend to be more sexually fluid so they're more open to it. Men on the other hand, are not.

Kind of hypocritical but whatevs.

[FatherJack]

You speak the truth !! Personally , any type of 3some would not be for me , 1 woman will be enough if you get her going correctly !!

[redeyemindtricks]

"women tend to be more sexually fluid" ^^ I'm pretty positive this isn't true. Women are just (a) more willing to ADMIT sexual fluidity, and (b) more willing to act the part in order to get attention from certain boys. As for (a), there are plenty of studies by now to show that homophobia = repressed homosexuality. (The studies measure physical/penile arousal to gay stimuli, so... not the kind of thing that can exactly tell lies). Can link you to the main ones, if you've not seen those. ... so, it's safe to conclude that pretty much any boy who's actually hateful against gays -- as opposed to just not really caring one way or the other -- is at least bisexual. And let's not even start with the boys who can somehow twist their brains into letting themselves think that boys who fuck other boys in prison can still be "straight". I mean, also there's just common sense. Pretty much EVERY other kink involving copulation with something besides an opposite-sex individual -- inanimate

[redeyemindtricks]

objects, animals, you name it -- is OVERWHELMINGLY the province of boys. So why would this one, single, specific thing -- namely, wanting to fuck the same sex -- mysteriously be predominantly female? Yeah riiiiiighhtttt. gimme a break.

[godfatherfan]

@redeyemindtricks sorry, I don't agree with that even a tiny bit. A straight guy will NEVER kiss another guy (or do anything else sexual). There is no way I am sticking my dick in a pussy that another guys cock just came out of. And what if he came inside her? that is so freaking gross to stick your dick into another guys cum that I would probably puke. I have asked several women this question..."if your at a bar with your girlfriend and a guy agrees to pay your tab the whole night if you kiss your friend (deep kissing) for 2 minutes" do you do it? in every single case the answer was basically "it is just a kiss, why not?". NO WAY any straight guy says anything but "NO FUCKING WAY". The reason guys don't have sexual fluidity is it does not exist. If someone is into threesomes, then more power to them. I turned one down when I was 20 because I find them repulsive (it was with 2 hot women). I would have had sex with each women by themselves but that wasn't the offer..

[redeyemindtricks]

@godfatherfan Lol I know plenty of women who'd give you a hard no, to that question. Some because ewwww, and some because they wouldn't want to feel beholden to some boy picking up their tab (and inevitably **expecting** something in return). I agree with you on what "straight" means. Yes, if you are straight, you have no sexual thoughts about the same sex. ... But I've heard way, way too many boys try to claim that, e. g., boys who fuck other boys while in prison can somehow still be "straight". (Srry boys, but... if you EVER **willingly** have sex with another boy, then, that's gay. Period, end of, over and out.) I've heard these things often enough that it casts doubt across the board on exactly how boys define "straight".

[godfatherfan]

@redeyemindtricks Ahhh.. gotcha. Yea, I would agree with you there...

[sedrftvgyhujik]

I agree with @redeyemindtricks we have a lot more potential social consequences for doing anything deemed gay. Saying that under the right circumstances i probly would do MFM. I'm a straight guy as i'm strongly attracted to the majority of women i've seen and or been with and never to any men but think it's still a spectrum if i'm more specific about my sexuality with guys visually I either feel repulsed , some what threatened or I don't really feel anything , sometimes gelose but not attracted and not repulsed. I wouldn't want to interact with a guy sexualy in anyway but I think I could still enjoy doing MFM if it was a guy I wasn't repulsed by or that felt like a threat long as the actual interaction was just with her.

[sedrftvgyhujik]

But if a guy does do MFM he would definitly still be risking more accusations of being bi than a girl doing FMF and it would probly also be a bigger deal socially.

[christian_witch]

I disagree with that. Men are just as sexually fluid, but societal pressures make it very difficult for them to admit they are. At least in public that is.

[musicbrain5]

I don't get the appeal of threesomes in general, so I have no idea.

[SassyPinkLittleRWR]

I think it is super hot... But it's like. .. I don't know. I feel like the guys would talk and everyone would think you were a slut and expect you to do more of them. And guys are weird and would like text you all the time asking for it. Just seems like a nightmare to really do. Fun to think about when class gets boring though.

[Alej27]

You get the attention but it is a lot of work as the guys can get competitive... And they have expectations that maybe don't match reality. They expect that anything can go or the girl is a toy. mFF can get u jealous or affect the relationship from a girls perspective

[madiangel]

i love it, it is lots of fun each time

[SarahsSummer]

It's a great fantasy idea in the sense that two men are fawning over me, pleasuring me, but I doubt I could have it in real life without all the negatives that just don't exist in ones fantasy.

[CheerGirl38139]

"Is it one of those things that works better as a fantasy than a reality?"

I'd say that's a high likelihood.

[LaurenGrace]

no works better in real world than fantasy.. its more than you can actually dream of

[itsallover]

How do you know it's not happening?

[PrincessPie]

I misunderstood this question at first.. but knowing what it means now.. I can definitely see the attraction of why a woman would want to guys lusting after her and the turn on of it.. but i'm not sure if i'd like the reality.. i'd have to try it to know.. and i doubt i ever will :)

[PrincessPie]

*two guys

[Blonde401]

More attention on me, more pleasure for me, why have one when I can have two (like everything in life). I'd be up for trying it. Why not. If it sucks then oh well, at least it was worth the experience.

[CheerGirl38139]

Woot! 🍆🙋🍆

[biguyct]

nice :P

[Blonde401]

@CheerGirl38139 😂 Exactly!

[Pizzalover101]

Yah but if it were good could you be done with it

[Blonde401]

@Pizzalover101 it's a hypothetical situation.

[Pizzalover101]

Ok so that be no then

[Blonde401]

@Pizzalover101 am I supposed to just not answer any questions?

[Pizzalover101]

Which questions

[Blonde401]

@Pizzalover101 🙄 Never mind.

[CheerGirl38139]

You lost him a while back @Blonde401. I wouldn't waste the key strokes.

[Blonde401]

@CheerGirl38139 good point! 😏

[Pizzalover101]

Thank you for helping me

[SovereignessofVamps]

How si this even a question, or in other words, what's not appealing about it? I'd pick this over being jelly of another girl and 'fighting' over 1 guy in bed any day.

[8plusInches]

yup and girls can handle at least 3 guys/dicks at once if not 4 or 5 if you count hands

[SovereignessofVamps]

@8plusInches LOL that was actually funny.

[someho]

It sounds hot just thinking of MFM but i'm not sure if i'll ever do it.

I might try it out if i get chance at my face otherwise i won't be seeking for it.

It's hot being dominated by two guys though...

[blazerock44]

really.. just like how its hot bieng teased and dom8nated by 2 girls

[someho]

Yeah exactly the same