Ok for Girls with boyfriend to watch lesbian porn?

[Anonymous]

Is it normal for a straight girl in a relationship to watch lesbian porn? I caught my girlfriend whom I've been in a committed relationship with for a couple years watching lesbian porn. We live together. I tried not to make anything of it because I've heard other guys say the same thing. They told me it was actually quite normal but I wonder how normal it really is. I watch very little porn because my girlfriend doesn't want me to because it makes her jealous and she said it wasn't good for me and asked me to stop so I did. I asked her how long she's been watching it and she said ever since midway through college because some girls friends in her dorm were that had boyfriends so they coaxed her into starting to watch it too so that means she's been watching it several years. She said she really enjoys it and it has nothing to do with our relationship and that she never watches male porn. I'm wondering if I should just let it be because we do have a happy relationship, or ask her not to watch it anymore because it might affect our relationship some day? Do any of you girls in relationships watch it or guys that have girlfriends watching it? What do you think is the best thing for me to do? All opinions or suggestions will be much appreciated.

[samhradh_leannan]

The biggest issue I see with this is the fact that your girlfriend has asked you not to watch porn, yet still watches it herself. If you were addicted to porn or watching it excessively to the point where it was negatively impacting your relationship, then this could be reasonable. Otherwise, it's pretty hypocritical on her part.

As far as the lesbian porn aspect, it's normal. I personally am straight, but I only watch lesbian porn (when I watch porn at all, which is not often). It's hard for me to explain why, because I'm not even totally sure why myself, since I have no actual attraction to the women I'm seeing. I've thought in the past that my preference for lesbian porn comes from my ability to understand what it's like to be a woman and therefore know what the women on the screen are feeling, which is possibly more of a turn on for me than actually looking at any person's body. However, I have enjoyed straight (and even gay) porn in the past when I was single. I think maybe my commitment to my boyfriend makes me feel uncomfortable with the idea of being aroused by other men, a problem that is absent with lesbian porn.

[Asker]

Like I said, I didn’t mind when I stopped watching porn when she asked because I could see her point of view, and I can see yours also. We do get along great sexually but I can tell she has a way with girls in easily making friends. I was glad to hear you say her watching lesbian porn was normal even though you have a boyfriend too. I found that very interesting and eye opening that a girl can enjoy lesbian porn when they are straight themselves since it’s because they can relate to a woman's feelings so much more than another man. Like you know exactly how they must be feeling with no regard to the looks of their bodies. I think my girlfriend feels exactly like you said regarding standard porn, “uncomfortable with the idea of being aroused by other men, a problem that is absent with lesbian porn”. That’s probably why she enjoys lesbian porn it so much – because she feels no guilt when getting turned-on while watching it. Thank you so much for your input. This really helps.

[samhradh_leannan]

Keep in mind, making friends with girls easily doesn't mean she's attracted to them. many girls have an easy time making friends with other girls, just as lots of guys easily make friends with other guys. I'm really glad I could help, and that my insight could help you get an understanding of why your girlfriend might enjoy lesbian porn. If you want to know more about her feelings on it, you could always talk to her.

[Asker]

After reading what you just suggested I might just to ahead and talk with her about it some day in a good way that encourages it. I don't want it to become an issue nor do I want to embarrass her since she enjoys watching it so much. She did say she watches it several times a week and sometimes masturbates whenever really getting turned on like she did the day I caught her. Obviously she's been into this for about 3 years since she's younger than I am. The fact that I don't watch porn anymore (I didn't watch it often before) seems to give her a much more secure feeling that this is her thing to enjoy and have fun with. Thanks so much again and for sharing your input and personal experiences. This has been valuable to me.

[samhradh_leannan]

I'm glad I could help! Just keep in mind that if she expects you to be okay with her watching porn, she kinda has to be okay with you watching it, too. If you don't want to watch it, that's fine, but if you do want to, that's something to discuss.

[Asker]

Thanks again but I don't think I'm going to be wanting to watch it anymore. I'm content now knowing that this is her girl thing to enjoy.

[samhradh_leannan]

If that works for both of you, that's great.

[Katie2244]

both my girlfriend and I watch all sorts of different porn, lesbian porn tends to be more sensual than straight porn which tends to be straight to the point so a lot of girls watch it more. if it hasn't been affecting your relationship then what's the harm. though bit of a doubt standard if she's asked you not to watch but does herself

[Katie2244]

double*

[Asker]

I get your point but I kind of thought it was a good idea when I stopped. She did say a lot of girls do watch it because of the reason you said. You brought up a very valid point about lesbian porn so thank you. You've been of help.

[Katie2244]

my pleasure

[thor4days01]

if she asked you to stop and this discomforts you then ask her to stop as well, im in a relationship with a girl right now and we both watch porn cause we dont live together but id rather we didn't and satisfy each other ourselves

[Asker]

Thank you for your opinion.

[snydes]

Been with my girl for 7 years or so. Her favorite kind of porn is lesbian. Don't see any issues with it.

[Asker]

Thank you. This was very good to hear because I don't see her stopping anytime soon without my making some kind of a hassle.

[Iron_Man]

Because they like to make the boyfriend hot. it’s not like they really want to do that in real life the boyfriend finds it hot on the computer only so the woman gets hot, knowing that the boyfriend finds it hot online so they like to please the boyfriend by talking about it and watching it with him fantasy online hot time only online once in a blue moon

[Dave31989]

nope

[JennieF]

Yeah lots of girls do it.