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So my boyfriend is into cucking? WtF do I do? Dump him?

Alright I finally talked to my boyfriend about why his friends are so handsy with me and have spanked me and why he hasn't said anything. At first he just tried to say they were weird and it's cool. But I kept up and he admitted it turned him on and he even suggested his friends should do it which explains a lot. I didn't even know what it was and did a lot of research. He told me it wasn't necessary for him so if I wasn't into it he could let it go. But before that he was saying things like "It's so important to me. And do you know how hard it is living with this secret and feeling like a freak?". It just seems really important to him. And because how he handled it the first time I am worried he might go behind my back and do creepy shit like tell guys to do things to me and just claim it had nothing to do with him.

Any girls boyfriend's into this? Are any of you okay with it? How do you handle it? It also just kind of makes me feel weird about him. I expect a man to be able to protect me. Does he still have that instinct? Or would he just let some robber rape me if they broke into my house? 😒

Guys feel free to answer those questions. How can it be just a kink? Can you live without it even though you like it? Should I still feel safe with him? Would he protect me?

Note: he is an amazing guy other then this. He seemed perfect. He lifts and is attractive. He is very caring and smart. He believes in equality and is totally cool with my feminism. Like I would hate for this one thing to ruin it.

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Most Helpful Guys

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  • "Well I have been talking to some people about it. He is really awesome like I think I like very him. This is just super weird. But if he needs it then I am okay with real mild stuff. Like his friends could boss me around and like touch me. But no sex or anything extreme. Will that be enough you think?"

    No, it will not be enough. He just will want you to go further and further and it will be a mix of pain and pleasure for him.

    Why is he doing it? Lack of self-esteem. To a point that it is dangerous to a healthy relationship. Thus you should reconsider your relationship and ask yourself if you really can keep going with it.

    • Well I already talked to him about it and told him that it was necessary for him in the relationship that it is only fair if we compromise and each give something up. So I told him I will never ever have sex with anyone else but his friends can still be bossy to me and can feel my thighs and such. I told him I would never do the femdom sissy stuff. And he told me he isn't into that part. So I'll play it by year and see

Most Helpful Girls

  • there are many guys out there who like the cuck thing, but the fact he suggested his friends do things without talking to you about this particular kink first suggests a disregard for your own personal boundaries which is worrying. exploring kinks is fine but only with consent, it's not one I'd go for myself because I wouldn't want to be with someone who wanted to involve other people in our relationship. would he protect you? I honestly don't know, that's something you would have to talk to him about and ask yourself if you would feel safe with him

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  • He was very wrong to tell his friends or let his friends touch you without your consent. It's ok that he has this fantasy. It's NOT ok if he lets people mistreat you to fulfill HIS fantasy. It's for that reason I think you should break up.

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  • I've heard this was a fetish but didn't believe it. I wouldn't stay with him if you're not in to it for the thought that he would probably tell a guy to do more than just touch you. I mean he had his friends doing it already and tried to play it off so there's really no telling. just my thoughts...

  • honestly my ex girlfriend was into seeing other girls do things to me well not fuck but kinky things such as seeing women suck on my finger

  • He's not going to tell guys to fuck you as much as they can. You should really sit down with him and talk about it. The fact that he even brought up a kink with you to begin with means he trusts you and he trusts that you trust him. Now would also be a great time to tell him about your kinks and what your fantasies are. Whatever you do don't make fun of him for it or break up or be rude to him because he brought it up. Again if he didn't trust you and he didn't think you'd trust him, he wouldn't have brought it up. Seriously sit down seriously one night and talk about what he wants to do with his kinks or fantasies s and if he has anymore kinks or fantasies and discuss about your own kinks and fantasies. He's not going to hurt you in any way shape or form, and he's hoping you don't hurt him in any way shape or form with this new information.

  • Its like a free license to cheat!!! Bang all the hot dudes h want... ur weird boyfriend won't care

  • Yes, dump him. Immediately. Ugh. Just reading the title I feel a need to wash. Cucks are fuckin dirty nasty creatures.

  • Dump him.

  • He obviously doesn't respect you enough to talk to you about it first. He just let his friends carry on. Have you told them to stop, or did you tell him it bothered you? I think it's pretty messed up, I would never let something that made my girl uncomfortable happen.

  • Well he was actually able to talk to you about it. It's a kink and it's something that turns him on. He should have discussed it with you ahead of time, but if you get to choose when and who, would you be Ok with it? I'm. Not into that but I have enjoyed watching a girlfriend have sex with another guy. It was nice to see her enjoying herself.

    • Never to sex but I told him I would compromise and they can still be bossy with me and like touch my butt or keep their hands on my thighs if I sit down. Just nothing too sexual and he was like super happy with that.

    • Well as long as you are comfortable

    • wow, so basically they can at least feel you up right in front of him!

  • You're not sexually compatible and it won't change so you have a decision

  • I had some friends who were into that, too... she initially was surprised at her husband's desire for this but she got into it...

  • No. Just no.

  • He is a total cuck yet you think he is smart? I think you're ok with such a guy then.

    • Yeah he is a good guy. We have been together for 2 months. This is the only thing weird.

    • i doubt he could go forever with you not at least getting naked in front of his friends or maybe jerking off another guy in front of him. he wants to see you enjoy another mans dick and to see that guy want you and cum because of you! one of my friends actually loves this and I've fucked lots of his GFs over the last 14 years!!! and usually the girls end up being nervous or thinking its weird then they end up enjoying being with me too and then gets easy and lots of fun for everyone after the 1st time cause then his girlfriend would have experienced it and enjoyed it and they are usually looking forward to seeing me again! and all his gf's are usually really hott so I don't mind taking care of his girls pussy for him!

  • DUMP HIM

  • lmao. what are you waiting for? dump him

  • Throw him like a bottle

  • that is so dumb he is messed up

  • Wow thats shit I don't really like this shit fantasy and I don't respect people who have it. First of all they should respect the woman who liked and cared about them I rather die than having stupid fantasy like this and yeah I say dump him.

  • Of course dump him.

    • cuck downvoted me. lol

    • Lol he is not on here lololol lol

  • dump him if he doesn't do anything to fix it.

  • He question is, are you interested in trying it out and letting other guys mess around with you if your BF's feelings didn't change and he did protect you but only let you enjoy this because it turned him on too?
    Or are you 100% opposed regardless of anything?

    • Well I have been talking to some people about it. He is really awesome like I think I like very him. This is just super weird. But if he needs it then I am okay with real mild stuff. Like his friends could boss me around and like touch me. But no sex or anything extreme. Will that be enough you think?

    • Really depends on the extent of his desire.. that may do it for him.

    • Well that would work I guess.

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