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Be completely honest, do you lose respect for others if they engage in casual sex?

Inspired partly by this question: https://www.girlsaskguys.com/sexual-behavior/q2393096-i-don-t-know-if-i-should-feel-guilty-when-i-have-one-night-stands

So basically, it seems like a lot of people were telling her to not engage in casual sex, some even used insults.

I could understand I guess if she was your potential mate, why you'd be so critical. You don't want to catch something, be tricked into fathering a child that isn't yours, be cheated, etc etc.
However, there's a small chance that you'd ever meet let alone date this woman, so what gives?

But it's just not that question, lots of men and few women have asked if they should dump their partners because they've found out that they were promiscuous prior to dating them. Many times, the promiscuous partner hasn't even asked them for "crazy sex acts", haven't indicated any signs of infidelity, and they're pretty much normal in relationships like the rest of us humans (weird right?) And yet, the person is distraught and wants to leave. I won't lie, I'd probably want out if I found out the person I was dating had many notches on his belt.

My question is, do you lose respect for people who have casual sex? Does it matter if you'll never date them? Does it matter if it's a man or woman (you know, because it's supposedly so much more difficult for men to get sex than women)? Does it matter what types of casual sex, like one night stands vs friend with benefits? Does it matter the act like 3sums vs bjs? Etc.

Let the answers flyyyy.
Be completely honest, do you lose respect for others if they engage in casual sex?
Yes, I lose respect for ANYONE who has casual sex
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Yes I lose respect but ONLY lose respect for women
Vote B
Yes I lose respect but ONLY for men
Vote C
Yes I lose respect but ONLY if it's a partner, anyone else I don't care
Vote D
No, my respect doesn't depend on sexual activity.
Vote E
No, I actually GAIN respect for anyone who has casual sex
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Most Helpful Guys

  • My question is, do you lose respect for people who have casual sex?
    Does it matter if you'll never date them?

    -I guess on some level, but if I never had any intention of dating them then it doesn't really have much of an impact on how I respect them as a person. I generally don't insult women for being promiscuous. I don't really see the point, and its also a pretty overused insult so if I really wanted to hurt a girl calling her a slut isn't the best option.

    Does it matter if it's a man or woman (you know, because it's supposedly so much more difficult for men to get sex than women)?

    Yeah, for one I have no intention of dating a man so I don't care about the sexual history of men and I do think women have it a lot easier. A woman doesn't have to be above average in any category to find men to hookup with. All she has to do is be willing and she can usually get guys who are more attractive than she is to casually fuck her. There are plenty of chubby average looking sluts, but chubby average looking manwhores are nowhere near as common.

    Does it matter what types of casual sex, like one night stands vs friend with benefits? Does it matter the act like 3sums vs bjs? Etc.

    3some is definitely a dealbreaker.
    I could potentially accept a girl who has had fwbs or one night stands tho.
    But only on two conditions...

    1) Her total number of partners is within 3 of whatever my number is at the time.

    and

    2) She doesn't make me wait for sex or expect me to commit upfront. I want her to display the same level of sexual desire towards me that she displayed towards the other guys and just like the others guys were valuable enough that she was willing to sleep with them without expecting commitment first, I want that same option. I want to be able to decide if I want commitment after sex.

    If she doesn't perceive me as being valuable enough to get the same deal she offered to the other guys then I am not interested.

  • Sex used to mean something to people. Now our young people treat it like it's entertainment. Sex without feeling is much different than when there are feelings involved. If a woman is ready to sleep around in casual circumstances, I'm usually not interested. Of course it feels good, but using it as entertainment is not something I choose to do much of. I don't care that others do, but it is not entertainment. It's much more.

    • Dude, you're in your 40s, casual sex isn't a new thing lol it didn't "use to mean something", gem hell, when you were born people were going at it like rabbits. I don't think that it's "our young people's" fault as you claim. Promiscuity has ALWAYS existed. Here's another fun fact, the amount of STDs in the "aging" population has increased and the rate is increasing because granny and gramps are engaging in "risqué" behavior in retirement homes.

    • Though I don't want a promiscuous partner. I prefer he has experience yes but not too many partners.

    • I'm actually 64, not 44 like the site shows, so I'm really old. I'm a product of the "Free Love" 60's. I know what casual sex is. Back then it was a young persons, with some exceptions, game. I also know from women I've dated that many more older people in the world today like it than when I was young. I've had women in their 30's and 40's message me in online dating and when I ask why they are interested in a man my age, they say they are sick of the men their ages that still have sex at the top of their list of important things. That's teen age stuff and a sad commentary on many men, as well as some women, today. At least the younger women want stuff that really matters. Your comment on STD's rising with older people is true. I still say it's more of a young person's thing while adding that there are many older men and women today that haven't matured yet. I'll agree to disagree on some of this.

Most Helpful Girls

  • I don't lose respect for those who wish to engage in any type of casual sexual activity for whatever reason. As long as they are having sex in respectable terms where all parties agree to it, know their precautions and keep themselves safe... heck, they can do as they please. But for myself personally, I don't wish to be intimate nor date a man who has had multiple partners/had casual sex with countless of women. I know that he possibly has the ability to stay commited and know how to love me... but the amount of women he's been intimate with, I'm sorry but I can't shake off as I PERSONALLY view sex as a fairly intimate thing to be shared with only whom I feel completely secure, attached and in love with. Therefore having sex with someone who doesn't share that same view/value would make me feel non special - for a lack of better words.

  • I lose respect mainly if it's a partner.
    The only time I would with a stranger is if the circumstances were terrible. For example, this girl was the type to sleep with the entire school and claim they raped her. That's just ridiculous

    • Pretty much I agree with this. There was this lady at my bartending job that pretty much had been with many of the guys there. I didn't think much of it until I saw her throwing herself at married men, or in relationships. She knew they were married and even talked to the wives, and hit on the men when the women went to bathroom or something. I lost a lot of respect for her and the married men that accepted her advances

  • A person's previous sexual activity is none of my business. I'd never lose respect for someone over something that's not only not my business but has also absolutely nothing to do with me.

    • What if they tell you about it? "Hey Shauna last night I let 9 guys run a train on me, and tonight I'm going to try a 5sum with 2 married couples! Oh, and I have church in the morning though. It's the only time I'm on knees without genitals in my face hahaha" The last part is excessive and a joke obviously lol

    • Hahaha 😂 I still would judge though! Each to their own and as long as their happy, then I don't care 😂

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  • I don't lose respect, no, I don't base respect on sexual activity alone. The general attitude displayed in a certain level of promiscuity may cause me to judge, but not just the fact that someone is promiscuous. As an example, if a girl or guy was to sleep around without protection and took a lot of risks with their sexual health and personal safety then I would question their attitude. If a person has had a lot of safe sex I don't really care.

  • unless you cheated on a partner or banged a ton of people without using protection, i don't care.

    i've had casual sex, though i'm not promiscuous; therefore i don't judge or make assumptions about other people who have done the same, partner or not.

    • "banged a ton of people without using protection, i don't care" Isn't banging a ton of people promiscuity?

    • depends on how many and the time frame; if you banged, say, 25 people in a year, i might be inclined to say 'yeah, that's promiscuous' and definitely have some questions re: your commitment issues. but 25 people over 5 years = 5/year=pretty standard these days. still, i don't necessarily lose respect for those people. it's only when you're putting a potential partner's health at risk (hence the caveat 'without protection') that i draw a line, since someone who's willing to take that kind of a gamble with his or her own health obviously lacks respect for both him/herself and others (and, if you don't respect you, why should i?). i hope that kind of makes sense.

    • 5 a year is a lot lol

  • Other peoples sex life is none of my business.

  • I lose respect, but only slightly. It is more like disappointment. The more they sleep around, the more disappointed I become and the less respect I have for them.

  • Nope, if someone wants to have sex, than Okey why not?
    As long as this person isn't cheating or playing and tells openly their intentions, than go for it. I won't judge someone based on their Sexual partners, I will judge someone by the way how they treat other people

  • Don't lose respect. However for females, that cuts their chances of dating her by lots. Otherwise it's no skin off my teeth what responsible adults do

    • Would you not date a woman who's been promiscuous?

    • What's your level of promiscuous though? Girls who have sex on a list they wanna do on a night out or girls who are single an open to dating?

    • That depends on you lol what is your limit?

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  • It depends on how they're doing it. If they're doing it for fun, taking precautions, and having standard, then I don't lose respect, but I don't give them more respect either, it's just whatever.

    But if they're fucking anything that moves, not taking precautions, doing it because they wanna be accepted by friends or society... then I lose respect for them, both men and women.

  • Nope, my respect has nothing to do with sexual activity.

  • Don't lose respect if they're doing it honestly.

    Immediately lose respect if they do it behind people's backs.

    • So they should broadcast that they have lots of sex and partners?

    • "Hi, nice to meet you. I'm Bob and I have had 6 one night stands. :) " Lol that'd be weird

    • If i a girl said that to me, id ask if she'd like to make it a lucky number 7 :P I wouldn't say you have to broadcast it, but if the topic comes up i won't care really. - At the point of the first date i care very little about the girl. - By the time i call her girlfriend i care much to care about her sexual past.

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  • - In moderation no worries
    - Too much and yes... it's just not a very honourable or not a very good example to set for others

  • Others can go fuck, get accidentally pregnant or infected, and screw with each other for all I care. However, I expect a woman I date to be a relationship only type person like me. If she had a fling or two I can deal, but I'm not interested in someone who can't take it seriously and responsibly.

  • Psh

    And this female here said "I'm not very attractive" that statement is so false the picture is screaming lies

    • Thats not me lol thats Lauren London haha I wish I looked like her

    • Ok, keep lying 😊

    • lol Google Lauren London lol she's black. Im Mexican I am going to post hot black women as my pic cuz some racist on here said theyre all ugly

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  • I find it immoral to have sex with out the emotional attachment of a relationship.
    And if they have had very many relationships then I would question their intelligence if they keep making the same mistake over and over again.

  • I wouldn't lose respect for a potential partner who has engaged in casual sex in the past because I have as well and thoroughly enjoyed it.

    To each their own for people who like being promiscuous.

  • as long as they're safe about it i don't care

  • i lpse respect for anyone that doesn't respect themself.
    that doesn't mean someone who had casual sex.
    there's a difference between having casual sex once in a while when single, and being addicted to it, or basing your own value on others using your body.

    the latter isn't something you want in a serious partner

  • I don't really judge people based on that factor unless they have had like 50 people by the age of 18.

  • Yes i would regardless of gender

  • Yes, but I lose respect for men and women in different ways. I lose respect for men because they're violating the sexuality of different women, and I lose respect for women because they're giving up their sexuality.

    • What does that mean, "violating the sexuality?"

    • It means taking away the sexuality that is meant for one life-long partner.

    • So abstinence? Meh. That's boring

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  • Not as long as she plays with me.

    • *toys

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