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Sex for the first time with this guy was bad?

so i was seeing a guy 8 months-no sex. we finally became official boyfriend & girlfriend and had sex for the first time with eachother. i had only had sex once before when i was 18, now im in my 20s. the problem is that it was bad and it was my fault. i just suck! when i was on top i was awkward and not going at a good ryhythm and it was hurting and i was trying to just stop focusing on the pain but at on point it was just too much and we stopped he didn't even cum-,- anyway, after he just kissed me and cuddled me and was trying to fall asleep while holding me. he seemed sweet after but i know he thought it was sooo bad. i asked him if he's happy we're together now he said yes. I don't know he seemed like he was good at it and i just feel so embarrassed 😩
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Most Helpful Guys

  • Cowgirl tips
    Here’s the way I have found, with the help of a very cooperative girlfriend, that a woman can ride her man all the way up the mountain to multiple, increasing powerful orgasms and ultimately, squirting.
    • He needs to understand that he can help with this position by grabbing her hips and helping her move. At first, leave to her own devices but as she gets more and more aroused, he should become stronger and more and more forceful in moving her back and forth.
    • Put him on his back and mount up with you on your knees.
    • Slide him in and settle in so you’re comfortable.
    • Rock like you’re riding a horse, slowly at first and faster as you get more aroused.
    • When you’re ready for him to help, reach down and put his hands on your hips. For effect, you can beg him in your sexy slut voice to help you.
    • When you start to get close to cumming, move like you’re trying your best to break that thing off. Of course, you won’t but the point is to not hold back. Just go crazy.
    • When you’re right on the edge, tell him to do you. He thrusts up as powerfully as he can and holds it with you impaled as deeply on his cock as possible, perched on his erection. He also forcefully tilts his hips and slams his shaft into your G-spot.
    • As you cum, don’t even slow down. Keep going and you will cum over and over, each time increasingly intense.
    • If you have The Big One, as I call it, you may very likely squirt so if there’s a gush, it’s not urine. It’s female ejaculate. Keep going until you’re completely done.
    Here are a few ancillary suggestions:
    • Pee first so that if you should squirt, you can be confident it’s not pee.
    • If you’re into S&M, have him forcefully pinch your nipples as you’re starting to cum.
    • He can slap your tits around if you’re into that. One girlfriend of mine liked to be slapped while she was up there with me telling her what a trashy slut she was for being up there in the first place.
    • Some ladies like their men to reach around and smack their ass while they ride.


    Just relax, don't hurry things. Follow his lead and talk to him.

  • You don't have anything to feel embarrassed about. It was only your second time. It takes a few times for your body to become adjusted to the sensation. Did you guys use a lube? That would be a good idea. Also have him try some foreplay. He can use his fingers n tongue to help get you wet, n ready to receive his erect penis. Was the pain because you are tight, or maybe he's a little to big for you. Even if he is, there are other options. One would be for you to be on top. But you will find that its more effort on your part. Another idea would be for him to not fully penetrate you. Im just under 7 inches n I've been with girls who had a hard time with it. (no pun intended). Chill n try to enjoyit.

Most Helpful Girl

  • Practice makes perfect. You can't really expect the first time to be good except by pure luck if it is. You have to get to know each other and become more comfortable with each other. Talk to each other about your (and his) sexual fetishes, kinks, needs, wants and desires then get going at them. Please have fun and enjoy yourselves. :)

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  • don't be embarrassed , sex is awkward the first time with someone...

    • do you think the next time it will be better? & has this ever happened to you? and if so what did you think about the girl

    • it might be, set some music and just follow that... and no its never happened to me, still got my V card unfortunately... but if it did, I wouldn't care if it was bad if I loved her.

  • Relax. Next time let him do the work. I personally hate being ridden. My ex ex was like this and she was so nervous it made sex awkward. Gotta just chill out and realize he's not judging you. I've never judged a women's sexual performance unless she's so insecure she can't even get in the mood!

  • what not try doggy? hard to be bad at that...

    • it hurts when he goes super deep. i haven't had sex in years. maybe that's why I don't know but yeah that's why i was scared. also, i heard in that position it's easier for him to push air in your vagina and make it make fart sounds-,- i dont wana add that embarrassment on top of what's already there

    • tell him to not go too deep. you need to communicate. that's what sexy talk is for

  • Don't worry you will get better with time and practice

  • offer your pussy again make it better.

    • how do i make it better? lol it hurts like when he goes super deep and i feel fucken awkward

    • tell him not to go too deep and be a lady bear a little pain.

    • i haven't heard from my guys since. it's been two days. i texted him earlier and h replied within 2 hrs and then i didn't reply cus i wanted to see if he'd call. he didn't

  • why didn't you finish him with a bj or handjob

  • So you have had sex once 2 years ago and you wonder why you were bad at it? Of course you suck at something you don't do often enough. Just do it more and it will be good in no time. It's not that hard.

    • i know why i suck! my concern is whether he now feels disappointed or something

    • Then you also know it's going to be better next time. So you have no reason to feel concerned. Even if he was disappointed, next time he will not be and the time after that because you get better at it. So no need to worry.

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