Another girl masturbating videos on his phone?

[Hyperchick096]

I'm not sure how to react to this one. He initially told me that his friend had e-mailed him videos of a girl they both know masturbating and he "wasn't sure why"... come to find out after reading his texts that he had asked for the videos, saying that "porn isn't doing it anymore and I need something for when (I, his wife) is at work." I had to get up before him to go to work so I left a note on his phone saying that it was extremely wrong for him to be doing that and if porn isn't cutting it for him now (not even 2 months into our marriage, me 6 months pregnant with his child) then what will cut it in the future, how that's extremely insensitive to the girl for the guy she initially sent the video to to be sharing it with all his friends, and a lot of other angry crap saying that we needed to talk about this whenever he woke up. He woke up and said how sorry he was, deleted all the videos so he says and unfollowed a lot of instagram profiles where it was mainly women, "removing the temptation". Which, ok, great. But it's like now where do I go from here? I really don't give a crap if he watches porn - it's the fact that it's not cutting it for him anymore and he wants more... real, stuff I guess? And it's not like he's sex deprived either, we have sex every other day at least. I don't get it, and I don't know how to react to it. He's groveling at my feet practically, and I'm extremely pissed off I just have no idea where to go from here.

[Cmasterson]

I'm sorry temptation... he shouldn't have gotten you pregnant (i know it takes two) but depending on who you are, shouldn't have been so willing to start a family right now if he has to deal with temptation and he can't settle the hell down. I'm with you on the porn thing I could care less, but when our sex life and our private personal relationship is being affected then yes its wrong and not to mention his friend is an asshole who send that to his friends- I mean what type of person does that. It sucks but sometimes really being the perfect mum and wife doesn't cut it for some people and it sucks for you that you have to deal with this. Let him know that his actions are not okay, that him removing everything is nice, but its not going to make you forgive him right away, he has to work for the relationship and the trust. Let him know its not a game. You can forgive him or makes steps to.. but don't just be like "okay great you're in the clear".

[VesatileMarie]

Honestly i wouldn't trust him after this, if anything I wouldn't wnt him to touch me now more than ever, because this means, he was never satisfied, and if you hadn't caught him, how far would he have gone so early on in the marriage?

[jasminenicks]

a girl he used to work with sent one to my husband, she was a freak and he was like wtf she keeps sending me videos... so I told her she fucked with the wrong girl and put it online and sent her back the link... hoe.

[Hyperchick096]

It's not like I can go to the girl directly otherwise I would. She didn't send him the videos directly she sent them to one of his friends and the friend is passing it around. I don't know her personally either I just know it's someone they used to go to school with but I'm definitely telling her that it's happening.

[jasminenicks]

if she doesn't know then ok. but its horrible I know you need to talk to his friend..

[Hyperchick096]

Yeah I know for a fact that she doesn't know this was going on, I was there when the guy she originally sent them to got them and was talking to everybody about it. Wasn't talking about sharing them then (or not in front of me anyway. He had a bunch of friends over and I fell asleep early.) Sad part? We're having a daughter. I asked him how he would feel if that was our daughter being treated like that and he didn't say anything.

[Anonymous]

Maybe try to make your sex life more spicy? Try new things? Find new kinks that you both will enjoy, or leave videos here and there for him as well. But for what to do now, I'm not sure. I don't think you should end it with him as you are pregnant, as well as people make mistakes. But he made a big one obviously. I think you should be left alone for a bit to calm down, and then start thinkint about what you should do so you don't do anything you would regret

[Hyperchick096]

That's the thing. I already send him videos, let him do practically whatever he wants and it's not enough.

[TallAnon]

Maybe letting him do what he wants isn't what he actually wants ;)

[Opinion Owner]

How often do you take charge?

[Opinion Owner]

^^^^

[Hyperchick096]

@TallAnon dude he wakes up to me on top of him sometimes I'm so horny. (Pregnancy hormones man) and then he takes over when he wakes up. I'm not afraid to take charge every now and again lol

[TallAnon]

Hahaha, should be safe on that aspect then :P

[TallAnon]

Guys just want something different every now and then. I do feel sorry for the girl that her videos are being handed out like a library card. As an example, if you eat the same cake every day, it gets boring after a while, right? It's like that. Don't worry, it happens once in a while, but in the end they always go back to what they initially liked. As long as he doesn't actually cheat on you, I don't see the problem.

[TallAnon]

Actually, isn't he just trying to be carefull since you're pregnant? Just a thought.

[christian_witch]

That's pretty much cheating in my opinion. He also lied as we which is another big deal. I would tell him how serious this is. He needs to realize how upset you are.

[BlueDreams]

Pretty frustrating... Are you sure that he really loves you?

[Osprey]

You have no proof