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Girls, do you get jealous when your boyfriend masturbates?

At first I didn't mind cause I did it too. But I found out he watches it a lot more than I do, twice a day almost, sometimes even more. And it makes me feel insecure, sad to say. We have sex almost 5 to 7 days a week and I put a lot of effort into it. I like to try new things, dress hot, and I let him try his fetishes on me with no complaints. but he still masturbates. Makes me wonder if I'm not good enough, or if he finds them more attractive. Pisses me off cause he has a foot fetish so i spend lots of money on pedicures and i buy nice heels for him and im accepting of his fetishes, but yet its not enough he has to go online and look at other women's feet to jack off too even though he claims to love my feet (yeah I know it sounds ridiculous), I've talked to him about it, he takes it as me being my "typical" jealous self and being irrational. His defense is he's a 20 year old college student, so he's horny all the time. I know he's not completely honest about how much porn he watches. It just sucks being jealous over something this stupid. Can anyone relate? Any advice on dealing with this? Am I overreacting?
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  • This culture accepts this kind of behavior and we've normalized it. It's not normal, sure maybe maturation is ok if you're single but porn is not. I used to never care about porn or jacking off until I met my boyfriend now, this is why I've sworn off western men haha. He does not watch porn or jack off. When he first told me this I thought he was lying. At the time I masturbated and watched porn myself and we've also been taught that guys just do this and it's normal. After being with him for a while I realized he wasn't lying, he was being serious. Eventually i started to follow his lead, I first quit porn and then eventually masturbating. I can't tell you how much better sex is, I'm so much more sensitive to his touch and even visual stimuli. Everything is just better and my orgasms are outrageous! His brain was never tainted by porn so he's always been super sensual and I notice a huge difference between sex with him and exes who watched porn. The perve in me also kind of likes the idea of him saving every drop of cum for me haha My two cents now, if it bothers you talk to him about it. Relationships aren't about getting your way but you can definitely find a compromise like maybe no more foot porn for him and that way you have something sexy between the two of you and he'll be extra turned on by your feet because he's not seeing it or getting off to it elsewhere.

    • This is very helpful. Glad you shared. May your sex life is always enormously good!

  • When I was younger it may have bothered me but I honestly don't care now. As long as our sex life is banging and we feel satisfied with the amount we're having together then our masturbation habits are none of the others business.
    Really I think too many partners try and get involved in their SO's masturbation. It's private, and what they do with their own body is their business

  • he's got a high sex drive and the fact he tells you means it's not a big deal... he doesn't try to hide it or keep it a secret. if you're really worried talk to your boyfriend about it but it's pretty irrational jealousy in my opinion. Although I understand the annoyance at pedicures... but you're probably good girly. maybe try blowing him more?

    • or if you're really worried about it maybe challenge him to see of he can go without masturbation for three days or so and have an incentive for him trying to do so

Most Helpful Guys

  • would you be ok with the amount of porn consumption if he was honest about it?
    the fact that you guys have so much sex definitely suggests that he is not dissatisfied with you but to have sex up to seven times a week and masturbate at least 10 times a weak seems like he either has a bit of an obsessive compulsion for sexual satisfaction. I wouldn't take it personally since he still treats you well and engages in regular sex with you but you could probably address the dishonesty and perhaps voice concerns about the rather excessive amount of sexual gratification he engages in (although i imagine that won't go over too well)

    • thanks for MHO!

  • I have a foot fetish. I would do the same but not as often as that! He is very horny!
    seriously don't take it personally, I wish I could caress my girls gorgeous feet all the time ❤️ but I can't do I watch porn.
    You watch porn as well, does that mean you don't love him? Does that mean you think the guys you see on there are better? Smh!

    • Classic female attitude, it's wrong for him to do it but not me!

    • That's not what I said at all. Reread what I said if you need to. I masturbate too and don't mind if he does at all. The thing is he watches excess amounts of porn to masturbate to. It's not a "classic female attitude" to make sure my man is ok, unless you guys wouldn't be able to relate to that smh

    • So he has a porn addiction, and that makes you feel your not good enough for him. That's stupid. Smh.

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  • Some dudes just have insane sexual tension. Me n my girlfriend hook up, depending on r schedules at least 3 times a week n usually 4 r 5. I'm bi n hook up with my best friend a couple times a week n i still beat off at least 3 times a day. So dont feel hurt or get pissed. Some of us are just super horny.

  • So up until the part with having sex 5 to 7 times I week I would've said "He's just a horny boy" but yeah it's kinda strange that he needs that with so much sex every week..

  • No. Saves me the trouble of trying to please him so much. It's not trouble but as a women I sometimes have no interest in sex and he is always ready. I hate telling him no but he's so grumpy if he doesn't have something. I'm the same way if I have sexual tension so I try to compromise. Sometimes I'll lick his balls or help him out a little so I can be part of it. Might try getting involved if you feel left out, I don't think he'd complain ;)

  • Happens at this age. I dont mind him masturbating, and I do as well. I dont mind him watching porns either

  • Well I'm not a girl, but I do sometimes. The masturbating isn't the problem for me, because I jerk it 1-4 times a day, what frustrates me is when he masturbates the days before and after I see him, but doesn't have sex with me.
    If it only happens once or twice no big deal, but if it's happening for weeks, that's when I get pissy.

    But in your situation if y'all are still having sex and he's just jerking it on the side id say it's all good hun

  • This problem is not going to go away on its own. He obviously doesn't thinks it's a problem, but it obviously is. You aren't overreacting. The guy has a problem. The foot fetish alone should be telling you something.

  • Its fine.
    We men are made like that.
    You are worried for no reason.
    I can understand why this means so much to women but men do that often.
    Just ignore.

  • Don't worry about it. My boyfriend use to do the same thing and one time I caught him lol. But they do it all the time, I would be more worried if he didn't have sex with me at all and just masturbating the whole time.

  • He's just got a high sex drive i get turned on seeing my man jack him self, every guy does it least he's not fucking around

  • I'll copy and paste the same response I give on all questions about porn/masturbation:

    Yeah, it's completely normal and fine. It doesn't mean he wants you any less, it doesn't mean he doesn't find you attractive, it doesn't mean the sex is bad. We watch porn because sometimes we want to indulge in fake, erotic fantasy. We know it doesn't represent reality, and that's one of the biggest draws. Plus, sometimes it's nice to just spend some time masturbating

  • U r too controlling. Masturbating occurs even if u are sexually satisfied by a partner. Why do u feel insecure at all? The porn watching is eh eh for me. Porn sex is soulless.

  • In most couples both masturbate at moments.
    It's a way to adjust sex drives because both will not be thinking about sex at the same moments.

  • From what you have provided you are obviously not so horny as he is.
    Is it damaging your sex life?
    Would he rather masturbate to porn rather than to have sex with you?
    Unless that's the case: stop bitching and get some more confidence.

    Welcome to the world of men - horny 24/7!

  • I don't think you have anything to worry about. he probably just watches because he wants to learn how to be better in bed with you and discover new fetishes. and when he watches to learn how to better please you he gets turned on, can't be helped.

  • Time to have a talk with him.

  • Totally normal for young guys. You're way over analyzing this

  • You're taking it too personal. Just cause he masturbates doesn't mean you're not good enough or whatever. Some people just have the habit of fapping 24/7. You shouldn't expect someone to have sex with you whenever they're horny unless you're fine with doing it daily, which would get tiring at one point and make the relationship also lack excitement

  • you should not

  • Yeah

  • Who is this bitch right hand you cheating on me with?

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