Why is my boyfriend uncomfortable talking about porn?

Porn & hentai has been brought up before with my boyfriend but the conversations have never really gone anywhere. Two instances I was asking him about it based off of curiosity and he pulled up porn/or hentai and like sexually teased me about it. I searched something up on his phone recently & went back to search history to find the article & saw a shit ton of porn & hentai. I felt weird about it at first but realized he's just using it as an outlet, that it's nothing personal. So when I brought it up & explained I'm not jealous and I'm not judging him & that if he wants to watch it together or do it on his own or sext I'm open for anything. But he just kept saying that it's weird and he doesn't know what to say and that he felt uncomfortable cuz he hasn't talked to anyone about it before. Eventually he said he'd want to watch it alone for "me time" but he might want to sext. Additionally I asked if he was into anything else or wanted to try anything else but he said no he's pretty plain. I honestly wasn't expecting the conversation to go like that, I'm really supportive of my boyfriend & we tell each other everything & the conversation made me feel like I didn't something wrong even though he said it was good but he just didn't know what to say. I think I just feel weird cuz I try and participate a lot in bed & like mix it up and dress up once in a while and make sure he feels loved and taken care of. But he doesn't like having sex as frequent as I do. For the most part I just feel denied a lot & it seems we only do it when he wants to do now I feel like I'm getting jealous about the porn & hentai situation.
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Most Helpful Guys

  • females mature faster than males and most males still see porn as dirty or funny and can not have a conversation with a female about it.

  • Damn shame... No cartoon can replace the real deal. And just curious my name is Zayah so is that username pronounced the same?

    • Yea it's technically pronounced Zayah, I picked this username because of the new league of legends champion

    • I was born Zayahmon Greyson unfortunately lol

Most Helpful Girl

  • Because he thinks you might not react well to it and he might also be afraid of being judged.

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  • Maybe you could get him to play with you even if he doesn't want to to cum himself :) maybe get some toys and have fun this way

  • Sounds like Rakan needs to be a little more attentive. lol Watching porn and masturbating is something that most people are accustomed to hiding or doing alone. I still jump and hide what I'm looking at when my girlfriend comes in the room out of reflex, but if it's a planned thing to watch porn together I'm fine with it. Unfortunately we don't seem to be into the same kind of porn, so that's not really a thing. lol Maybe you should masturbate more? But I think if you tell Rakan that it's something that you really want to do together and make it about you wanting it rather than doing it for him, he's more likely to do it. Also, he may be too nervous to do much good for you the first couple times, but try to make him feel like he satisfied you either way. Not sure if this helps. Glad to see another League fan.

  • sounds like he has every mans fantasy for a girlfriend lucky bastard