I want to be beaten up by my boyfriend. How do I tell him?

Ok, I'm nuts blah blah.. save me the speech.

Now, this guy im seeing.. He is so hot but not a sadist like I want him to be. I'm a masochist and he doesn't know that and he doesn't expect that from me, since I am petite, he is always gentle with me.

How do i tell him that i want him to beat me up, tie me up, cut me, slap and spank me? (Not necessarily during sex). I don't mean like using all his force of course... because I would die.. I mean just enough to give me some sort of pain.

I have been like this forever but I am too scared to tell any guy this, is there any way I could even tell without freaking them out?

Would a guy who isn't into Bdsm be willing to try it?
I would do it (willingly/unwillingly) and stay in the relationship.
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I would not do it but still stay with her.
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I would leave her because of this.
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  • Cut you?
    Hell no!
    That creates a permanent injury that detracts from your beauty as a woman. It is also potentially dangerous, if it is done by someone who does not know what they are doing.
    I have been into BDSM play for a long time. The first girl with whom I had sex introduced me to it, because she could not cum unless she could fantasise that she was being raped.
    In your case, I would recommend that you try some bondage, with mild torture.
    For example, nipple clamps, breast whipping, crotch whipping, perhaps some needles in your breasts (especially the nipples), then have him fuck you while you are tied in a position that makes you available to him in any way that he wants to take you. Tying your ankles to your wrists, with a spreader bar, works pretty well. My favourite is to strap the woman to a gynaecologist's couch. It is comfortable for her, everything is available and the couch can be adjusted to put her vagina at an ideal height for docking.
    If, after that, you decide that you enjoyed the experience, watch some BDSM porn (I am certain that you have already - lol) to get some ideas, or go to the Hellfire Club website and get to know some people in your area.

  • "He is so hot but not a sadist like I want him to be"

    Chances are very high that this guy is NOT going to be what you're looking for - and you can't change other people, or make someone into a sadist - so if he doesn't take to it naturally on his own (with a little encouragement), then you need to accept that he's not one and never will be.

    That's the thing with traits like this: if you want a dominant guy, or a sadistic guy, you must FIND ONE who is already that way. What will NOT work is to find a regular guy (who is hot and attractive) and try to MAKE him into something he isn't. That's just a path to frustration and disappointment.

    I didn't vote because none of the answers really applied to the question.

Most Helpful Girls

  • You want him to cut you?

    I'm kind of in the same situation, I'm not into some of the things you are, but I don't mind certain pain for sexual pleasure such as nipple clamping and sorts, but my boyfriend thinks that kind of stuff is weird.

    If he truly loves you though, that stuff shouldn't phase him to the point where he wants to leave you. Try to meet in the middle. Maybe he could do somethings that he doesn't feel would hurt you too badly. Males are typically opposed to hurting the woman that they love.

  • That sounds intense but each to their own I guess! Maybe ease him into it? You don't have to go all in and tell him all of that immediately, maybe just when you're in the moment you could tell him one of those things, maybe one of the less intense ones and then you can gradually build it up?

  • Cutting is going too far for me, anything where blood is drawn is too much. But other than that I'm the same as you could you suggest small things like blindfold/ tieing up then if he likes/doesn't mind that slowly increase it like I have a fantasy blah blah blah

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  • Well, that's certainly a fix. I'd say it depends from person to person. Some might say that you're insane, while others will share your insanity. And then there's the third group which will help you achieve your dreams but won't really enjoy it themselves all that much.
    So, you boyfriend can fall into either of these three categories.
    My advice: try to go slow and inculcate him into it. Introduce a few kinky things into the bedroom. Take baby steps. One thing at a time. Slowly, and slowly you can get more and more intense. Hopefully, that way he would be accustomed to it and won't get any shock at your demands.
    If at any point he starts withdrawing, I'd recommend that you assure him that it is what you actually want and it is fun for you that way.

  • No, this is perfectly normal. Buy him a Louisville Slugger.
    He'll connect the dots.

  • I usually try to be open to new things especially if girl is really into it but I don't think I could do this. Spanking and tying up ok but beating and cutting no.

  • Oh you sounds fun. Slap him across the face as hard as you can. No smiling or laughing. This shit isn't playful. Fucking slap him in the face so hard that he feels the impact to the extent of getting lightheaded. Punch him in the fucking face after that. If he responds by asking you wtf.. then he is a pussy and will never fulfill your sexual needs. If he has a set of balls on him, then he'll know to respond with action instead of words. He will put you in your place and make you pay.

    If you ask him then you're asking him to roleplay. In other words, you're asking him to play a role that is not natural to him. If you want that mind blowing sex it's got to be raw emotion. Raw anger. It has to be genuine. Playing roles is for people that have vanilla sex lives. Fuck that shit. If he can't put you in your place, then put him in his place till he does. Thank me later.

    • @Bleepasaurus_RexEwww Lmao I talk about sex like this all the time on gag.

    • Ewww lol sounds like you murder the girls... or guys

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  • You are cray cray.

  • Just tell him that you're into bdsm

  • Try this, there are BDSM checklists online that show each other only compatible fetishes you each take the quiz and then it just shows compatibility at the end. Maybe something like that would be a place to start.

  • Fight in the arena put on some protective gear and go at it.

    you can get beaten but do it safety I love the idea of sparring with my gal.

  • too much pron hun lol

    • To much 50 Shades of Grey lol

  • Do you also like gang rape?

  • No you don't what you want is to be roughened up but you don't actually want to take a beating.

  • There's something wrong with your head m8

  • Wtf is wrong with you

  • An old man told me once that women like to get beaten and slapped by their husbands and i didn't believe him... but now by reading your question i damn believe him😐. the old man had a lot of experiences in his life.😶

  • I'm not into that sort of thing, but I've been with a few women who were. I don't mind smacking a bitch a little bit or tying her up. but I would draw the line at cutting. her.

    Have you thought about getting the 50 Shades on Netflix and ask him to watch it with you? While it's on you could say "that looks like fun, I want to try that"

  • great way to get injuries and press charges in the police
    evil women -_-

    • This ^

  • Pass. Sounds like a domestic violence call in the making.

    • Yup then she calls the cops and says Officer my boyfriend struck me several times with his fist boyfriend But she told me too get on the ground.

  • wtf is wrong with you

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