Guys, are imperfections a turn off for you?

[Anonymous]

This is something that has bothered me for a long time and I've always been nervous to talk about it. I have a lot of imperfections and I'm ashamed and embarrassed about them. I have brown skin and stretch marks all over my body, hyperpigmentation between my thighs, my private area is a little darker than the rest of my body, cellulite, my boobs aren't perky, I have a lot of scars on my legs and arms, plus I have strawberry lower legs. It's to the point where I'd rather stay a virgin because my body is nasty and the thought of showing a guy my body makes me nauseous. I've seen guys claim they don't care, but I know they prefer girls with amazing skin, great bodies, etc. How much of a turn off are imperfections and flaws for you?

[OPBinYYC]

Ok, usually I am a smartass and brutally honest. This is the ONE time I will make an exception as I am trying to help.

1) Never stop pursuing your needs/desires and dreams regardless of the world's perception of how you should be
2) Be your own judge and jury of your self respect and confidence
3) Whoever is attracted to you and especially because of your so called imperfections sees YOU and that is better than them wanting you for superficial reasons
4) An example of people loving someone for them and not their looks is SEAL he is a singer from Africa, look it up, and his confidence is what won over his wife (famous model - Christie Brinkly I think)

Finally, life is too short to hide yourself true self, so always be proud of who you are, what people think is none of your business, what you think about yourself is what matters.

Namaste and may the wind be at your back.

Doesn't even matter. Like my comment, don't like it, I don't care, just here to help, I've gone MGTOW.

[Asker]

I appreciate you helping but you being brutally honest would be great too.

[OPBinYYC]

That is brutally honest, in a way that I usually don't go that deep as most people are superficial and I don't believe they are worth my introspection and intelligence to respond in a forthright concise manner. You got that, everything I said is like pure liquid gold. Whether you will grasp that may take time or never, that is the burden or blessing you will have to discover. Best wishes.

[ZombieHunter]

If I fell for you, then I would accept you just as you are... a big heart and very sensitive. Wait dkr the one who wants to touch tour heart, AND NOT what covers it STOP TELLING PEOPLE YOU'RE A VIRGIN. GUYS WILL TAKE ADVANTAGE OF YOU!

[JacobAS]

For me they are a bit of a turn off ngl but what is in my opinion more ugly is the fact you concentrate on them and care so much about others opinion. I know it's hard but my advice would be to not give a fuck. And that doesn't mean become cold and emotionless but just know you have worth and if someone doesn't appreciate you then fuck em but you are your own worst enemy and the harshest judge. Sorry for writing so much but hope I helped in some way.

[Anonymous]

Listen to @Bleh-___- She is so right. A guys love for you will make these imperfections disappear.

[Bleh-___-]

If imperfections turned off guys the human race would not exist by now

[Midget_Hug]

Lies. It's a question of tolerance and desperation.

[juicyjessie]

@Midget_Hug That is maybe why you are single. Real men see through imperfections.

[Midget_Hug]

Ha! Ha ha! She said "real men see through imperfections!" You're serious? No one is that naive as to believe that?

[Midget_Hug]

@juicyjessie There is a multibillion dollar industry that is GROWING based on hiding human imperfections. 😄

[Bleh-___-]

Lol real men are usually oblivious to imperfections. Up until the age of social media men were like "thigh gap? what's that? Stretch marks? Huh? What are split ends?"

[juicyjessie]

@Midget_Hug I guess you have been here a while. So you should know that two GAGers have been together over two years. His love and admiration for her beats anything.

[Midget_Hug]

@juicyjessie And? So their attraction isn't based on imagining that their partner is perfect. It is the tolerance for said imperfections. They'll call one another perfect of course.

[juicyjessie]

@Midget_Hug That's is what this question is all about! I am glad you now agree with me! All people see through their partner's imperfections. It IS tolerance, as you so rightly say!

[Midget_Hug]

13h ago I said if was tolerance and desperation. You're actually agreeing with me. It is tolerance and desperation by which desperation can be categorized as a lack of other options.

[juicyjessie]

@Midget_Hug I do not agree with desperation. My brother certainly is not desperate. A tall, reasonably good looking, very fit guy of 19 could have the pick of the bunch. He chooses love over imperfections. Someone he wants to be with for the rest of his life. That is NOT desperation.

[Midget_Hug]

@juicyjessie You've no idea how shallow your analysis of his situation is. Looking good is empty. For all I know your brother is socially awkward and actually reclusive. A person's choices are always based on desperation and ultimately ease.

[juicyjessie]

@Midget_Hug No. Some people relish a challenge. We are an extrovert family, and it is well known that we have a relatively outgoing lifestyle. Like I have found recently when I met my boyfriend, he found a girl that has similar ideas and thoughts. Someone that is compatible with his personality. Someone with the same zany sense of humour. This is far from desperation, as like me, he never intended to look for a girlfriend until he has finished at uni. The right girl just came along, even though the timing was a bit premature.

[Midget_Hug]

@juicyjessie So then it's even worse and was just random chance? Not even deliberate? He's a terrible example then as he didn't "choose" anything.

[juicyjessie]

@Midget_Hug I am not discussing this with you any further. You seem to have no concept of falling in love and what it means, or how it happens.

[MybutterhasFly]

"your imperfection is what makes you perfect" said my crush ;)

[el_kinky_weirdo]

imperfections make us unique and juicy. Barbie got always dumped in Nature😂😁😀

[orangeinme]

why not flip this question around, and let the potential partner decide what is a 'flaw' or not, some people don't like wide mouths, I do. I love wide hips and big booty, again not everyone. I've never had a partner with defined abs.. had a girlfriend with the cutest butt chin. Eye of the beholder. Just let someone choose you, and accept their ability to decide what they like.

[Caaarl]

There's a difference with things that are widely accepted as flaws like herpes or asymmetric body parts. There's not a lot of people who would be sexually attracted because of those flaws. It's different when it's like big or small butts that's just a preference. Usually partners are more forgiving than not though unless they're just an assholes.

[Caaarl]

I don't know it just depends on the guy. Most imperfections don't matter but when they do it's hard to get over them. It's a lot easier when it's to accept someone who you are involved with. I wouldn't expect to have casual partners loving it though.

[qdoek]

Everybody has imperfections. If someone truly likes or loves you, he will never care about your stretch marks or whatsoever.

[Flyhigh21]

I love perfect imperfections.

[NorCalBoy]

Honestly YES. Depends what the imperfection is. I mainly like girls with jacked up teeth. I'd have to see your body to say.

[OlderGuy965]

Not a problem for me. But I'm 51, and I've had some pretty big women. But they tend to be more fun to be honest. If you lived near me, I'd love to meet you. Some guys are very picky. But they don't get laid as much because of it.

[TheUglyMonk]

Honestly yes guys like amazing skins but not to the extent that you think, if a you have an amazing skin that's a bonus if you don't well we weren't expecting it anyway, beauty fades what really matters is the person underneath all that.
As I always say beauty only attracts it's rarely the deciding factor in a relationship, plus most guys are too busy thinking about sex to give much notice to your skin.

[Justinaveragedude]

Wow, you just really want to be mean to yourself. There is nothing wrong with you that isn't in your mind. No one is perfect and you are worried about your appearance, so are most people. And we are all flawed.

The irony is you look in a mirror, see your flaws and think "oh i'm disgusting and hideous, no one will ever love me" an 800 pound guy with more issues then you will look in that same mirror and go "oh yeah, I could have been a stripper, get all the ladies nice and wet."

There is nothing wrong with you but your perception of yourself.

[ZombieHunter]

Depends

[blondfrog]

Only somtimes.

[Nickoli42]

My last girl wasn't a goddess, but when you care about someone deeply we tend not to care too much. as long as you take care of yourself and keep yourself clean I think you'll be fine.

[hotshot72]

I would worry about your body. smile and rub a guy they right way and we turn to butter. that's why I try to stay at least ten foot from any woman (hate being a mindless slave)

[Arya_Christ]

it is the imperfections we like. if everyone was same it will be boring as hell.

[Arya_Christ]

so whoever said that you look ugly is brutally honest. great perspective girl👌

[Midget_Hug]

Probably

[Asker]

Thanks for being honest.

[Midget_Hug]

No problem.

[TotallyAlmost]

I love slightly crooked teeth and pigeon toes.

[almadafie]

You should work towards changing and living a more desired life for yourself, I fight a skin condition daily, as long as I keep doing it, everything stays okay, though it took me a lot of years to figure out what works for me

[chuy10]

I would take your virginity any way

[bigs72]

be proud of who you are dont worry what other people think you say imperfections but who is perfect in this world? nobody

[killjoyheaven]

not at all❤