We haven't had sex yet though we agreed to be friends with benefits. So Does my friends with benefits have feelings for me?

[Anonymous]

My friends with benefits and I have known each other since high school especially since we were classmates. Though we rarely talked or hanged out in high school. We started talking after high school. We decided to be friends with benefits just recently (about a week ago) since we got out of something serious awhile back. Anyways we have hung out three times for about a week. My friends with benefits says he wants us to get to know each other better and feel more comfortable with each other before we have sex. He says he doesn't want to rush into anything and he says I make him nervous about it. He has more partners than me though by the way. He always asks for a hug even if its more than once in one day. He always holds my hand or takes my hand to kiss it whenever I'm driving. We've kissed but it was gentle and short. He always tells me I'm a kind and awesome friend. He also told me I'm a good girl and that I shouldn't ever change for anyone. He always keeps talking about why I seemed so quiet and shy in high school but also really smart too. He still remembers how punk rock I seemed in high school and how I always wore my messenger bag. I actually forgot about my punk rock messenger bag, I can't believe he still remembered that. I told him I changed after high school especially in college I became more open. He still thinks I look so innocent even though I told I already lost my virginity to my ex, but he just kept mentioning how conserative I seem and he respects that. So I'm just wondering does friends with benefits have feelings for me?

[peanutbutterandjell]

I think he does. From what you've said it sounds like he doesn't see you as a friend, but as a little more. Maybe give him a chance or sit down and speak with him about it. Understand that feelings like that can't always be helped and be willing to compromise, especially if you still want to be friends with benefits. Cheers!

[Asker]

You really think so too? That's true I need to talk to him about it cuz when we agreed to be friends with benefits we both said we're not looking for anything serious. He told me he doesn't want to lead me on. Though I'm not sure if he's just being nice or if he actually does have feelings for me. I don't want to make a fool of myself if I were to talk to him about it if he doesn't have feelings for me. That's just awkward on my part to assume things. Thanks!

[Muz123]

lol, doesn't sound like a friend with benefits.

1 no benefit has yet been acquired.

2 everything he's said implies he like s You, wants to take it slow and eventually make you his wife. hahaha

friends with benefits and this approach is a complete clash.

[Asker]

Right? lol. lol I don't know about him trying to make me his wife though. He even asked me last week if I told anyone about us but I told him "No why would I? That's awkward." He just goes "Oh ok.. thats good, you know in case if your friends ask you and you then you tell them if you've been talking to this guy..." We have some mutual friends / classmates from high school. Though I was surprised he even mentioned that out of nowhere. I'm debating if I want to still carry on with this friends with benefits even though there's nothing really that makes it friends with benefits lol or just date. It makes me want to reconsider the whole friends with benefits thing between us.

[Muz123]

just be sure of what you want and act accordingly.

[Anonymous]

No, I don't think so.

[AaronTupaz]

Kinda seems like it

[Asker]

Oh okay thanks

[JhonnyMA]

It seems like he's in love with you... and us being considerate with your feelings... ownnntt this is so cute...

[Asker]

Aww you really think so? Thanks

[JhonnyMA]

Take care...

[SILENTWOLF22]

uff. very big question it's seems like am reading my school exam paper. lol. be with man who njoy ur madness not those idiots who tell u that behave like a gentle. lol.

[upskirtfetish]

friends with benefits, is for LOSERS.. it's a relationship, without a label

[Asker]

Hmm yeah I guess it is a relationship without labels

[aivan]

well u should give him serious consideration

[Asker]

So do you think he likes me as more than a FWB? Well technicially we still haven't had sex yet so I guess we're still just friends.

[aivan]

are u kidding the man getting a chance to fuck but want to know u frst where do u get people like that unless its an evil mastermind plot i say u should think of him as more than a frnd but it is also possible he is nervous or just being polite

[Asker]

I'm just making sure. I dont want to assume he does have feelings if its not the case. I do think of him as more than a friend but I'm scared to say something if he's just nervous or being polite. Which is weird because most people in high school thought he was some kind of player or he enjoys to have sex a lot. I feel bad that I misjudged him.