Should I give him a blowjob? How can I give a blowjob?

[Anonymous]

So we are not boyfriend & girlfriend yet, but we have known each other for 8 months, work in same place, went out before, madeout many times @my house & in his car, flirt, text, gives me rides home.
we have long talks all day & are open.
we have dreamt about one another before in sexual ways. He told me once but not wut I was doing but i think it's a bj.
we were sending flirty emojis all day of things we want to do to each other, like bjs & riding him.
But I have many fantasies
Not anything crazy but me wearing a nice dress & him in a tuxedo & we just push each other against the wall in this hotel room & makeout & so forth. But we have already had those makeouts where I have touched his private part he kisses my boobs & sucks my nipples & dry hump, handjob..
We talk of anythingor personal things, he gives we have gotten mad at each other twice on something small but we talked it out & stuff. We have madeout like four times now. He's been to my house. Seen my pets. Lol. But I don't feel weird or anything with his kisses. They feel nice & good. Everything feels fine & normal. I feel safe & he feels warm. He have normal kisses, tounge kisses, pecks, long short kisses, hard or soft, even a wet kiss once. But his kisses aren't bad & i think neither are mine.
I feel at peace & everything feels right. In text we Send a lot of tounge emojis to each other but tounge kissing doesn't feel gross we both like it a lot lol.
should I do the bj? I feel comfortable to do it, I wonder why guys want that so bad.
I just feel weird since my parents see my as an innocent sweet girl & they tell me anything sexual is for adults to do, & I'm still a little girl. lol but I'm 19 he's 23, we already made plans to do it &makeout & have good romantic time in his car soon, we have been turning each other on in messages lately

[kaylaS91]

When it comes to giving a blowjob 'correctly' and him finding it super hot, enthusiasm trumps all. Whatever you're doing, looking like you're enjoying yourself will make it feel a million times better. So just look like you're really into it, ideally actually be into it, and you're halfway there! The mental aspect of knowing the girl has your dick in her mouth and is not only genuinely enjoying herself, but wants to do what she can to let you enjoy it, will make ANY guy feel like a king way more than any porn-star quality techniques.

Focus mostly on the head. The shaft itself doesn't have that many nerves on it so though paying attention to the area as a whole feels good plus builds anticipation, make sure to flick/lick around the head when you're coming up. It's a good way to maximize surface area being touched to just put the outer fourth in your mouth, swirl your tongue around it and the head, while paying attention to the shaft/balls with your hands. Two birds with one stone!

Most guys like some ball play. Start gently, with just barely making contact with your hands to feel out this particular guy's sensitivity to pain down there. Once you've got that taken care of, it feels good to suck on one ball at a time, though again not too hard as it's quite a delicate area. Most say to minimize hand use during a blowjob, as they can give themselves a handjob the best. But as long as you make sure to incorporate some mouth action, I'm sure you'll hear no complaints.

My guy loves it when I get the whole shaft nicely lubricated with some spit at first before paying attention to just the head & last 1/3 of the dick. Don't forget to include lots of tongue action here, like swirling, etc.. While you're doing that, right under your mouth, work the shaft with your hand. Moving up and down in tandem, or doing twisting motions works well. Another variation on that is to work the last 1/3 with you hand, doing a twisting/stroking motion with extra stimulation on the head with your palm when you move your hand outwards and at the same time, pay attention to his balls with your mouth.
(a myTake of mine on this very topic that's a bit more detailed: www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a24149-how-to-give-amazing-head )
:)

[alicia95]

detailed af

[Asker]

But should I give him the bj? Considering what I wrote & what we have done, he's not my boyfriend yet

[kaylaS91]

well.. I don't see why not assuming that you're definitely capable of understanding the risks involved with sexual activities of any sort. Legally, you're an adult and definitely past puberty so I'm not sure what you're going on about being a little girl?

[Asker]

I just don't want the excitement to go away , I don't know if I'm going to fast or not , he's special to me , my best friend

[kaylaS91]

why would the excitement go away?

[Asker]

I don't know like he will leave & get bored of me, but I trust him, it's just negative thoughts I get , if I give a bj I want him to later after a few months or however long for him to still want another bj n still be with me in my life , n still want to do sexual things with only me , if it makes sense

[Asker]

Like still be together with him, I'm going to start talking to how I feel & these things with him little by little this month cuz I feel now it's time do talk of relationship stuff. But he does listen to me so I'll see. But one thing I won't let him do is actual sex until we r in a long long serious term relationship.

[kaylaS91]

ok so.. if he DID leave because he got bored once he got this blowjob, wouldn't that be a good thing? Wouldn't you be glad he didn't stick around purely because he wanted to get his dick sucked, and nothing more? Or.. if you're actually into kind of baiting him and whatnot, well.. Sooner or later, you'll have to get down on your knees and suck him off then hope for the best. Continuing to live in this idealistic fantasy land you seem trapped in doesn't seem to be something you can remain in for too long.

[SnapTsch]

if you want to do it, go for it
just make sure that the sweet cute stuff that you guys have is not just till the point where yo have sex and the excitement goes down and one of you ends up hurt.

there are few things to keep in mind for a blowjob
more saliva
no teeth
good rhythm synchronized hand moments,
sensitive spots
eye contact (the best thing)
and some innovative techniques

[SnapTsch]

*movements

[Asker]

I never let him do the actual thing & will not do actual sex. Not until at least he's my boyfriend in a serious very long term relationship, I just worry if I do the bj the excitement will go away, so I'm stuck, last time he wanted me to do it but I didn't do it

[Asker]

It's been two months now we haven't kissed or done anything at all sexually

[SnapTsch]

two months thats a really long time to have lost the excitment so soon

[Asker]

We didn't lose it, during that time we talked everyday & Flirted A lot

[Asker]

We r very close & care of each other

[SnapTsch]

don't confuse, emotional intimacy with physical intimacy sweetie, and both are pretty independent from each other its just that usually they walk alongside

[Asker]

We have been wanting to kiss & stuff in between that time but I wanted to wait til I'm comfortable & at a good time

[SnapTsch]

makes sense then don't jump to the blow job directly meet a couple of time, catch up on the last acts of all the kissing and fondling , get comfortable with each other and then go for the bj

[Asker]

He's going to take me home , talk a lot, then we will do it in the car, nothing feels weird with him, he's my best friend , obviously we r more than friends now but we r close. I'm not the type to just makeout with anyone or let a guy do this.

[SnapTsch]

okay where are you planning to do it?

[Asker]

In five days in the morning

[SnapTsch]

*where? in the house?

[Asker]

No my parents would be home so in his car

[SnapTsch]

bad idea

[Asker]

Why?

[SnapTsch]

what if you get caught?

[Asker]

Wedont in the car

[SnapTsch]

its about the what ifs

[SnapTsch]

anyways if you do wanna know about what to actually do and techniques , etc let me know

[lightning32]

if you feel ready and you're comfortable then you should do what you want. just realize if he hasn't already asked you out this will likely stay a physical relationship without a future

[Murphy19]

ok you know I'm 13 so I don't know anything about this jk I go to school of course I do

[TheAidanFactor]

I'd say go for it. You sound really happy with him, and so does he. To me, sex makes you feel good and all, but its also an emotional bond, showing how you feel. But anyway, dont listen to me, I'm just 15

[Browneye57]

If you have to ask then you're not ready. Wait 'till you are.

[asker1998]

Hey if you feel comfortable doing it and you want to then go for it

[chuy10]

give it to him

[wubbadub]

Not in his car for a start 😂

[Asker]

Why not?

[wubbadub]

not the place to give his 1st bj from you trust me lol. imagine you got caught? parents woukd then know their daughter is nasty 😉 lkl

[Asker]

It's actually the best private place for us, we still live with parents & got caught once in my house, but in the car in a private parking lot , no one finds out ever lol

[wubbadub]

by the sounds of it you have made you're mind up to do it but make sure he knows how to give you something back i return 😉

[Asker]

Like what

[wubbadub]

will say in private lol

[joker6098]

hell yeah