Fuckbuddy sending mixed signals or me overthinking everything? A bit of a long one, but desperately need new perspective after 9 months?

[Anonymous]

I've had this fuckbuddy for about 9 months now, and he keeps confusing me about what he wants. I know this probably is the typical "one person gets in too deep" situation on my end, but if there might be a chance of him sending mixed signals rather than me overthinking everything then I want to be sure (without asking him and risking everything). He gets extremely jealous very easily, and it's not like I'm babbling on about other guys constantly, he asks me what I've been up to that weekend or that day or whatever, then I answer relatively vaguely if I've hung out with a guy (no matter what my relationship to that guy is), ex. "I was with a friend", then he starts asking follow up questions like "what gender?", "what were you doing?", and so on. Also, if I send him a snapchat and there happens to be a boy in the picture he instantly asks to hang out, and sure, this might be a power thing, like wanting to be the only one with me - though I won't be exclusive with a fuckbuddy. But it's that mixed with him sending good moring- and good night-snapchats almost everyday, and how he always cuddles me so much and kisses my forehead and nose etc, and he comes up behind me and kisses my neck and holds around me, he pulls me closer every time I move when we're in bed not having sex. He also continuously asks me if I think he should leave if he isn't spending the night (I always spend the night at his), but like "I should probably go now if I'm waking up early tomorrow, what do you think? Should I leave or is it best to just spend the night?" etc, and that continues for 20min usually. He has also told me many private things and talks about his family and friends, and asks about me and mine. We never talked about our relationship, so we haven't specifically said we're fuckbuddies, but we always have sex or at least cuddle and foreplay every time we hang out. SO am I overthinking everything or is there actually mixed signals?

[HollyK21]

I skimmed through this, so hopefully I'm not off mark, but honestly, I think your best option is to have a conversation with him about where you guys stand. Nothing is worse than assumptions and blurred lines. You're either fuckbuddies, or your not, there's potential or there isn't, and those are answers you absolutely need in order to know where to place your feelings with him. I know you don't want to mess anything up, but with this much of a messy dynamic, it could somehow get messed up anyway bc you guys weren't on the same page.

[Cuteguy135]

I agree with this comment. Couldn't have been better said.

[Girl7150]

He's for sure falling for you

Wish this was me lol

If I were you, I would tell him something like:
"I feel like you've started acting like more than a fuckbuddy, and it's not fair of you to do that anymore, if you don't want to be exclusive.."

[BullZEye]

After 9 months of fooling around without talking about what you are to each other, it may be time to have the "what are we" talk, which guys suck at initiating for the most part. It ultimately comes down to what you think, but from a third party, his behavior seems somewhat possessive, so it's important for you to decide before having the talk if this is a guy you want to be with. It does seem like he wants something more but may not know how or want to be the one to initiate it.

[AustinMan]

Hate to say it but if he's that insecure and jealous, he's potentially dangerous. He's also more trouble than he's worth it seems to me. I'm guessing finding another more satisfactory fuck buddy won't be all that hard.

[Ilikenormal]

He's falling for you