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Got questions about kinky sex and fetishes?

I'll be live on GirlsAskGuys 3 July at 3:00 pm CST to answer any and all questions about kinky sex and fetishes. So if you have ever wondered about a certain kink, wanted to know how to introduce kink into your relationship, worried about something your date wanted to do, or were just plain curious come ask me all about it.





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  • I'm writing a book where one of the girls is in high school, and is facing constant harassment from peers and teachers to have her boyfriend "14-point" her (mostly involves sticking it in every orifice.) Her legal guardians ignore her concerns about this pressure, simply electing to not do anything about it.

    In your understanding, how common is it for gals to - at least once in their lives - want it "stuck in every orifice"? (That includes getting poked in the eyes with his part.)

    Is it a common thing? Is it rare? Is it considered disturbing? When the protagonist gets in trouble later in the same book for something unrelated, and explains to her cellmate what went on at her high school, I want to know how to predict the reaction the girl will get. Whether it's: "That is so messed up!" or "Yeah, that happened to someone else I know."

    Just trying to get a gauge of the odds of either reaction. Did any man ever ask you if he could go for every single orifice? And how did you react? How common is this? (I don't get out much.)

    • it sounds like you were 14 pointed early on

    • "Writing a book" im both 😂 and 😒

  • The first time I saw my girlfriend kissing/making out (with my consent) with another girl, I got mixed feelings, we didn't plan for it, she didn't anticipate it, I saw that was gonna happen and said "go for it", I was super turned on and worried and kinda confused in the same time. Now I keep fantasizing my girlfriend in bed with another girl, just watching (not to be involved) turns the s*** out of me. I never figured it out on how to say that to her. P. S my girlfriend dates a girl for a YEAR, however, she still identifies herself as straight coz she says "I always knew that I wanna end up with a guy, that's how I see myself as partner in a long term relationship.

    • What's your question?

    • I see your question in there. How to talk to your girlfriend about this fantasy. It's a fine line between sharing a fantasy and being really pushy about it. I think sometime when you're just snuggling on the couch or in bed - not having sex, but just relaxed together you can say "Can I tell you something kind of sexy that I have had on my mind? I just really found it very exciting when you and so-and-so kissed that one time at John's party. (Or, whatever the circumstance was.) I think about it a lot and it just turns me on so much. I love thinking about it because you looked so happy and having a good time and it was just so hot. So sometimes I even think about what it would be like if I could watch you make love with another woman. The whole idea gets me so excited. It would be so beautiful. Can we use this fantasy to make our sex more fun? Even if we just talk about it as a fantasy, that would be really sexy for me. How do you feel about it?"

    • @MlleCake You are an expert and super genius! First, you knew my question with actually me asking it in a clear way, second, you gave me such a great answer for it! Thank you so much!!!

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  • Please archive this event! Due to timezones its happening at six in the morning for me and i need a sleep in tomorrow morning, im dying for some good beauty sleep.

    I want to know about rope play and being a "brat" submissive.
    Like how to get started with ropes, and what being a brat actually entails usually.

    I know Im submissive, i can switch but i dont often feel comfortable doing so. But i also tend to resist being topped a bit, not out of being unwilling, but so my submission is more earned? I guess? Like i won't struggle, but Ill talk back, deliberately misbehave and just give my man a hard time until he decides he's had enough.
    I've been told by those "in the know" that this makes me a brat. And i was wondering about your take on that.

    But also the ropes. I REALLY like ropes and I've not had the chance to try them and i really want to. Not suspension, just general bondage. Restriction of movement, that kind of thing. How would one get started and what sort of things would one need to know or consider?

  • I know that I am late for this live but I have a question in case you do another one:
    I am fifteen years old. A few months ago I had my first serious boyfriend. We were both virgins and I was at first too scared to have sex so we did multiple other things involving oral etc. I finally gave my virginity to him- but he didn't orgasm. It seemed no matter what I did couldn't turn him on. But he'd get annoyed with me because it would take forever to make him cum even a little. I researched many many tricks online, and when we broke up, so when I did things to somebody else, the new partner said I was the best he had. I don't believe this. I think I'm just bad at it. I've "helped" a few guys since my breakup but I'm too scared to let a guy pleasure me. How do I get over this- is it bad I haven't had sex in 6 months?

    • It's not bad or good. I would suggest that you see someone professional to help you change your negative feelings about your self and your ability to positive ones so that you don't take this into your future sexual relationships. Why would you believe the first partner (who says negative things) and not the second partner (who says positive ones)? This is something to work on now so you can build your confidence in all areas of your life.

    • Okay thanks. 😊

  • As a 30 year BDSM player (yes, I started in my teens) I feel very strongly that I want teens to "slow down" when it comes to getting into kinky sex. I think there are a lot who are influenced by porn and don't get how some of this stuff works and get into dangerous activities like breath play.

    I also think a lot of young people are coerced into activities they don't really like but lack the fortitude to say no.

    How do we counteract these influences while still being sex positive? I'm trying to refine my approach here and elsewhere.

    • You don't prevent children from the influences and you don't attempt to restrict them. Instead focus on teaching them the dangers and ways to practise there interests safely.

    • I agree with u 100% about what u said about breath play is dangerous but understand that some may like it and some don't it depends on what role he or she is and if there a safe word involve as well

    • @sawno Yes, but with porn so readily available, it is impossible to keep teens from encountering these influences. I'd rather teach them how to view things with skepticism now, how to evaluate the verasity of what they see and read on the internet. So the question is, how do we do that?

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  • My boyfriend encourages me to have sexual relations with other men. He loves to hear all about it as soon as possible. He's interested in watching it. Not participating if Im not into it but he wants to watch another man make me orgasm.
    It's one thing for me to tell him all about something but for him to actually see it? I don't know. Im worried he will be hurt by seeing me "cheat" on him even though he hasn't had an issue with it yet. How common is this and does this ever end well?

    • That's the first. It's really a weird fetish that has an underlying psychological thing at play. No man in the right mind would enjoy seeing their girl get fucked by other guys.

    • I don't know any guy that would want to see his girlfriend have sex with another man or hear about it... maybe he's just into the fantasy of storytelling...

    • that is not too odd... but don't think he could do if he truly loves you. unless he has some issues. I'd enjoy if he gives you the permission and happy to help... lol. should ask him if you are concerned about his feeling.

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  • Interesting. I might keep an eye on this just to see what you have to say. I hope you are willing to respond to community questions like you have said here and are willing to accept criticisms if people do not agree with some of your points.

    Thank you for taking the time to do this in advance anyway. If you are a professional about this it must have taken time out of your schedule. I think I can say on behalf of the community here we appreciate your time and efforts.

    • I am a professional and am taking time out of my schedule. I'm not likely to get into much of a debate though because there are so many people who want answers to things! I'll pick further comments up during the week that follows the live bit and try to respond to those too.

    • Fair enough, I think that's plenty acceptable since you must not have much time like you said : D I don't have any sort of questions myself, but I hope you can help people in the comments section who have actual concerns in that case. Kinks and sexuality must be a difficult thing for some people to open up about and I'm sure your responses will be extremely valuable to them.

  • how do I intruduce anal (for me) in my relationship?

  • Where can I watch the recording?
    I missed the live stream :(

  • Any advice on helping my new relationship feel comfortable opening up? I feel like there is something she wants but its like I have to guess all the time...

    • I think it is a matter of developing trust and open communication in all areas. You have to show her in your actions and words that it is really ok for her to express what she is thinking about. You can do this by never calling other women names like slut and whore. You can do this by truly and deeply valuing her opinions and you will naturally demonstrate that you are a good man. Then you need to invite her, lovingly. Not in a way that puts pressure. Just an invitation. Women are raised in such a way that we develop a few really problematic hang-ups, so remember, you're working against however many years of shaming messages from her family, friends, society, etc. Be gentle.

    • Thank you for you thoughtful answer. lol, It's not just her that has the hang ups though. I'm just being a typical inpatient guy that wants in a rush to be "amazing in bed." It's stupid, but it feels like my ego depends on it. But I know that could lead to some big mistakes...

    • Then yeah, part of creating that safe space for her may also be learning how to slow your roll a bit.

  • what do you think about pegging?

    • It's a thing that people do. What else do you really want to know about it? What's your real question?

    • do guys really come by just being pegged

  • The fetish question I would like to ask is: is it OK to have a fetish for big butts?

    • of course it is, especially if they are the kind of big butts i like

    • @8plusInches Yeah big butts are the best looking butts on women & I love when they jiggle. It would b even better if the big booty woman twerked right in front of my face.

  • I'm weried because I have a thing for girls bellybuttons. I'm eye level to them. I also have an outie and mine is very sensitive And ticklish. How can I bring my fetish into the bedroom. I guess having a little bit of bellybutton foreplay

  • Honestly, all anyone would want to know is how freaky you are. Aaaaaand that's about it.

  • Did you know the easiest way to find out if a woman's toe ring is too tight is to kiss that toe and then have her lover gently wiggle the ring with his teeth and have him slide the ring up and down the toe.

  • How do I orgasm faster when my boyfriend is eating me out? It always seems that he is eating me out for hours and he gets annoyed with how long i take and ends up just stopping.

    • 1 maybe 2 in the stink!

    • You just need someone with more experience. He's not good at it.

  • Wow. I didn't know that G@G was still doing this. Pretty cool.

    THANKS!! :)

    • is g@g paying for this?

    • @spnsfi how the fuck do I know? LOL

    • cause you seem to know shit about this stuff, I don't know lol you're an uber

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  • Can I text you in private because i have a question that brothers me

    • Yesa

  • how to make a girlfriend who tends more to be traditional in bed (open to new stuff but not that many things) be open-minded to new sexual experiences

    • You can't make her. But you can create an atmosphere of sexual openness where she feels truly valued for her desires, opinions, even her fears. Create a safe space where she knows she can trust you perfectly. Then, when you talk about stuff you want to try, ask her, don't tell her. Say "I find __________ really exciting. It makes me feel like ________ when I think about it. How does it make you feel?" NOT "Baby, deep-throating is so hot in porn. Why don't you ever do that for me? You need to be doing X, Y, Z unrealistic shit I saw in a video but don't know anything else about."

    • Thanks for the insights. I appreciate it.

  • sounds like fun! what type of kinky sex or fetishes do you like? and how would you go about finding a unicorn for a 3some or other couples that might like to play?

  • I've almost experienced some exotic sex instead of kinky sex...
    But It's fascinating to me,
    Have you ever experienced?
    What's your idea about it (good or bad)?
    and how can I ask my partners?

  • how does one find a free Domme

    • you can look in Google that how I found mine

    • tried that but to no avail could you search for me xxxx

    • fetlife. com, but remember, lifestyle dominants do not work for you and are not focused on just doing things to your body that you like. To serve a dominant you have to adjust your mindset to how you can serve that woman, not what she can do to you.

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  • What causes fetishes to develop? I mean your sexuality must have something to do with your memories right?

    • 28 minutes in and she still forgot to mention xD. I already checked G@G's facebook and her own websites, nothing there.

    • I think that trying to figure out why you like a certain fetish, is like tying to figure out why your favorite color, is your favorite color. Just my opinion.

    • What the hell? The site updated and my comment is on another opinion.

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  • But isn't kinkyness something that each couple discovers on their own, instead of asking about it?

    • Discovering it as a couple and asking questions to learn more are not mutually exclusive.

  • I struggle with the fact that people no longer seem to value sex as an intimacy expression these days, how do you have shallow meaningless sex?

    • this is something I'm struggling with as well. I love to give and receive that sexual energy, but most women I have meet don't know what I'm talking about.

    • I'm married so it doesn't matter to me personally but I just feel like I'm too judgmental of people who do casual sex because I just don't understand the concept.

    • I totally agree with you. I couldn't watch my woman with another man, I don't understand how some men actually want this.

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  • Doctor Lori Beth is a GD legend, all hail!!!

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