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Guys, how would you react if your girlfriend said she wanted you to control her in the relationship and make her your bitch?

My boyfriend and I have been officially together for about 8 months now, we dated a while before that. I feel like I know him well, I love him, and I want to give myself to him completely. I've encouraged him to be rougher during sex because I love that. He could still be rougher with me but I'm not comfortable telling my man what to do. I just try to play up my femininity and submissiveness and I can see him getting more and more into controlling me in that way - but I want more. This sounds fucked up but I want him to treat me like his little bitch outside of the bedroom too. I already give him the final say on many things but I want him to feel comfortable taking authority over me, telling me what to do, and talking down to me. I feel like thats my natural place as a submissive woman, but I dont know how to tell him that.

Guys, how would you respond to that request? And any suggestions on how I should ask him for this lifestyle?

I just dont know if he would go for it. he's a great guy and seems to favor equality in relationships more. I try to showcase my submissive nature by taking care of him - I will come cook and clean at his place without him asking, I'll do his laundry, I massage his back and feet, etc. He enjoys it but he also resists it. I dont think he's used to it and he doesn't want me to feel taken advantage of. He always says I dont have to do these things, but I want to! I'm into much kinkier/rougher things, but I don't know if he would be into it. I would love it if he would grab me by the hair and slap me hard if I don't follow orders or do a task correctly, I would love for him to tell me to be on my knees when he gets home. I tried to start that by teasing him via text when I'm at his place, saying I'll be on my knees when he gets home and waiting for him to fuck me. But I don't know if he's getting the hint as to how dominant I want him to be. I want him to feel like he owns me.

Do you think he could ever change in this way? Be more dominant and aggressive?

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Most Helpful Guys

  • Wow! I one where was when I was single lol. Personally it's goes against some of our nature. It does take time. As for disrespecting in public. I don't know if I can do that in large scale but only in small manners. I always respect my girlfriend way too much. As sex goes. Once I said things that turned her on that I didn't know and it excited me in different levels. It wasn't something I've done making my women a bitch during sex. But it was an experience that thought me few things. Change takes time. Some us guys was thought to respect. You just have to sit with him and tell him. Make it a game. Who knows what will happen and use code word if that's too much.

    • As for slap in face. I like that on dance floor lol but not the type of disrespectful to hurt or leaves bruises.

    • I don't know if I can do that but I'll tell you to eat your food as dog you are on the floor no using hands! But I'll put plate on floor too or dog dish that bleach clean! No real dog ever used lol. I don't know. I've never been with or know women like that. To each their own.

  • Just tell him that u want him to treat u like his personal cumdumpster for him to achieve all his sexual desires on. I only go as far as my girl can take cuz I'm usually too rough and go overboard so it's helpful for him to know if he needs to b rougher or softer

Most Helpful Girl

  • only if he's mutually interested. lighter note men love this it might be awhile but it's worth the wait.

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  • Don’t try to change him; talk to him.

    You have yourbwants and needs... just share them. Don’t tell him what to do, just talk to him.

    Remember, you’ve had these thoughts and feelings for a long time, it’s all new to him... it’ll take time.

  • I approve.

  • Not if you don't tell him. You owe it to him and yourself to be honest about what you want. You can't expect a guy to read minds and subtle hints isn't our thing. If you want this to be a long term investment then you have to actually take the steps to make it grow, and one of those is open communication. If he's as into you as you are into him, I'm sure he'd at least meet you most of the way.

  • Luckily I didn't have to tell him that... he knew!

    • Yes thats always the best girl!

    • Thanks for the MHO!

  • all you can do is tell him. make me your bitch
    explain what you want to try. he might get into it or he might not.

  • I'd do it because both me and my girlfriend are weirdos, don't think I could call her anything too bad or talk about leaving her or anything along those lines.

  • . with me as a dominant man that's just your natural course order

  • I think for many guys that would be awesome and most would even do it, even if they don't look like that "type of guy" some wouldn't be able to handle that tho, but for those I think they do lack a pair of you know what...

  • I would use her as my bitch!

  • I don't think so. I could never be this way

  • the reason he's thinking twice could be because he'd go to jail forever if you didn't like it. unless you specifically told him so.

  • Ill make you my little bitch

  • My boyfriend is my bitch and he likes it :P

    • lol well good then. too each her own :)

    • Yup ;)

  • I believe you're talking about a "taken in hand" relationship. Plenty of stuff to read about it. I don't know about the degrading stuff (most men are uncomfortable with demeaning their girl even if she's into it), but most men would jump at the opportunity to being dominant (in a positive way) in the relationship. It comes naturally to us.

  • Possibly. For many guys this is pretty edgy so even though they may have fantasies of dominance they are inhibited in real life. Perhaps you could find some stories describing the lifestyle you want and point him to them. You might check out http://writingsofleviticus.thekinkyserver.com and see if any of the stories there match your ideas.

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