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How to deal with catching a 12 year old watching me have sex?

So I was over at my boyfriends place. He has a little brother who's best friend has a huge crush on me. I'll call him Zack but that's not his real name. Im almost 18 and really short so I think he feels like I look his age. Anyway like i said he's really into me, but he's kind of shy about it. At first I thought it was kind of cute and harmless but then he started being mean to my boyfriend, and has gotten a bit more bold, for example one time at a pool party he pushed me in the pool as a joke, but I think he just wanted to touch me in a bikini. I caught him staring at me all day.

Anyway I went over to my boyfriend's because he said his parents weren't home and his little brother was left to play with his friend. We started fooling around and pretty soon we were having sex on his bed, and left the door to his bedroom open so we could hear if anyone came in.

Right as I climaxed, I lay back, and for a split second, I saw Zack staring in. I think he was watching us the whole time because I was in perfect view of the doorway for him to see everything.

I yelled at him, which got my boyfriend's attention, and of course Zack bolted. We were both still naked so we couldn't chase after him.

We later found out that while my boyfriend's brother did go out, that Zack had stayed-he wanted to finish a level in a video game, or at least that's his story. I assume he started hearing me moaning and came to check what it was, and liked what he saw. He told his mom that once he saw us he ran out, but I think he was watching us the whole time, and my boyfriend believes me, even though he didn't see Zack.

What should I do? Is this just an innocent crush that I should ignore or should I confront him?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • You need to put the fear of God in this kid, if only for his own sake. If he gets the idea that he can do things like this with minimal consequences, he's likely to stumble into thinking he can get away with something that will end up costing him dearly. Fear in lieu of conscience has saved me from many a potentially disastrous temptation. I'm glad his mom got involved, hopefully that will help reinforce that this is something you don't do. Also, he needs to get really clear that it's inappropriate for him to pursue girls out of his age range at this point, and totally off limits with someone who is in a relationship.

    • What do you suggest I do though? His family believes him, so he's not getting in any trouble for this other than my boyfriend telling his brother to give Zack shit for it

    • I think you need to get him alone, sit him down, look him in the eye, and tell him that you know what he did, that it violated your personal space and hurt you, that you don't trust him, and that this is not ok behavior. You can either go direct to his parents now if you think you have anything else to say to them, or let him know in no uncertain terms that any future crap from him will result in his being embarrassed in front of his family and friends, at the very least. I think it's actually very important that you get him to look you in the eye.

  • Hum, talk with him in a non-confrontational way?
    If he's early in his development then he might be having all sort of issues with the roller-coaster that is puberty.

Most Helpful Girl

  • Nothing. Act as if it never happened.

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  • have a talk to him explain your to old and that there's girls at his age that would like to be his friend or something like that

  • does Zack have a smartphone?

    • Yes, oh god do you think he filmed it?

    • thats the thing you should worry about first. just go talk to some elders who know him and can talk to him, maybe his parents if you can talk to them.

  • Where you both stupid enough to have sex with two teens in the house? And with the door open 9_______9, don´t get surprise, what happened was you and your boyfriend fault by one hand.

    • We were both certain the house was empty and we left the door open to make sure we could hear someone if they came in.

    • It still wasn't a wise decision. You and your boyfriend should talk to him, explain him that what he saw is a risk and responsability for grown ups and that he should enjoy his early teen days without sex at least something like to take off his mind a libertine fought about sex, also ask him if he recorded anything and the serious issues than can create if he did it.

  • I say leave it alone. there's really nothing more to be done about it. you can't take it back and there's nothing to explain.

  • just let it be..
    do not mention anything
    and please close and lock the door next time :)

  • Confront him it's not right for a 12 year old to watch you two have sex that kids a perv maybe talk to boyfriends parents about it

  • You just gave "Zach" something to "jack"off too
    No big deal

  • I don't know I wouldn't take it that seriously I mean he is only 12 he'll get over you eventually once he loses his virginity he'll probably forget about you altogether.

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