what your experiencing is self inadicacy and even jeolousy of the rubber apparatus. I'm perfectly comfortable with the idea (if I had a GF) having a dildo regardless of it's size, dildos never replace the real thing because there's a lack of physical bonding and chemical interaction and pheromones and on and on, she just had the need to get off when your not around.
I would much rather my spouse using a dildo then using another man. the dildo is actually saving your relationship. to make your relationship stronger go out and buy her another dildo same size even with a vibrator. it will show her you are secure with yourself and understand you can't always be there so your perfectly fine with her using a dildo. believe me she will love it and she will love you more.
Good points. But I don't feel jealou of it - that's weird
that's good that you don't feel jealous but as a man we all subconsciously feel inside feel inadicate when a spouse is discovered to have a dildo without telling us. even I feel inadicate I'm above average good size but we all know size is relative. trust me though regardless of the size of that dildo she loves you and is with you that dildo will never replace you. this may sound funny but that dildo is your friend... lol and your girls friend in time if need when your not present. seriously though and trust me when I say this go out and but your girl a dildo... the message you tell her by getting her one will do wonders to your relationship or at least show her you understand her needs and are secure about your self.
If it was my size I wouldn't care less. It's the fact it is so big it could be used as a weapon. Anaconda 🐍
I can totally understand how it could be hard to face that. But she's still with you, right? I mean, it's not like she's dumped you or anything.
Talk to her and ask her. Communication is very important here. If her she gives you her version of the story and you can't deal with it, then you're not for each other, and that's alright.
But keep in mind that it's a toy and not another guy with a bigger dick.
We feel the exact same way when our men look at naked women and porn. Especially when they look at women whose looks we could not possibly rival (huge breasts or whatever).
But this is not a reason not to trust your girlfriend. She has not lied to you and if she kept this from you it was probably because she did not know how you would react. And well, you overreacted a little.
Do you look at porn because she is not good enough for you? Probably not. Neither does he keep her sex toy because it has anything to do with your performance. Try not to worry about it so much. It's alright. :)
Okay but you cannot compare huge tits to a huge cock. Because a cock is used for direct stimulation - breasts are visual.
it's pretty normal; a lot of guys, especially young or inexperienced ones, see their women's toys as a sign that she's not satisfied with him.
toys are enhancements, not replacements, for your equipment. it doesn't mean that she's unsatisfied with you.
you mentioned in the comments something about "why doesn't she come to me for sexual pleasure?" and here's your answer:
we're all humans with needs. and, sometimes, it's nice to take care of those needs without worrying about somsone else's.
1. You're 7 inches and the dildo is 3 inches longer. You do know that part of that 10 inches is just used as a handle, right?
She might only be inserting 4-5 inches.
2. You said it's 8 inches in circumference. That's very thick, so she might just like to sometimes be really filled up.
3. You should used it on her. She'd probably really like that.
4. Why do you not trust her? I don't get the trust part.
Relax dude - dildos don't mean your dick ain't shit. It's more just for a different experience, it takes more than size to satisfy a woman. It's no different than you watching porn with girls that look like Kim K - sure your girl might not look like her but it doesn't mean you aren't into her, right?
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!Keep in mind that she has to hold onto part of it, so she probably is not inserting the entire thing. Also, just because she has a big dildo, that doesn't mean she's not satisfied by sex with you.
Talk to her about how you feel.
It's too embarrassing/shameful. Also she knows me to be a confident man - not insecure like this. Also it's one of those suction cup ones.
Everyone has insecurities. You're human. If you stay with her, then sooner or later, you're going to have an embarrassing conversation. Don't torment yourself. Talk to her.
You don't know how she uses it. Ask her. It probably doesn't get inserted if it's that big. Maybe she has a sense of humor.
Well do you watch porn with girls with huge tits, and do you feel like your girlfriend is inadequate afterwards?
What people enjoy for novelty is not always what they want or expect irl.
No! There is a very big difference between tits and dick. A dick is actually used for pleasure whereas tits are just there to look at when you have sex
True to some extent, but there's a limit when it comes to dick size equating to more pleasure. For example, a 9 inch dick is not better than a 7 inch dick for most women. At that point it basically is just for show/novelty.
I'm 7 inches. How is a 9 inch dick not better? Why would she have bought it?
Maybe she just bought it in times where you aren't around
Then She would have got one 7 inches like me. Not like 10 inches with 8 inches girth.
Maybe she likes being stretched? lol
Why don't you trust her?
unless she chooses it over you, you need to get over your insecurities.
So you feel your entire role in her life and your masculinity is threatened because of a sex toy? Maybe that's a sign you're not ready for a relationship.
It's normal for you to feel that way but that doesn't mean you are useless, she might just be greedy. We all know when we are doing great as a lover so if you know you're a good size do not worry about her greediness.
I'd be scared man. Anyone with an insane dildo I wouldn't trust 😂
Right! I was thinking the same thing
its normal to feel that way because you thought she was fully satisfied by you.. well talk to her about it
I guess its just you feeling nervous that she might enjoy a sex toy more than you but 99% of the time that wouldn't be the case
Man, I can totally understand that. I would definitely strike back subtly. I'd get yourself a top-notch artificial vagina. Keep that shit in your sock drawer and leave the box out somewhere it can be found, like next to the trash can.
But these feelings probably won't subside until you fully come to terms with how little your sexuality is regarded by women. Even then it's still a bitter pill.
it's a toy, that's all. it's not a replacement for you. you shouldn't feel shit. I'm not sure what trust has to do with anything? or why you'd want to compare your penis to a dildo
Why stress it, leave her be to enjoy her "me time". We all need those moments.
If you had an ounce of sense you would join in and enjoy it to. Leave your insecurities behind and see the improvement in your sex life.
honestly you need to get over yourself..
Oh dear. Classic girl answer - along the lines of 'man up'
Why ask the question if you don't want the answer?
Don't you see how this is a red flag ⛳️. It makes me think I can't pleasure her if she is using a 10 inch dildo.
Sounds like your got yoself a ho
Your logic is astounding. whore hôr/Submit nounderogatory 1. a prostitute. verb 1. (of a woman) work as a prostitute. "she spent her life whoring for dangerous men" synonyms: work as a prostitute, sell one's body, sell oneself, be on the streets "she spent her life whoring"
Okay?
Dude that would be a red flag to me.
Why didn't you bring it up with her?
And yes im sure you haven't talked to her about it.
You should talk to her about it.
Next time you have sex with her, take it out and use it on her...
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